Techniques for tease play?

[tinwalker]

I'm afraid I'm rather new at all this, but I'm finding I rather enjoy it when I can build the lady up slowly and then holding short of her peak as long as I can manage. There is something very arousing about a woman on the verge of climax.

I've had some success, but it has been haphazard, and I'm afraid if I simply keep repeating what I've done before it will get predictable and boring.

What are the techniques you use (or for the ladies, enjoy having used on you) to bring a women to that edge, without pushing her over?

How does one sustain it?

Are there good ways for prepping the field, so to speak, before the act?

Are there questions I'm not asking that I should be?

Thank you,

Walker

 

[Cumference]

The easiest way is the classic way: Communicate! Either verbally or by body language.
The better you know her, the finer the signals you can read.

Then you tune the stimulation according to that.

For a start, it will probably be a bot to the primitive side, but as you get better, you can optimize your method.


Remember that you are dealing with a feedback loop, and you need to know some parameters.

 

[tinwalker]

So it is primarily a matter of tempo control?

It does seem to me that the guy is more rapidly responsive than the girl. Is this as much a matter of keeping oneself from over-topping as it is keeping the right pace to keep her building up?

 

[DesEsseintes]

It is usually, but by no means always, the case, that men are stimulated more quickly than women (I tend to be quite a slow builder, and I've known women who could climax virtually at the drop of a hat). Self-control, withdrawal, rebuilding, deep and slow breathing and remembering that one can go down the gears as well as up through them - and, as has already been wisely said, communicate every step of the way (just not necessarily through clumsy old language, though - eyes and hands can be so very eloquent!).

Good luck, and remember - sex is an art, not an endurance sport.

 

[Cumference]

Going back to the controller analogy.


Imagine you have a cup of water wit an immersion boiler in it
If the water starts to boil = orgasm. And then you'd better let it boil! If you stop once the orgasm has started, I think she is likely to hate you.


You add power to the heater, and what you are interested in, is not "how hot is the water", but how close are you to boiling. (the difference between set point at where you are now).
You do not want to "overshoot" the set point, so you ease off the stimulation according to how close you get.
Actually you want an over-dampened proportional control.
http://m.eet.com/media/1059161/cypfan6.gif
(In this case, let us read RPM as "rubs per minute")

But it would probably get boring.
If you imagine this graph instead, with 700 as point of orgasm.
http://www.camotruck.net/rollins//electronics/BLDC-PID.png
It would probably be more fun.

Your regulation of the heater would either be by lowering the apparent effect delivered with pulse with modulation (turning down/up the intensity) or by on/off switching (if you had a relay attached).

You are smarter than the average PID-controller, and that lets you adjust with bot intensity, other stimulations and breaks if need be.



You still have the classic problem: Reading your system reliably in order to provide the correct feed back to the loop.

And more importantly: Play with her. Have fun! And tell her what you are doing. You could risk, that she just got annoyed with you not getting her off, if she did not know.

 

[KlaytonFrost]

It depends very much on the woman. One thing I like to do is reduce stimulation as they get more aroused, to the point where they're begging for it. Draw it out for as long as you can...