Telling the difference

[Loverskitten]

Ask his wife, is she doesn't know - she soon will.

LOLZ!!!!!!

 

[intothewoods]

Come to think of it, what do you think a "Real Master" is, or does?

BDSM is sex. If you're contacting a Master as a sub-- you're contacting a man. For sex.

Yeah, it all depends on what you're looking for. Sex? A relationship? A diversion from real life? I think being very clear about what you're looking for will help you weed out the folks who don't fit.

 

[Stella_Omega]

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Love the handle, hate the spam.

 

[FurryFury]

My point is that if looks is the prime thing, I'm not interested.

If they can't respect my limits I'm not interested.

And if you don't have the imagination to put the face you want on the words typed, I'm not interested.

Actually at this time I'm not interested. LOL But when I was the above applied.

My main point is that people online do not have to provide pictures, chat or cam, ever if they don't want to.

Yes. People are attracted to whatever it is they are attracted to. That doesn't mean one has to be bullied into proving they are male or female or some other such nonsense. It also doesn't mean you can't let go of that and become attracted to their words or mind.

That doesn't mean you can't get to know someone before any BDSM-y shit goes down or a meet happens if in fact a meet is something both parties want.

When I was into this sort of thing I didn't care if they were male or female as long as we could have a meeting of words and minds.

Where does the word "only" come from? Not from me.

I say, 99% of the people won't have a relationship with someone they consider physically ugly. Plain and simple. This does not mean that the people will have a relationship with anyone as long as (s)he is good looking.



Yada, yada...

This won't change the fact that even YOU will be looking for the emotionally mature person in a person who you consider physically attractive. Everyone else will be emotionally immature...just by chance, of course.



That's true. They don't even have to chat or post on this website.

 

[FurryFury]

As always, well said!

I know it's not easy to be in an online relationship without sending pictures. But, because there are an awful lot of creeps out there who know just what to say to get your trust, sending pictures can be a scary thing. Especially if they constantly keep asking for one, I think that's a red flag. And for me, I guess I'm just funny that way, but I would really think twice before I'd send any kind of revealing photo to someone online. If you must send a revealing photo, make sure it's just of your body, nothing that shows your face and your body together. That way, if it does end up on the Internet or passed around to friends, it might be your body, but your face isn't there, too.

And if he constantly pressures you, and you still feel uneasy about sending a picture...if you never plan on meeting face to face, there are a lot of pictures already on the Internet that you can send, and say it's you. Just don't send one that's an obvious glam shot by a professional. Pick a shot where the pose is like you would pose, and stick with the "no face together with body" rule. Also, be sure and send something that resembles your own body, in case you ever want to send an actual pic of yourself.

It's sad that you have to think that way, because you want to trust someone you start a relationship with. But, you want to be very sure of someone before you trust them with a naked photo of yourself. Because of the number of creeps out there who are very good at schmoozing the unsuspecting submissive, you can never be sure of who you are talking to, when you only know them online. After a while, it's up to you if you feel you can trust them. But, always keep in mind that unless you know them in real life, that person can be anybody they want to be, because all you know of them is what they want you to know. And it's so easy to fool someone, especially when you prime them with lust and desire glued together with trust.

 

[FurryFury]

Great advice as well.

Nice to see you here too Evil_Geoff.

Uh, hello... if they do and say creepy things, or ask you to do things that make you feel like they are creepy, they are creepers.

If they do and say things that make you feel safe, comfortable, okay, happy, laugh etc, then enjoy the interaction.

You can't tell if they are "real" or not until you have spent time learning if they actually know their ass from a hole in the ground. But you can pretty quickly tell if they are a genuine human being and not just some horney net geek trying to get some cyber-nookie.