Tall women / Shorter men - Your Thoughts Please

[annainnj]

Hello fellow Lit friends,
I will *try* to refrain from being my normal filthy self long enough to eke out a genuine question.

Let me start by saying Im tall for a gal, 5"10" to be exact, and Ive got one of those figures that can best be described as an "inverted triangle" (aka, broad shoulders, huge ta-tas, smaller waist/hips/butt - the classic "bigger on top"), and trust im not complaining as my time on this earth has had me come into my own and with the means to dress elegantly & yet feminine & "corporate", i dont have trouble meeting men at work (or otherwise). Now on to my question....

As mentioned I like to dress feminine; the whole nine yards, everyday. put it this way, I have exactly ONE pair of trousers that i wear only when these NJ winters hit with snow & sleet. anyway, the question - my height- i always wear heels, not the typical spike "fuck me" pumps to work (those are for AFTER work), at work they are typically 4-5" heels with a thicker (more professional) base. this heel has me at 6'2-6'4" on most days, suffice to say, i tend to be be tallest in most crowds; certainly tallest woman. and before anyone even adks, "no" im not going to wear shorter herls, its not going to happen

Now on to the man Ive been quietly "after" for some time. Much older, much higher level (and im already doing quite well), and, much shorter. When i say shorter i mean his lips land at the swell of my breasts, so, id say in the 5"5"ish range (think young lean Frank Sinatra size in height & size). Trust his height is the LAST thing on my mind, but it finally occurred to me recently that I wonder if it is on his. However, He is VERY confident and so the other half of me thinks, nope, he may love the fact that this young Amazon woman lusts him.

so here are the 2 questions I pose to my vertically challenged sexy men of lit (or taller men too):
1) Would it bother you to date, fuck, hell make a life with a woman SO much taller (and, lets face it....) all around "larger" than you?
2) Do i ever bring up the obvious? Or let it go? The closest i ever got was a cheeky comment about how, in missionary his lips would match up with my nipples. his response was one word "wonderful"

So there you have it; im one of the most secure women youll ever meet, yet this (potential non issue) has me waxed.

thanks

 

[RawHumor]

I'm about his height. I had a serious gf who was 5'9" and gorgeous. She also had pretty bad social anxieties. She always felt like people were looking at her (which, to some extent, they were because she had the kind of beauty that people noticed). Her anxiety didn't mix well with our height differences. She said she felt like a giant next to me.

It never bothered me, and, I'll admit, my ego didn't hate it.

I've recently more casually dated another girl around your height. She does wear heels. I enjoy it and she's cool about it. It's really only awkward when we try to kiss or if we were to slow dance or something. But as you said, the height difference can make for fun facial alignment for him.

 

[snide22]

Dating a taller woman has always been a dream of mine. I'm 5'4", average build. Naturally I am used to being around taller and bigger people. I've never dated or been with anyone taller than me. The ladies have always been my height or an inch or two shorter. I have found most women prefer taller men BUT my heart is ten times the size of my actual height.

So to answer your questions: 1. it would not bother me at all unless people make a big deal about it at which time i would say fuck em....2. I would say let it go...maybe bring it up once and forget about it...height is not important

pm me, we can talk more

 

[Folders83]

Im not the tallest fella and took out a girl about 5 '10" on the soles of her feet and it never bothered any of us.

 

[Christobal]

I am 6'2''. I have only dated one girl that was 6' and taller in heels. I have to admit I found it sexy as hell to look a woman straight in the eyes. She never wore 6" heels but now you have me wondering about it. I wish I found more taller women. There is probably an app for that.

 

[stretch351]

I am 6'2''. I have only dated one girl that was 6' and taller in heels. I have to admit I found it sexy as hell to look a woman straight in the eyes. She never wore 6" heels but now you have me wondering about it. I wish I found more taller women. There is probably an app for that.

Similar thing for me, I'm 6'4" and went out once with a lady who is 6', she was wearing3" heels and I was wearing shoes that added a little over another inch to my height.
She literally melted when she looked up at me.

Back to the OP, over the years I have seen a number of tall women/short men couples.
It is like any other situation, it is what you make of it.

