Talking Dirty

[lilpriss]

I love it when he asks me questions... the whole feedback thing is a huge turn on... it adds fuel to the fire... I'm not a porn star, but answering the "do you like this?" "how much?" that kind of thing... and getting direction... wether it's verbal or being physically guided. Wow, just thinking of it is a turn on. I think I need to have sex!

 

[DuckLover]

Look him in the eye and tell him what you want him to do to you, it's not hard in the heat of the moment.

I think Nicole nailed a major factor here-- eye contact makes ANYTHING you say more potent!

Another point to which several people have alluded is the same thing mentioned in most other threads-- just ask your partner! Outside of a hot-n-heavy session, ask a) do they like hearing you talk dirty? how dirty? b) what kinds of things would they like to hear? are they looking for ego boosters? ("Your cock is SO huge!") for directions? ("Slam that dick of your up my ass! Ungh! Yes! More!") or just screams and moans of pleasure? ("OH GOD! OH GOD! YES!")

Good luck!

 

[Felicia4411]

You have all made such great points and I really appreciate all your input. I did go ahead and sit down with my husband and talk to him about what his fantasies were and what kinds of things he'd like me to say and that worked wonders. It's taken a lot of the stress out of it and has given me a good basis on which to be creative. If anyone has any other thoughts or tips, etc. please let me know, this has been extremely helpful so far.

 

[Guest]

Hmmmmm - I like to talk dirty AND be talked to the same way.......one thing that REALLY SLAYS ME is being in the middle of making love and having my partner whisper in my ear in a foreign (ANY foreign) language..........and/or talking to me through the entire experience in a different language that I don't understand.

I'm boycotting anything French so will NOT recommend that, but how's your high school Spanish, German, Italian? Mid-Easthern or Asian languages (Arabic, Farsi, Hindu, etc.) are hot too...........I'm sure our foreign friends on the board here would be willing to help you out with a few phrases! The secret is to say them to hubby like you actually understand what you're saying.....and then enjoy the fireworks that follow!

Good Luck!

-X-

 

[James MacGregor]

Hmmmmm - I like to talk dirty AND be talked to the same way.......one thing that REALLY SLAYS ME is being in the middle of making love and having my partner whisper in my ear in a foreign (ANY foreign) language..........and/or talking to me through the entire experience in a different language that I don't understand.

I'm boycotting anything French so will NOT recommend that, but how's your high school Spanish, German, Italian? Mid-Easthern or Asian languages (Arabic, Farsi, Hindu, etc.) are hot too...........I'm sure our foreign friends on the board here would be willing to help you out with a few phrases! The secret is to say them to hubby like you actually understand what you're saying.....and then enjoy the fireworks that follow!

Good Luck!

-X-

Do atrocious Scots brogues count? *Grin*

 

[Guest]

Do atrocious Scots brogues count? *Grin*

By all means, brogue away ...........the more atrocious and "brogue-ier" the Scot, the better!


-X

 

[sporty]

Do atrocious Scots brogues count? *Grin*

Absolutely, especially if wearing a kilt....mmm...sexy....

 

[UnseenChagrin]

Absolutely, especially if wearing a kilt....mmm...sexy....

I think one of the best sexual experiences of my life was when I was working at the MI Renaissance Festival. A guy I'd been flirting with all season and I went to the sleeping area in the top of my booth and just fucked. It was a quickie but damn are those kilts useful! Mmmmm... great release from a stressful day at work.

 

[ammre]

well. talk about exactly what you are doing. I love squashing your face to my cunt. I love making you lick me. I want you to get on your knees like the dirty man you are.
just saying "oh yeah fuck me!@#" and all that typical stuff is so boring and cliche.. and i'm sure oyu probably know this.. but really.. describe it like some porno. he likes it dirty.. center arround how waht he's doing is dirty... I love riding you like a pony... trot, beast, gallop... faster.
if you notice the things i'm saying are how you see it.. i love, i want, i need, i feel... describe what he's doing to you.. the dirty things.. ect... it's also great for voicing exactly what you like... press that tongue against it hard. i love it when you enter me there. ect...
I don't know.. maybe someone daid this before.. amybe you already know this.. i only read the first 2 posts of the thread because i'm being lazy.... sorry.

 

[ammre]

er.. sorry i'm tired and stupid... another gist i was going for in my reply was the idea of meaning it. like others have mentioned... you mean what you say becasue as i mentioned before.. it's comming from your perspective. When you mean something also the diction of it and the way your eyes and body language connect with your words make them all the more powerful.

 

[Lust Engine]

er.. sorry i'm tired and stupid... another gist i was going for in my reply was the idea of meaning it. like others have mentioned... you mean what you say becasue as i mentioned before.. it's comming from your perspective. When you mean something also the diction of it and the way your eyes and body language connect with your words make them all the more powerful.

I don't know if "say it like you mean it" are the exact words I'd use but at least when you're uttering these oh-so provocative & naughty words...have SOME enthusiasm! Saying it with some vigor as opposed to reading a grocery list is much more enticing and hot in my ever so humble opinion.

 

[Mstrskey]

my 2 cents

is this...
if you're not feeling into it at the moment for whatever reason then don't force it.

I personally love to be talked dirty to, the more raw the better, but as Woddy mentioned sometimes it can come out sounding sooo robotic.
The guy I was with at the time just couldn't get into it but he was eager to please me and so what I got was a very static rendition of porno dialogue

(((deadpan monotone)))
yeah you like that don't you?

That's right. Feel my hard cock as I fuck you.

