Tell me something real

[lark sparrow]

No fantasies, no theories, no advice, no made up situations or cities, no group dynamics or observations, no websites or books or pictures or articles, no past or online conversations, no past relationships...

One real thing, anything, about BDSM in your life right now or the recent past. I truly want to know and think the posts could be interesting and of value to all.

Please share.

 

[pierced_boy]

Thankyou Lark Sparrow

In my life my partner is growing in her repetoire of play techniques, trying new things off her own bat and generally growing in confidence. The benefits are obvious and the leftovers delicious.

Harry

 

[sluttygirl4u22]

I'm not sure if this is what you mean, but the thing that is BDSM related in my life right now is trying to decide what I need. i know i am submissive but not sure it will work with my personality and what i want out of my life. i don't want to be stuck in nilla relationships but yet i can't find what i need so i guess right now my heart is saying give it a chance you know you will love it, while my head is saying, are you crazy, what about all that you want, all you are working towards, ect. I am trying to find a balance between both parts of me and so far i just keep fighting myself.

 

[Hecate]

Very real and very nice!

I have the rest of this week and monday to work - then I am off for X-mas holiday to return by January 7th.

What has that to do with reality BDSM? I am going to spend that time with someone special ...

It means I am making a list of what to pack ... what to possibly take through customs on a plane and what to do with my lovely bits and pieces of leather, metal and more once I get them to the destination .

I am just afraid that by the time I have the toys selected to take there won't be much room left for any boots and cloths and stuff *winks* ... I guess he can cope though.

Anyway, I intend to have a full blown fun X-mas vacation and if I am even making more scarce appearances as I do already this is why! On the other hand *chuckles* I see a "Share your kinky X-mas adventures" thread coming up shortly.... that should be a good start for the new year, don't you think?

Or for the meantime we could have another: I am going on a x-mas trip, what toys do I pack in my suitcase? - thread *winks*

 

[lark sparrow]

It's entirely open to interpretation

mine...

the last r/l session had with Mistress was 2 months ago. I made an off-hand joking comment directed at Her while out with Her and a friend. She didn't appreciate it... I went back to my hotel with Her, knowing that I was to get a spanking. my world was entirely focused on Her and Her each movement as naked and spread, I anticipated whether it would be a pleasurable stroke, a harsh, stinging slap or simply air moving, across my pussy - got plenty of all of them, especially slaps - my body and mind were utterly focused on Her and reacting to Her movements and decisions - nothing else. my pussy was sore and aching long before we moved on to the ass spanking. I tried to play it as cool as possible, almost too cool, but I was wet. I went home with more bruises and soreness to pussy, ass, neck and breasts than I expected, and loved each one them, disappointed when they faded, along with the fading of mingled scents of Her and I on my clothes and person.

Unrelated to above - I am now reconsidering my emotional limits/boundaries - I'm not sure what that means for me as a submissive or for the future of my relationship right now.

 

[silken_kitten]

hmm well I'd have to go with the last experience. Just last night I had fallen asleep early. Master was off at work I had done everything... or thought I had. Though one thing slipped, something important. On nights where are schedules don't weld together I am to write in a journal about my day and feelings for him to read when he gets home. I had fallen to sleep without doing such. I should have made a little entry saying I was too tired to elaborate but well we all learn through experiences. Needless to say I was awoken at four am when Master deemed it was time for me to wake up and take my punishment. Master teased and tormented me with pleasure but did not allow me release. That was my punishment.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Unfortunately, there is no actual bdsm going on in my day to day life. Only fantasy.

Yesterday, I started jacking while viewing a picture of a girl tied to a bench, then carried it to the bedroom. I jacked so long and hard that today I have a sore on my unit.

I guess you could say that masturbating while thinking about making a certain person stand in front of the bathroom sink in only thick -soled fashion sandals and hoop earrings, face smushed to the glass was a type of bdsm practice. The fantasy DID happen, if only in the pixels of my head. Metaphysical, what?

 

[UCE]

I too feel like our fantasies and hopes as well as our past experiences make us who we are and are as much a part of our actual reality as current events. This thread is asking for "current events" only and only people who have recently had something relevant, interesting, or exciting occur to them recently or people who are having some ongoing issue at this very moment can legitimately respond.

There's nothing wrong with getting a "slice of current life" from people, I have no problem with that, Lark, and I think it'll yeild some interesting stories (already has, in fact!), but I don't think it's correct to claim that only something physical going on with a person at this very moment is "real." Reality had better be broader than that, or everything I've ever worked for or hoped for is in vain, lol.

Unda. Crucia. Eximius.

 

[lark sparrow]

There are lots of places for commentary and advice - the intent is one small space of physical, right here, right now on a personal level. Not every thread must be about opinion, but thanks for yet another one.

And thank you to all who have or will continue on the spirit of the thread.

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No fantasies, no theories, no advice, no made up situations or cities, no group dynamics or observations, no websites or books or pictures or articles, no past or online conversations, no past relationships...

One real thing, anything, about BDSM in your life right now or the recent past. I truly want to know and think the posts could be interesting and of value to all.

Please share.

 

[Freya]

I'm presently questioning some of the ideas that I've had, and others have voiced at times, on the effectiveness of online D/s - even in an "exploring it as a potential" concept.

I realize that jumping into it in rl can be dangerous if you haven't the knowledge base from which to work, but I've come to wonder if so-called Doms online are not just playing games most times. This is no different than men not involved in the lifestyle - some of them tend to play games as well, but I think I'd almost prefer not to explore this curiousity online, since it has the potential of greater mind games, and damage. I was hesitant for this reason, and I hate to admit that I was right, but it seems as if I must be.