 

[annainnj]

I'm about his height. I had a serious gf who was 5'9" and gorgeous. She also had pretty bad social anxieties. She always felt like people were looking at her (which, to some extent, they were because she had the kind of beauty that people noticed). Her anxiety didn't mix well with our height differences. She said she felt like a giant next to me.

It never bothered me, and, I'll admit, my ego didn't hate it.

I've recently more casually dated another girl around your height. She does wear heels. I enjoy it and she's cool about it. It's really only awkward when we try to kiss or if we were to slow dance or something. But as you said, the height difference can make for fun facial alignment for him.

Dating a taller woman has always been a dream of mine. I'm 5'4", average build. Naturally I am used to being around taller and bigger people. I've never dated or been with anyone taller than me. The ladies have always been my height or an inch or two shorter. I have found most women prefer taller men BUT my heart is ten times the size of my actual height.

So to answer your questions: 1. it would not bother me at all unless people make a big deal about it at which time i would say fuck em....2. I would say let it go...maybe bring it up once and forget about it...height is not important

pm me, we can talk more

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thanks for yor reply . LOVE hearing your heart is 10x the size of your height. SO on point & i am certain it is true

one more question; WHY have you always desired a tall/taller woman? any particular reason(s) you can point to?

 

[annainnj]

Similar thing for me, I'm 6'4" and went out once with a lady who is 6', she was wearing3" heels and I was wearing shoes that added a little over another inch to my height.
She literally melted when she looked up at me.

Back to the OP, over the years I have seen a number of tall women/short men couples.
It is like any other situation, it is what you make of it.

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i bet she melted. Now that i reflect back on my romantic/sexual life, i have never (yep never) been with a man. who was taller than me to the point i had to "look up". Now mind you, for me to "look up" he would have to be at least 6'2-6.3", so perhaps that is why.

all that aside, i have had an AMAZING sex life & plan to continue on that way!!

 

[oggbashan]

Most of the men in my family haven't dated taller women.

Some of the women in my family have dated shorter men.

But most of them married taller men. My nieces' husbands are six feet seven and six feet eight, to the nieces' five feet ten and six feet two (All measurements in bare feet). The women can wear high heels without exceeding their husbands' heights.

But when the nieces were at the UK equivalent of High School they could only dance with their brothers. Every other partner in their rural area was several inches shorter and most couldn't see over the woman's shoulder.

Even now when I visit the village where my nephews and nieces used to live I am recognised as a relation because of my height. In the last couple of years a tall unrelated woman has moved to the village. She is six feet tall in her bare feet and known as "the one who isn't a (ogg's family name)".

 

[snide22]

thanks for yor reply . LOVE hearing your heart is 10x the size of your height. SO on point & i am certain it is true

one more question; WHY have you always desired a tall/taller woman? any particular reason(s) you can point to?[/QUOTE]



Care to find out in person? Why have I desired one? It's always been more of a fantasy but would love to make it reality and I can count on one hand how many women shorter than me I've really been attracted to

 

[annainnj]

thanks for yor reply . LOVE hearing your heart is 10x the size of your height. SO on point & i am certain it is true

one more question; WHY have you always desired a tall/taller woman? any particular reason(s) you can point to?

Care to find out in person? Why have I desired one? It's always been more of a fantasy but would love to make it reality and I can count on one hand how many women shorter than me I've really been attracted to[/QUOTE]


haha....find out in person? love to hear it articulated here first. tell me why

 

[coffeelover5]

As a man of modest height, 5 foot five and one half inches, i have enjoyed the company of women taller and heavier than me on occassion. One woman i dated even tokd me she wore flats because of it which i replied that i woumd rather have her wear her highest heels.

I find it to be a thrill to be with a condident woman of taller stature than me. I am comfortable and self assured but never arrogant or cockey.

 

[B4adventure69]

Hello fellow Lit friends,
I will *try* to refrain from being my normal filthy self long enough to eke out a genuine question.

Let me start by saying Im tall for a gal, 5"10" to be exact, and Ive got one of those figures that can best be described as an "inverted triangle" (aka, broad shoulders, huge ta-tas, smaller waist/hips/butt - the classic "bigger on top"), and trust im not complaining as my time on this earth has had me come into my own and with the means to dress elegantly & yet feminine & "corporate", i dont have trouble meeting men at work (or otherwise). Now on to my question....

