Teach me how to Master Date

[AngelicAssassin]

Situational Comedy

How does it end?

The lawman twirls his pistols at the swinging doors, gets smacked in his ass by them by the newb farmer looking for sassparilla and lands face down with his nose stuck in a knothole.

As for how on the approach, it's always a circling dance followed by a walk along a slippery slope. If it were any easier, it wouldn't be worth it.

 

[Marquis]

The lawman twirls his pistols at the swinging doors, gets smacked in his ass by them by the newb farmer looking for sassparilla and lands face down with his nose stuck in a knothole.

As for how on the approach, it's always a circling dance followed by a walk along a slippery slope. If it were any easier, it wouldn't be worth it.

OK OK, just finish your soup and we'll talk about it when you wake up from your nap.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

OK OK, just finish your soup and we'll talk about it when you wake up from your nap.

i don't do soup unless it's French Onion and i get to use a fork. Love the new AV by the way. One of the best you've put up yet.

 

[Marquis]

i don't do soup unless it's French Onion and i get to use a fork. Love the new AV by the way. One of the best you've put up yet.

Thanks AA

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Thanks AA

Quite welcome.

 

[brioche]

Fucking poppups. Someone needs to reformat this computer (not mine, or it would be done)



HAHAHAHA

(Me too) *snifle*

In anycase, yes I tend to be.. if not shy, then careful.

I was once cornered by a teacher and a fellow student (while I was attending massage school). Apparently she had some problem with the way I float through peoples personal space, particularly in casual environments where supposedly you are aquainted with everyone there; touching shoulders to let people know that I am moving past them so they dont step on me, rather than saying 'excuse me' and waiting for them to move.

The confrontation resulted in one of my first panic attacks. She understood me a little better after that, and didn't have so much of a problem with me, and for my part, I have since then been painfully careful about who I touch, and when.

Although a hand on the shoulder still works better in my opinion, a soft but firm 'coming though' or 'behind you' suffices most of the time, unless I really know them, and know they dont mind.

Similarly, according to one of my friends, it's difficult to earn ones way into "casual backrub space" with me (where, when I'm in a rare good mood, you'd get a 'teaser' every time you get too close), but totally worth it.

Where the hell was I going with that....

Oh right.... personal space. What the hell ever.

Hmm, i do that all the time (tounching peoples' schoulders or backs), and considering the fact that i spend my days moving through people shorter than me, i mean *all* the time. With the number of students they're cramming into classes and schools nowadays (our school used to be JK-5 and is now JK-8) personal space for me is a constantly changing idea. i hate hate hate being too close to people for extended periods but have had to accept that condition in the halls of the school...

i never even thought there was a problem with it until now. And i get touched too - in the staff room and such. i will have to ponder this...

 

[Slutacus]

Now, if you're not content to just sit tight and wait until your Dom wants something from you, back up when he needs space or come when he calls, that's your prerogative, but at least have the class to be honest about it. If your Dom asks you to move in with him and you don't want to, it's ok to say:

"I'm sorry, I don't think we're ready for that kind of commitment."

it's not ok to say

"Umm.... suuuuuuure, you know I'd love to live with you baby, but you gotta move to the first floor because I'm afraid of heights."

it's REALLY not ok to say

"Yes, Master" then bitch until he kicks you out, then say "awwww jees baby, I thought it was such a good idea too."

The trouble with searching for old threads when the search engine is shot is that you end up getting stuck, like a fly in a web, in other threads you pass as you search. That's what has happened here.

Marquis, I have to ask this becuase nobody else did. What is wrong with someone telling you they can't live with you because they are afraid of heights? You say you like honesty at the top of the comment, and some people are honestly so scared of heights that they cannot live near the top of a tall building? So they tell you the honest truth about themselves, and it's not OK? Or is it the way that they phrased it, that matters? Just curious.

Now back to my search.

 

[brioche]

The trouble with searching for old threads when the search engine is shot is that you end up getting stuck, like a fly in a web, in other threads you pass as you search. That's what has happened here.

Marquis, I have to ask this becuase nobody else did. What is wrong with someone telling you they can't live with you because they are afraid of heights? You say you like honesty at the top of the comment, and some people are honestly so scared of heights that they cannot live near the top of a tall building? So they tell you the honest truth about themselves, and it's not OK? Or is it the way that they phrased it, that matters? Just curious.

Now back to my search.

I'm not really answering for Marquis, because I'm not him, but when I read this thread before I thought he meant being dishonest. Telling your Dom he has to move if you're going to move in with him is likely to get a "never mind then." Oh, I'm fucking this all up, I think he's talking about putting obstacles in the path so that you can SEEM to be acquiescing while not really doing so. I don't think the sub in his example is really afraid of heights.

 

[Caitlynne]

Oh, I'm fucking this all up, I think he's talking about putting obstacles in the path so that you can SEEM to be acquiescing while not really doing so. I don't think the sub in his example is really afraid of heights.

That was my take on his comments as well. I thought he was referring to the way *some* women say all kinds of things to *get* a man, and as soon as she believes he *has* him, her tune changes. That kind of dishonesty.

Of course this kind of dishonesty is not limited to women or submissives.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

A query for all you single dominants: Do you a) assert your dominance by approaching the submissive which captures your interest or b) assert your dominance by expecting the submissive to approach you (ei: play hard to get?)

Submissives: If a dominant displays signals that they are indifferent towards you, do you a) feel the complusion to pursue them more agressively or b) take it personally and back off all together?

Research for a potential story in progress. Greatly appreciate any feedback.

This is a tough one to answer .....grrrrrrrrrrrr. I do not pursue Dominants, never will, never have. Often gets me in 'trouble' because if I offer a compliment or engage in conversation with one its genuine to the core and not self serving as a ploy and this has been misread over the years and brought me unwanted attention that I have then had to extend boundaries to. I am a sociable creature and enjoy the playful sparring . My main reason for not pursuing is, I then become very self conscious , nothing feels natural/honest to me at this point and I lose the pleasure of the exchange. As far as going past the point of social repartee its all in the chemistry , though its not mindlessly instinctual because I automatically seem to pull back if I sense the person I am interacting is not compatible to me generally. Amazing since I became confident enough to live by this, I have never lacked opportunity for companionship (ie if its meant to be it will be , my karma/fate thang) .