Sorry, this might not be what you wanted.

 

[bunny bondage]

well, as i'm sure everybody's heard before, i'm in a new relationship and we're slowly progressing down the path of bdsm. neither one of us is at all inexperienced, but He still wants to take it slow. so the most we've done is pretty tame compared to some things i've done in the past. however, i am having lots of new experiences, and i've taken pictures of one of them. peek in the other thread

 

[lark sparrow]

Yes, it is, thank you, Freya. (and all others adding!)

Again, it is utterly open to personal "in my life, right now - and real" interpretation.

No opinions and commentary about the thread topic itself or the starter of the thread necessary. We have an abundance of fantasy and opinion on this board already - it's thriving quite nicely. This thread doesn't hurt too much or threaten or belittle anything else. At least it shouldn't.

 

[P. B. Walker]

There is only one thing real that I know... that is that I want to explore it in real life. I guess until that happens, nothing is real.

PBW "If I stand absolutely still, will my atoms stop?"

 

[Ebonyfire]

No fantasies, no theories, no advice, no made up situations or cities, no group dynamics or observations, no websites or books or pictures or articles, no past or online conversations, no past relationships...

One real thing, anything, about BDSM in your life right now or the recent past. I truly want to know and think the posts could be interesting and of value to all.

Please share.

Gee, lark, except when I am tongue in cheek, or having some yucks, all I talk about is reality. I hate to repeat myself.

Ebony

 

[lark sparrow]

Another...

Tonight I will go to bed with my crop and Japanese nipple clamps (assuming I have that right ) with or without Mistress on the phone, with some spontaneous fantasy erupting, but much for the physical sensation. I will probably tease myself mercilessly as well, because I like it.

But for an unpartnered Dominant is there going to be much of the physical aspect possible beyond masturbation and fantasy? Control and sadism seem particularly limited without a partner.

Masturbation and fantasies can be the "real" aspect of BDSM in someone's life easily. Decisions, dilemmas, wants, plans and hopes are real too, especially when they are personal and involve things one actually wants and truly strives for in their very own near and real future, rather than strictly fantasy, theory or commentary.

I wonder what comes to other people's minds when they first think about "real" BDSM in thier lives right now.

PS Eb - yes, I very much enjoy your posts, and was hoping for something new and off the cuff, spontaneous - but it's just a hope and curiousity - simply putting it out there. No offense to your posts, nor an attempt to make you repeat yourself.

 

[Ebonyfire]

PS Eb - yes, I very much enjoy your posts, and was hoping for something new and off the cuff, spontaneous - but it's just a hope and curiousity - simply putting it out there. No offense to your posts, nor an attempt to make you repeat yourself.

It is a whole different ballgame lark. No one likes to hear about us service-oriented Dommes.

"he came over and watched the dishes, and then knelt on the floor while I rested my feet on his back, and drank a glass of white zinfandel."

Male subs work around me. Not many sex games going on.

Eb

 

[tassie]

"watched the dishes"

did they do anything exciting?

sorry, couldnt resist...

 

[lark sparrow]

"he came over and watched the dishes, and then knelt on the floor while I rested my feet on his back, and drank a glass of white zinfandel."

That image works, is erotic, and says volumes. Thank you, Eb. Your service-oriented perspective can pull one back to some of the basics about who is serving whom and how.

(Was there silence? casual conversation? strict M/s roles? informal interaction? Sorry lol. )

 

[Ebonyfire]

"he came over and watched the dishes, and then knelt on the floor while I rested my feet on his back, and drank a glass of white zinfandel."

That image works, is erotic, and says volumes. Thank you, Eb. Your service-oriented perspective can pull one back to some of the basics about who is serving whom and how.

(Was there silence? casual conversation? strict M/s roles? informal interaction? Sorry lol. )

It is simple. The sub serves.

Eb

 

[justgem]

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[MissTaken]

Something real?

I miss sex.

I miss the sound of footsteps in my room while I lay there blindfolded.

I miss the touch of fingers on my skin, the scent of a man on my pillow in the morning, the sweet smell left in the aftermath of love making.

I miss the warm tingles of anticipation and the warmer tingling of a well done spanking.

I miss the sensation of soft, yet slightly abrasive nylon rope being slipped around my wrists and pulled taut.

Yep, I miss the wonder of exploration.

Then, I miss the giggles and sighs of two lovers in the exhaustion and peace of having shared something very intense, very special.


*Note: Just brief random thoughts on a cold winter's morning. I have made a concious decision to take a break from the "search" and take care of other odds and ends in my life. So, it has been a while ! *

 

[Grvdigger]

Smiling at My gem

As gem said, she was here just a bit ago. My real was watching a woman that I have come to know well discover her true self. I watched as she begin the journey into submission. I saw her eyes widen as she surprised her self, and her spirit become joyous as she pleased Me. I have watched this process before, but it is always fascinating to watch. Every night I continue to see her continue. she has finally found that which makes her happy.

 

[AvaAdore]

i told him he could masturbate as long as he didnt orgasm until friday, under the threat of being punished. he did orgasm...three times. he said "but Miss, i did it because you wanted me to. you want to whip me." at the next opportunity, he's getting 10 strokes for each orgasm...plus an extra 10 for being a wise-ass

 

[naaki]

I like the idea of and content of this thread a lot- let's not see it buried.

 

[Never]

lark sparrow:
"One real thing, anything, about BDSM in your life right now or the recent past."

There really is no BDSM in my life right now.