As mentioned I like to dress feminine; the whole nine yards, everyday. put it this way, I have exactly ONE pair of trousers that i wear only when these NJ winters hit with snow & sleet. anyway, the question - my height- i always wear heels, not the typical spike "fuck me" pumps to work (those are for AFTER work), at work they are typically 4-5" heels with a thicker (more professional) base. this heel has me at 6'2-6'4" on most days, suffice to say, i tend to be be tallest in most crowds; certainly tallest woman. and before anyone even adks, "no" im not going to wear shorter herls, its not going to happen

Now on to the man Ive been quietly "after" for some time. Much older, much higher level (and im already doing quite well), and, much shorter. When i say shorter i mean his lips land at the swell of my breasts, so, id say in the 5"5"ish range (think young lean Frank Sinatra size in height & size). Trust his height is the LAST thing on my mind, but it finally occurred to me recently that I wonder if it is on his. However, He is VERY confident and so the other half of me thinks, nope, he may love the fact that this young Amazon woman lusts him.

so here are the 2 questions I pose to my vertically challenged sexy men of lit (or taller men too):
1) Would it bother you to date, fuck, hell make a life with a woman SO much taller (and, lets face it....) all around "larger" than you?
2) Do i ever bring up the obvious? Or let it go? The closest i ever got was a cheeky comment about how, in missionary his lips would match up with my nipples. his response was one word "wonderful"

So there you have it; im one of the most secure women youll ever meet, yet this (potential non issue) has me waxed.

thanks

I'm 5'6" and married to a beautiful 5'11 woman. On one of our first dates she asked if it bothered me and I said there's many people taller than me so if it did I'd be in trouble. She's a bit self conscious about it just because she is usually the taller woman in the room and doesn't like to stand out.

In all honesty, I dated several taller women before her too - 5'9, 5'10, 5'11 3/4(she didn't want to say she was 6'). I think it's that often I find the length of a taller woman more sensual. Her flowing body carrying a grace and elegance that I can't ignore. And as you pointed out, I'm at perfect nipple level!

 

[andymusic35]

I find this thread to be refreshing, coming from the taller, female perspective. I'm about 5'5"-5'6", and my college g/f, and later ex-fiance (lol, well, lol now) was in the 5'9"-5'10" range. We were together for several years. It was obviously always a problem for her, even though she denied it she ultimately did leave me for a guy who was well over 6ft. I don't think it was THE factor, although I think it did nag at her. I would say my experience is that most women do have a hard and fast rule against shorter guys. That being said, I don't have any such rules against taller women. I don't need to be with a taller woman, and it's certainly not a turn off in the least. However, my experience that that interest will probably not be reciprocated. My guess is, many shorter men have had similar experiences. Not so much a "fear" so much is we've been down that road before. Incidentally, the ex was from NJ as well, lol. However, you sound like a much kinder and open minded sort. Good luck to you

 

[annainnj]

I'm 5'6" and married to a beautiful 5'11 woman. On one of our first dates she asked if it bothered me and I said there's many people taller than me so if it did I'd be in trouble. She's a bit self conscious about it just because she is usually the taller woman in the room and doesn't like to stand out.

In all honesty, I dated several taller women before her too - 5'9, 5'10, 5'11 3/4(she didn't want to say she was 6'). I think it's that often I find the length of a taller woman more sensual. Her flowing body carrying a grace and elegance that I can't ignore. And as you pointed out, I'm at perfect nipple level!

