Talk Dirty to Him

[MissBehavin278]

Obviously, if you're female and have ever fucked anything with a penis, more than likely you've talked dirty at some point in your sex life. I'm finding myself at a creative impass as of recent, and I'm saying the same phrases over and over like "Cum on my face," and "I want your dick in my mouth," etc. You get the point. I used to be so good at talking dirty I could have him begging for more before I even got him out of his pants. Now... I guess I've just lost my touch. I need help getting him back exactly where I want him, which is hanging on my every word, completely mesmerized.

 

[quicksylver69]

its not something I've ever had a problem with. I just tend to try and be descriptive about what I want and what is happening always making sure to use those gutteral/emotive words that guys love so much

 

[ThinkerLover]

Something overtly honest works for me. I tell my wife "I miss the way you taste," and "When you squeal, it makes me want to fill you up," and stuff like that. I wish she liked to tell me things like that. More than just commands - secret wanton desires...

 

[compliant]

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Obviously, if you're female and have ever fucked anything with a penis, more than likely you've talked dirty at some point in your sex life. I'm finding myself at a creative impass as of recent, and I'm saying the same phrases over and over like "Cum on my face," and "I want your dick in my mouth," etc. You get the point. I used to be so good at talking dirty I could have him begging for more before I even got him out of his pants. Now... I guess I've just lost my touch. I need help getting him back exactly where I want him, which is hanging on my every word, completely mesmerized.

Try reversing the role, i did, it worked Wonders ! !
Dont you dare put that thing in my mouth ! No way !
Im warning you ! If you come on my face ! Dont even try it !
It works !

 

[subwannabe]

Maybe you have lost touch with the reality of what it is that he likes. I would pick his brain for more information on what he likes and what his fantasies are (some you may not know). After you know this it may be easier to come up with terms you haven't used yet. This would get you in the direction you seem to want to go - getting him back exactly where you want him, which is hanging on your every word, completely mesmerized.

 

[MissBehavin278]

its not something I've ever had a problem with. I just tend to try and be descriptive about what I want and what is happening always making sure to use those gutteral/emotive words that guys love so much

Hmmm. Maybe it's all in my head and he is enjoying all the little whispers and moans, and it's just me being too critical. In any case, I'd still like to bring it to that next level to where he feels like he's so hot he just can't stand it, rather than just wanting it really bad.

ThinkerLover (sorry I'm still pretty new and can't figure out how to quote more than one response on one reply), that does sound like something that could be really effective. We've still got a couple of weeks before we get married (in which we are not having sex), and maybe I could use little phrases like that to tease him until the big night!

Compliant, WOW! I never thought of doing anything like that, but depending on our mood, that might work wonders when I'm being the naughty student... Thanks for the idea!

Subwannabe, I've TRIED and TRIED to ask him to be as specific a possible about what he likes best, what he doesn't like as much, etc. and I'll be damned if he doesn't say almost everytime, I like EVERYTHING you do... It's frustrating. Is it that hard to pick out specific details???

 

[de_valmont]

Hmmm. Maybe it's all in my head and he is enjoying all the little whispers and moans, and it's just me being too critical. In any case, I'd still like to bring it to that next level to where he feels like he's so hot he just can't stand it, rather than just wanting it really bad.

ThinkerLover (sorry I'm still pretty new and can't figure out how to quote more than one response on one reply), that does sound like something that could be really effective. We've still got a couple of weeks before we get married (in which we are not having sex), and maybe I could use little phrases like that to tease him until the big night!

Compliant, WOW! I never thought of doing anything like that, but depending on our mood, that might work wonders when I'm being the naughty student... Thanks for the idea!

Subwannabe, I've TRIED and TRIED to ask him to be as specific a possible about what he likes best, what he doesn't like as much, etc. and I'll be damned if he doesn't say almost everytime, I like EVERYTHING you do... It's frustrating. Is it that hard to pick out specific details???

Just don't talk too dirty, maybe no dirty talk for a while, and words and phrases will come back to you. Dirty is only dirty if there is some secret to reveal left in the thoughts you utter. Dirty is between the lines. Blank porn is just that, and can be fun too, but it's not dirty.

 

[MissBehavin278]

Just don't talk too dirty, maybe no dirty talk for a while, and words and phrases will come back to you. Dirty is only dirty if there is some secret to reveal left in the thoughts you utter. Dirty is between the lines. Blank porn is just that, and can be fun too, but it's not dirty.

I guess I never thought about it like that. I'm kind of an "in your face" romantic, rather than a more subtle, let him figure out what it is EXACTLY that I want on his own type of romantic. It's definitely something I could work on to keep him on his toes. Thanks for the advice!

 

[ThinkWrite]

Try not to over think it. Some of the hottest dirty talk I have enjoyed was when she simply verbalized what she was doing or feeling or what she wanted next.

 

[Carnevil9]

I'll make a suggestion: do a search on the Lit stories for "dirty talk." There are lots of stories out there that will give you plenty of ideas. I even wrote one myself called "Dirty Talk on the Road."

Good luck!.......Carney

 

[djyak]

Try not to over think it. Some of the hottest dirty talk I have enjoyed was when she simply verbalized what she was doing or feeling or what she wanted next.

That's us too, sometimes the simplest works the best. We do our share of dirty talk too, but sometimes it just sounds so corny after a while. My/his moaning or wimpering sometimes does wonders!

Tifani

 

[JustaSCOUNDREL]

That's us too, sometimes the simplest works the best. We do our share of dirty talk too, but sometimes it just sounds so corny after a while. My/his moaning or wimpering sometimes does wonders!

