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it differs from person to person
if it seems silly to both of you - instead of a turn on - then I don't think it would be overly effective!
I like being talked dirty to and often talk of how much i need a cock to fill up my tight pussy....
but that turns me on. it might not turn you or your partner on
start with whatever you want! and see what works for you both
if it seems silly to both of you - instead of a turn on - then I don't think it would be overly effective!
I like being talked dirty to and often talk of how much i need a cock to fill up my tight pussy....
but that turns me on. it might not turn you or your partner on
start with whatever you want! and see what works for you both
It drives me wild when she says"Put your big dick in me and fuck me deep and hard". We also tell each other about different people we have fucked. When I go down on her and she cums she wants deep kisses and says "Let me have some of that pussy juice". When we watch porno DVD'S we talk about dicks and pussies and cum.
Just use your imagination.
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newideas: if it seems silly to both of you, what's the driver behind starting? understanding that might help people answer your question more meaningfully.
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I kind of agree with newtoplease. I thought this was another one of those posts where one partner wanted the other to talk dirty to them and they didn't know how to do it. In this case, it seems like neither one of you are really that interested and that it is just not part of your makeups. I do have to congratulate you though on wanting to try something different to spice it up a little. I don't know how effective it can be though if neither one of you has any idea on how to proceed. The only advice I can give you is to just describe what you are already doing graphically and take it from there.
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I am going to assume that what you're feeling is interest combined with embarrassment and self-consciousness. You want to, but when you try you're overwhelmed by the desire to giggle. Assuming I'm right...
Seems to me there are assorted ways to handle that. One is to have a couple of glasses of wine to reduce your inhibitions.
Another approach, which I've had good success with in the past, is to read erotic stories to each other-- one person reads, and the other person listens and, if they feel inspired, tries to be distracting.
As far as what to say, well. I think in the heat of the moment, most expressions of need and desire are exciting. For instance, I might say... "I need you. I need you in me. I need you to fill me with your cock. I need to feel you pushing my pussy apart as you thrust into me. Fuck me hard. I've been aching for you all day. Earlier today, at work, I was completely distracted by the desire to be bent over my desk with you fucking me from behind. It was all I could do to keep working. I just couldn't wait for this... having you inside me, taking me."
Etc.
Seems to me there are assorted ways to handle that. One is to have a couple of glasses of wine to reduce your inhibitions.
Another approach, which I've had good success with in the past, is to read erotic stories to each other-- one person reads, and the other person listens and, if they feel inspired, tries to be distracting. As far as what to say, well. I think in the heat of the moment, most expressions of need and desire are exciting. For instance, I might say... "I need you. I need you in me. I need you to fill me with your cock. I need to feel you pushing my pussy apart as you thrust into me. Fuck me hard. I've been aching for you all day. Earlier today, at work, I was completely distracted by the desire to be bent over my desk with you fucking me from behind. It was all I could do to keep working. I just couldn't wait for this... having you inside me, taking me."
Etc.
I won't lie. that made me a little hard.
But as far as dirty talking goes, it's really a good idea to be comfortable with each other in the first place. Starting a new relationship, or taking one to a new level, and throwing in dirty talking can really be potentially troublesome. I dated a girl once, and I knew she was into some S&M stuff, which didn't bother me much, but it's not really my scene. But as we dated, it went from "hey, this is kinda hot" to "you want me to WHAT?!" and her dirty talking reflected this, which kinda freaked me out. There's just something off-putting about dating someone for 3 months and hearing "Tell me I fuck pretty good for a used up C--T, and then slap me in the face" Well, since I was inside her at the time, so I played along, but I don't think she was very turned on by "um... you fuck pretty good for a used-up c--t?"
Also, if you're the one who's much dirtier than your partner, try not to scare them off. If you're with someone vanilla, and you're not, don't tell them to smack you in the face or call you names, unless you've discussed it beforehand, and they won't run screaming from the bedroom.
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Yeah, but I'd have no trouble with her. I don't hit people in a nonsexual way, but she sounds like the type that would cause me to pull out of her after I slapped her and beg to have her cunt spanked until I felt she'd earned the right to fuck me some more.