"Perfect Nipple Level" - yep, i think about it often
So sweet to hear such kind words about your lovely "tall" wife. One major difference betwen your wife & I is that i dint mind at all to "stand out", in fact, i think i secretly like it . put it this way; I am fairly certain I am memorable in both the visual as well as the interpersonal/psychological way & have absolutely NO problem with that.
thanks for thr reply & the indirect confidence boost

 

[annainnj]

I find this thread to be refreshing, coming from the taller, female perspective. I'm about 5'5"-5'6", and my college g/f, and later ex-fiance (lol, well, lol now) was in the 5'9"-5'10" range. We were together for several years. It was obviously always a problem for her, even though she denied it she ultimately did leave me for a guy who was well over 6ft. I don't think it was THE factor, although I think it did nag at her. I would say my experience is that most women do have a hard and fast rule against shorter guys. That being said, I don't have any such rules against taller women. I don't need to be with a taller woman, and it's certainly not a turn off in the least. However, my experience that that interest will probably not be reciprocated. My guess is, many shorter men have had similar experiences. Not so much a "fear" so much is we've been down that road before. Incidentally, the ex was from NJ as well, lol. However, you sound like a much kinder and open minded sort. Good luck to you

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well, clearly i have NO such prejudice . if the man has the qualities i want, well then, i want!

interesting what you say about the potential rejection men get from taller women--wonder how prevelant that is. sad to hear if true. if true, i suspect that it has to due with the fact that our society tells those who will listen that "men should be bigger/stronger/heavier/taller and women vice-versa.

sad that gal left you after college....her loss! all girls from NJ are not as harsh (or potentially insecure about height) i promise

 

[andymusic35]

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well, clearly i have NO such prejudice . if the man has the qualities i want, well then, i want!

interesting what you say about the potential rejection men get from taller women--wonder how prevelant that is. sad to hear if true. if true, i suspect that it has to due with the fact that our society tells those who will listen that "men should be bigger/stronger/heavier/taller and women vice-versa.

sad that gal left you after college....her loss! all girls from NJ are not as harsh (or potentially insecure about height) i promise

Well, maybe give NJ women a second chance, at some point

 

[AverageGary]

I'm from NJ as well, I'm 5-foot-7 and wouldn't mind dating a taller woman.
Only got close to a taller woman (she was 5-foot-11) once -we fooled around a bit but never had sex or seriously dated because at the time she was visiting from out-of-state and dating someone else and I was involved with someone.
If the woman is tall, confident, and doesn't mind being with a shorter guy, then I have no problem with it at all.

 

[cuckoldedhusban]

I can with certainty say I am most likely the shortest guy here. My loving wife of 27 years is much taller than I am. I also come up to breast level to her. It doesn't bother either of us. We get looks all the time. But we understand it is only because it isn't something people see everyday. We've made it work for us.

 

[Green_Knight]

I find it terribly sad that this (along with that of older women-younger men) should be an issue at all.

Why does society seem to have this idea that the perfect partnership is one where the man is a few inches taller than the woman and a year or two older than her? Where did it come from?

 

[cuckoldedhusban]

I find it terribly sad that this (along with that of older women-younger men) should be an issue at all.

Why does society seem to have this idea that the perfect partnership is one where the man is a few inches taller than the woman and a year or two older than her? Where did it come from?

I don't know that society as a whole care one way or the other. But one thing's have learned in my life is that there are a whole lot of women out there that will absolutely NOT date a guy shorter than them.

 

[Miffy_Moffy]

It goes for men too though, I think most men wouldn't like to date a taller woman, and it's probably down to peer pressure as a result of that stereotype.
No idea where it comes from. If I was to guess I'd say it's because at least outwardly men want to appear to be the one in control in a relationship.

 

[coffeelover5]

It goes for men too though, I think most men wouldn't like to date a taller woman, and it's probably down to peer pressure as a result of that stereotype.
No idea where it comes from. If I was to guess I'd say it's because at least outwardly men want to appear to be the one in control in a relationship.

I love being with a taller woman

 

[Miffy_Moffy]

I love being with a taller woman

I would too, but unlikely to happen as I'm too tall. Would be good to try though, I can dream!

 

[annainnj]

miffy,
interesting perspective on the potential predudice that may exist. to the point you made, i suspect society as a whole simply expects a couple to be: male/female, male older/female younger, male taller/female shorter, male heavier-bigger / female lighter-smaller

as for men wanting to "appear in control" - hummm - possible! i can say this, if it is MY man i very much DESIRE AND NEED for him to be in control. that is a necessasary component needed in order to even be considered a partner.

damn, now my mind is wandering to VERY dirty places