talk about nothing

[Selflessness]

how do you keep on chatting about 'nothing', its like seinfeld, a show about 'nothing' thats somehow interesting...

are there pauses/moments of silience in your chats? what happens if there is... how do you keep it up...

 

[Bobmi357]

You really do not and shouldn't feel the need to continually talk to your mate.

Inane chatter becomes annoying, no matter who its from. More importantly can you communicate about the important stuff?

Sometimes when the wife and I are reading in bed, hours will pass without a word being said, other times we'll frequently stop reading to tell the other about something we've just read.

Communications isn't a continual process. And while I'm sure a lot of our conversations are totally mundane, the important conversations can be totally intense and mind numbing. I'd swear that some of our talks are as exhausting as spending 8 hours lifting 200 potato sacks.

 

[Etoile]

My girlfriend and I have lived together for five years and been together even longer. We do have our silences - I was noticing this while we were having dinner out the other day - but they are certainly not uncomfortable silences. On the contrary, we are very happy talking or quiet, either way. Daddy and I don't usually run into this because I don't see em nearly as often, so there's always plenty to talk about.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[SexyChele]

I agree with Pink Orchid. If I can feel those moments of "comfortable silence" with a man, I know we can get along. Chatting just keep noise in the air can become irritating very quickly.

 

[Selflessness]

so... silence can be a good thing.. even with friends?

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[Selflessness]

hmmm just had moments of slience with a friend....

it seemed..... expected, both doing work

 

[sheath]

Silence is a great indicator of the stability of a relationship, I think. If you can sit down, not talk for hours, and look at each other every now and then with a smile and without a care in the world, then you're on a firm foundation. It seems that constant talking and wondering what the other person is thinking is heading into insecurity, and that is NOT a good thing.

If it's a comfortable silence, then you know you have something good happening.

S.