techniques with newbies ?

[livin1971]

You're welcome. Safety and communication are most important.

I agree as a man who wants to be a top/dom. I can use all the information that anyone wants to give me.

 

[livin1971]

Don't take yourself too seriously! Don't be afraid to laugh, giggle, and even poke fun at yourself sometimes. It may not be true for everyone, of course, but nothing puts me off faster than someone who's too up their own ass to have fun. Plus, a few giggles take the edge off nerves.

I like your train of thought I love to laugh and make people laugh.

 

[YourCaptor]

Keep hitting them until they get that blank expression and recede into themselves, then you can do anything to them.

 

[sweet_lusciousdesire]

I like to be slapped on my ass, then rubbed. It settles the initial sting.

 

[graceanne]

The first time I ever played with the top I mentioned above, I was laying down on my stomach with my clothes piled neatly about 2 feet from my head. Somehow...someway...about halfway through the scene, my bra attacked my head...like all of a sudden it was right there in my face, attempting to smother me. Both of us were giggling so hard we had tears in our eyes and it remains a fond memory and a great inside joke.

Oh, my gosh. I'd have DIED laughing.

I tend to laugh a lot, and sometimes at the weirdest times. Of course, often that's my own fault. Last week, K snuggled up to me suggestively and jokingly I said 'what do you want?' and he said 'i want you to lick me and suck me', so I licked his nose, then sucked on the tip. There was this very pregnant pause, then he wiped his nose of and said 'that's not quite what i had in mind'.

I laughed so hard we had to take a five minute break while I relearned to breathe (asthma attack).

 

[missgiter]

Oh, my gosh. I'd have DIED laughing.

I tend to laugh a lot, and sometimes at the weirdest times. Of course, often that's my own fault. Last week, K snuggled up to me suggestively and jokingly I said 'what do you want?' and he said 'i want you to lick me and suck me', so I licked his nose, then sucked on the tip. There was this very pregnant pause, then he wiped his nose of and said 'that's not quite what i had in mind'.

I laughed so hard we had to take a five minute break while I relearned to breathe (asthma attack).

Those moments are the best! I'm a bit of a sass myself and do things like that all the time just for cheek. Makes the best moments memorable!

 

[Stella_Omega]

I don't know if I would start joking around with some new people, though.
Not in the scene, anyway.

I know I wouldn't have liked it, personally-- very fragile ego, and I really nursed my dignity. Being happy was good-- being funny was a buzzkiller.

BDSM is pretty serious shit for some of us in those first couple years, especially when we've waited a long time for it...

 

[livin1971]

I don't know if I would start joking around with some new people, though.
Not in the scene, anyway.

I know I wouldn't have liked it, personally-- very fragile ego, and I really nursed my dignity. Being happy was good-- being funny was a buzzkiller.

BDSM is pretty serious shit for some of us in those first couple years, especially when we've waited a long time for it...

I agree with you as I am still waiting for the right girl. I want it all to be right, but will still laugh if something funny happens. Maybe we could take a break and start over where we left off. Is that a good way to deal with it?

 

[Stella_Omega]

I agree with you as I am still waiting for the right girl. I want it all to be right, but will still laugh if something funny happens. Maybe we could take a break and start over where we left off. Is that a good way to deal with it?

It depends on the partners, really. Some people might love to laugh some might not be ready for laughter. Your best bet is to ask her.

You know what, you say that your satisfaction comes from making her happy? Do a search in this forum for "Service top" and see if that term fits you. You will probably have to explain the concept to your date, but it could make a difference to how the girl approaches the whole experience.

 

[livin1971]

It depends on the partners, really. Some people might love to laugh some might not be ready for laughter. Your best bet is to ask her.

You know what, you say that your satisfaction comes from making her happy? Do a search in this forum for "Service top" and see if that term fits you. You will probably have to explain the concept to your date, but it could make a difference to how the girl approaches the whole experience.

Thank you I will you rock. hug