Yes...oh...baby....grind that wet pussy on my hard prick...oh...yess

It was like listening to Capt. Kirk talk dirty to you.
When I got done laughing we agreed that perhaps that was one facet of our relationship we'd leave alone.

Now this same guy did manage to find something else that worked wonders though. He couldn't talk dirty to save his life, but he was very vocal with moans, grunts, whimpers etc when he was recieving pleasure. There was something incredibly exciting to me about watching and hearing him whimper and moan when I would go down on him.

I don't think it has to always be dirty talk, just the other person showing enthusiasn and appreciation for what is being done to them works wonders too.

 

[UnseenChagrin]

Re: my 2 cents

I don't think it has to always be dirty talk, just the other person showing enthusiasn and appreciation for what is being done to them works wonders too.

I'd much rather have a guy be vocal and completely honest rather than trying to talk dirty when it's just not him.

 

[Felicia4411]

well. talk about exactly what you are doing. I love squashing your face to my cunt. I love making you lick me. I want you to get on your knees like the dirty man you are.
just saying "oh yeah fuck me!@#" and all that typical stuff is so boring and cliche.. and i'm sure oyu probably know this.. but really.. describe it like some porno. he likes it dirty.. center arround how waht he's doing is dirty... I love riding you like a pony... trot, beast, gallop... faster.
if you notice the things i'm saying are how you see it.. i love, i want, i need, i feel... describe what he's doing to you.. the dirty things.. ect... it's also great for voicing exactly what you like... press that tongue against it hard. i love it when you enter me there. ect...
I don't know.. maybe someone daid this before.. amybe you already know this.. i only read the first 2 posts of the thread because i'm being lazy.... sorry.

That was a really good point. When my husband and I sat down and talked about it he briefly mentioned moving away from the typical talk. When I asked what kinds of things he'd like me to say he said the kind of things they say in porns so you were right on the money. I guess I'm going to have to watch a few and take some notes.
Thanks for all your help guys, hopefully other people can read this and get some help too.

BTW, about the kilt thing, a friend of mine found a pic online of a guy from the waist down in a kilt and she sent it to me. It was so hot even though you couldn't see his face or chest, he had really muscular legs, it was great.

 

[Lust Engine]

Re: my 2 cents

It was like listening to Capt. Kirk talk dirty to you.

Ewwwww...William Shatner?!!

All I can think about are those hideous Priceline.com commercials where he's mumbling on and on and trying to pass it off as singing!

 

[Felicia4411]

Re: Re: my 2 cents

Ewwwww...William Shatner?!!

All I can think about are those hideous Priceline.com commercials where he's mumbling on and on and trying to pass it off as singing!

Isn't he hosting that One Hit Wonders show on VH1 now?

 

[Lust Engine]

Re: Re: Re: my 2 cents

Isn't he hosting that One Hit Wonders show on VH1 now?

That too! In classic Shatner fashion...

"Too much... William Shatner. Sensory... OVERload on BAD...acting!"

 

[Felicia4411]

Yeah, no matter what he says he sounds so bored.

 

[ammre]

what exactly is so intresting about him? another person i don't get is anna nicole smith... now i'm a big girl.. and i think it's cool that a big girl has her own show.. but damn... does she have to be stupid on it? talk about giving us a bad name....

 

[Mstrskey]

well now you know

why I was laughing my ass off by the time he was done.
C'mon...I dare you to close your eyes and imagine Bill Shatner delivering the dialogue I posted and not end up laughing til ya pee your pants.!!!

Anna Nicole Smith....hon she's not big, she's just nasty!
She gives big women, southern women, blondes and former playboy models a really bad name!!! Sad thing is that we have the first issue of Playboy she was featured in and it's like looking at totally different person!!!

 

[Mysticcal]

Re: well now you know

why I was laughing my ass off by the time he was done.
C'mon...I dare you to close your eyes and imagine Bill Shatner delivering the dialogue I posted and not end up laughing til ya pee your pants.!!!

omg ROFLMAO! I can't do it, it hurts too much LOL! can't stop giggling now thinking about him and your dialogue. *hobbling for the bathroom with legs crossed* LOL!

 

[Felicia4411]

LOL, as creepy and gross as it is to imagine William Shatner saying anything even close to those things it's sadly funny as well. I can't get it out of my head now...it keeps popping up when I'm doing something else and I just have to stop and laugh. I don't understand the Anna Nicole thing either...I've watched the show a few times but it's not so much laughing with her as laughing at how pathetic the whole thing is.

 

[Guest]

Dirty words have value in that they are not what your husband/lover usually hears. By themselves, they get old and dull after the surprise factor has worn off. IMO

It is not so much the actual dirty words you say but the images you can create with them.

Compare
"I want to fuck your mouth" with "I sincerely want to fuck the taste out of your mouth"-Prince

I'd go for Prince based on that image.

So THAT's what he was saying! I've listened to that song for years and only got as far as............"I sincerely wanna....."

Thanks, Noor!

-X-

 

[shopperst]

The best place is in public, leaning in for what looks completely innocent, then telling him exactly what I want to do to him when we get back. I love doing this several times on a night out, walking away and then watching him trying to concentrate.

If you're ever bored, it's a great way of getting and keeping his attention & you get to prolong the tease.

 

[Noor]

one thing that REALLY SLAYS ME is being in the middle of making love and having my partner whisper in my ear in a foreign (ANY foreign) language..........and/or talking to me through the entire experience in a different language that I don't understand.

Like Jamie Lee Curtis in a Fish called Wanda ?

Noor