I'd probably start out kind of gently with my hand, but if she gave me any lip about taking it easy on her, I'd get my belt and make her keep her legs open until her nasty little cum dumpster was as red as a tomato, all while telling her about how generous I was for not making her go out naked to cut a switch instead. Then, I'd make her bend over the bed, so I could give her an extra hard pounding before I grabbed her hair and flipped her over for her facial finish. Of course, I wouldn't treat most women like that, but in her case, I'm sure she'd be quite pleased with being put in her place in such a manner.
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No, I've never met her, but I've had sex with a few women that were into things like that. It would possibly need to be modified a bit to her preferences, but I'd say it's a pretty good guess for what she'd like to have happen.
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Had a similar difficulty with "how to start" and came with a bit of a game called "tell me what you want." The person receiving must tell the other person exactly what they want and must keep talking (unless they are kissing!). The more detail and the dirtier the talk, the more intense the experience. For example, "lick my pussy" would get a long soft lick. "Push my legs apart and spread my pussy lips" would get a more!
As you become more stimulated and aroused, the dirty talk flows more easily. It is also a nice way to learn what your partner wants and in what order and intensity. Let me know if you try it!
As you become more stimulated and aroused, the dirty talk flows more easily. It is also a nice way to learn what your partner wants and in what order and intensity. Let me know if you try it!
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As someone who loves dirty talk, I think this sounds like a really really good idea. You can start out with "lighter" talk like:
"I want you so bad."
"I want to be inside of you, do you want me inside you?"
"You feel so good."
"I want to fuck you."
Simple. Effective. You can worry about the more graphic stuff later
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How to talk dirty....
Start off slow....while you are kissing and feeling each other, whisper in her ear tell her what you want to do to her. I like to know what my partner is feeling. Tell her what you want her to do to you. Ask her what she want you to do to her. Coax her to talk to you. Than as you get into the heat of passion use dirty words. Use fuck, and cunt and ass. It will get easier if that is what turns you on like it does me.
Start off slow....while you are kissing and feeling each other, whisper in her ear tell her what you want to do to her. I like to know what my partner is feeling. Tell her what you want her to do to you. Ask her what she want you to do to her. Coax her to talk to you. Than as you get into the heat of passion use dirty words. Use fuck, and cunt and ass. It will get easier if that is what turns you on like it does me.
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Cunt is highly polarizing, though. Either people love it or hate it.
OH yeah, one other thing. Be careful about reading erotic stories to get your vocabulary from. As someone said to George Lucas "You can write this shit, George, but you sure can't say it." Just imagine being in the middle of a hot lovemaking session, and telling her to stroke your Purple-Headed Warrior. Trust me, few things kill an erection quicker than her laughing.
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Clearly, exercising good judgment is essential.
On the other hand, if there is giggling, there can also be tickling and writhing and frolicking. So that part is fun.
On the other hand, if there is giggling, there can also be tickling and writhing and frolicking. So that part is fun.
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Actually, I do stupid shit like that all the time, right in the middle of sex. Sometimes, making someone laugh is the best thing you can do if they get nervous. It really just depends on the situation.
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To be fair I'd proably snicker if I read this too let alone trying to say it.
My 2 cents. If you're unsure how to start. Keep it simple. Snuggle up on the couch under a blanket and watch tv with the lights low. A wine or two. Nibble on her ear and just let her know what you're thinking. Slowly. It'll come . . . or something will anyway
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Depends on the sexual situation. Fuck me, fuck me hard is usual for me. I don't mind a guy saying, "You're gonna make me nut, bitch." If rough sex, lots of dirty talk.
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If you find it silly...embrace the silliness of it!
Laugh about it, but laugh about it together!
There is nothing greater in the world than laughing with another person. It's a great way to gain comfort over something.
You start with the "Oh I want your body" and all the lame stuff. You'll laugh about it together, have a great time doing it, and gradually get less funny and more sexy.
And if it doesn't even end up becoming sexy to you both, at least you'll have a good night of rolling around naked and laughing together. I honestly can't think of a better way to be close to someone than that!
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