Talking dirty

[Hopeful]

My girlfriend really seems to like it when I talk dirty to her during sex but I don't want to sound repeditive... When I let her know how good it feels, that I love her or telling her how I want to make love to her every day...in so many words. Words like that emphisized by by well, doing other stuff really seems to turn her on. I'm normally really shy, so calling her a slut and saying demeaning things like that isn't for me, and I don't want her to think that I see her as just a sex object. What are some things I can say to tell her how much I want her and that I'm also enjoying myself? Or what are some of the things that seem to work with your partners?

 

[CarolineOh]

Compliment her body, in general and in specific. Tell her how beautiful she is, and how beautiful her tits, ass, etc are. And especially her pussy. Many women are so insecure about how their vaginas look, telling her how beautiful it is will probably really please her.
And don't rehearse too much! If it isn't spontaneous and heartfelt, it will fall flat. Getting tongue tied will actually be good, because as far as she's concerned, it's because you are turned on beyond words. And don't underestimate how much we like to hear you growl and moan
Keep this in mind; when you tell her how good it feels, or how much you love it, the talk is still about you, and how you feel. Find ways to make it about her and how she feels.

 

[huskie]

I agree with CarolineOH.
I was on another board some months ago. The discussion came up about guys NOT makeing enough noise in bed. That is the moans and groans.
So, I tested it. My wife really seemed to get more turned on when I moaned and groaned more. It wasn't easy for me to do. The heavey breathing was easy but the more and loader I grunted the more she liked it and the quicker I got to cumming. It takes practice. This and talking dirty. Got to learn your mate and what really turns her on. I'v been married for all most 8 yr. and I believe I haven't scratched the surface (of course my wife is close minded and want work well with me in bed, but thats one of the things I'm working on).

huskie

 

[marksgirl]

Just a idea, try telling her how she is making you feel. That can be a real turn on. I get off on it!

 

[Guest]

Maybe you could tell her some of your fantasies, and get her to share hers as well. Though its probably not a good idea during sex, but it makes great fore-play!

Just go for the suttle ones at first, maybe just telling her how you thought about her body today and how it feels etc.

 

[Hopeful]

Sweet. I already do everything you guys said but the moaning. I tell her how sexy she is and complemt her body (god she has a great body!). I'll try the moaning thing, she does it and it is nice to hear. I never had such an open relationship with another person. Then again I've never made love before and it really opened things up. There are times when I just want to hold her and tell her how happy she makes me. I don't know, maybe it's puppy love. I just want to make her happy all the time. Right now I feel so empty inside bacause she's not with me. I've done all I can do, I just hope she feels the same way. Thank you all for your help. Reading the stories on this site and on bord has really helped me understand what a person wants and hopefully in time I'll learn more as time goes by.
Lovesick...

 

[marksgirl]

Oh dear lovesick that's not all you can do! I've been married for 16 years and believe me that's not all. You have to be brave, go for it, sex is supposed to take you to new places, don't be afraid to explore! Open the doors and walk through them, you will be surprised what is on the other side! I know it's hard to take a step forward, but nothing ventured nothing gained!