Tifani

What she said. Dirty talk does not just have to be dirty words. If he is on top wrap your legs around his waist and moan in his ear. "So good, so,so good. When you make it happen I am going to explode all over you." Fingernails gently down his back. Tell him. I want to rip your skin off you make me feel so good. I can't help myself. Do me, do me hard. OMG please make it happen for me I need you so much. Please, please, so close, so needy.

I won't claim to speak for all guys but, please is a very exotic and erotic word for me.

Let me add. Whimpers, moans, groans, and other unintelligible sounds work pretty good too.

Mike

 

[vand]

Try sharing fantasys, a great one with a previous girlfriend was in bed her talking through a sexual scenario with someone we saw that day. It was never anyone close enough to either of us to cause trouble, but along the lines of 'You know that blonde waitress in the coffee shop today, i saw you watch her. Imagine what we could do if she was here...' He wont last long.

 

[Hhot]

JDirty is only dirty if there is some secret to reveal left in the thoughts you utter. Dirty is between the lines. Blank porn is just that, and can be fun too, but it's not dirty.

BINGO! What a great observation, de_valmont. It's like enjoying ice cream every meal. You eventually get bored of it. You don't see it as a treat, it's just a part of your crappy diet. lol.

 

[roomfor1more]

My feeling you are making it too much of a cerebral exercise for yourself and analyzing what you are saying. Instead loose yourself in the moment and say what comes to mind even if it does not make sense to you.

 

[klippert]

it happens

all though, if you try to get to scripted, then you sound like a cheap convenience store trash novel. MrsK and I just seem too go with the moment. she says some stuff that I'm shocked in a way... but its just plain HOT..... I luv knowing she is that turned on and letting lose.

Hell don't try too make dirty talk....just let it fly...with the moment.

 

[Nataliefun41]

Maybe start out complimenting him. Just use the work" cock" and "pussy". Tell him that you love his cock or that you love how his cock tastes. Whisper a few things in his ear them softly stick your tounge in his ear. Tell him you've been thinking about taking his hard cock in your mouth all day. Just be honest and sexy. It'll start to come natural.

 

[Lust Engine]

Be a little slutty. Take a chance. Why not? Push the envelope a little bit and be a little out of character perhaps. And by all means participate and reciprocate.

 

[Carnevil9]

Use a lot of "K" words: Cock, Suck, Cunt (okay, that's a C but it sounds like a K), Fuck... those hard, harsh K sounds are very erotic.......Karney

 

[djyak]

Be a little slutty. Take a chance. Why not? Push the envelope a little bit and be a little out of character perhaps. And by all means participate and reciprocate.

There ya go, it's so fun to roleplay and get out of element and your comfort zone for a little bit. Makes it so exciting, surprise him. He won't forget it that's for sure..

Tifani

 

[fuckmeat]

*stands up*

My name is... well, let's go with fuckmeat, and I am dirtytalkinbedaphobic.

*sits and looks suitably sheepish*

I'm probably going to get justifiably laughed at considering my rep around here.

I'm bisexual, very sub and maso, what I won't do in the name of hot sex is a pretty short list. I write explicit SRPs here on Lit and I talk about sex on Lit a lot. I can happily be explicit in a nurse's non-erotic way, which is one of the reasons I enjoy the discussions on HT.

Verbalising and dirty talk in the bedroom though? Can't. It's like pulling teeth. I need to be threatened with dire consequences even to attempt it. Asking for what I want goes directly against my sexual nature. It feels presumptuous and wrong, even when it's something I've been told to do, even when I'm pretty sure I won't get what I'm asking for. That kind of talk is actually a buzzkill for me. And verbalising anything else just always sounds corny as fuck, making me want to grimace, giggle or just plain curl up and die. NEWSFLASH: A form of humiliation that doesn't get me wet does actually exist. It makes no sense and bugs the crap out of me at times. At the moment I'm in the middle of a single, virtually celibate phase in my life so it's not exactly a current issue. When I do meet and play with another dominant sadist however, it will undoubtedly be.

Even my SRP characters aren't really vocal during sex. There can be any number of erotic noises made but reactions are played out in terms of physical responses and internal monologue.

So yeah, go figure.

Sorry I'm not being very helpful MB278, just wanted to empathise and vent really.

 

[rosco rathbone]

It can't be forced. Some girls can whisper "I"m gonna drain your balls" and you believe them. Others sound as if they are reading from a script.

 

[evesdream]

I disagree with the poster above, but for some people it seems natural, for others it takes practice. It's nice when the person you're with allows you to practice without judging. Maybe in a setting that is conducive to patience (not when he has a raging hard-on that he needs you to let off).
Or maybe the thrill is gone, you're out of touch with each other and it was just not meant to be.

 

[rosco rathbone]

he needs you to let off).

lool, love the diction "needs you to let off", like a firecracker.

 

[Lust Engine]

There ya go, it's so fun to roleplay and get out of element and your comfort zone for a little bit. Makes it so exciting, surprise him. He won't forget it that's for sure..

Tifani

Thanks.

I know I've always been mildly shocked when the GF is a little out of character and that sparks the room up for me. You know the routine that you've developed so change it up now. Throw him a curve now.

I definitely love djyak's suggestion to roleplay. I think that's amazingly hot and I would highly encourage that. Spout some fantasy to him and see how he reacts. Suggest another gal in bed with you. Have him imagine another person or couple in the room fucking alongside of you. Have him imagine some of the sluttiest things imaginable.

Yeah, it's fantasy but it's definitely worthwhile adding a little zip in the bedroom- and who knows? Some fantasies might become reality if you're both willing to go down that route.