Talk about a line

[SeaCat]

So I'm watching an older Sci-Fi Show on DVD. (Serenity)

In the show I'm watching Kaylee, (On of the damned cutest characters I have seen. Talk about yum. I need to look for some nudes of her.) is talking with the Doctor. She asks him why he has to be so stiff and proper with her when she knows he's interested.

Damned good question and one that goes into so much.

Cat

 

[Boxlicker101]

So I'm watching an older Sci-Fi Show on DVD. (Serenity)

In the show I'm watching Kaylee, (On of the damned cutest characters I have seen. Talk about yum. I need to look for some nudes of her.) is talking with the Doctor. She asks him why he has to be so stiff and proper with her when she knows he's interested.

Damned good question and one that goes into so much.

Cat

Two possibilities. If he is her medical doctor, he has to maintain a professional attitude.

Otherwise, the reason is that he has no idea how she would react if he tried to make a move on her. If she wants him to loosen up, why doesn't she come on to him? This is a question I have asked repeatedly on other threads and even in an essay I wrote. If women were more open about making a move, and letting the guy know how they felt, (and I don't mean by subtle hints) everybody would be happier.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

I agree.

 

[SweetPrettyAss]

Two possibilities. If he is her medical doctor, he has to maintain a professional attitude.

Otherwise, the reason is that he has no idea how she would react if he tried to make a move on her. If she wants him to loosen up, why doesn't she come on to him? This is a question I have asked repeatedly on other threads and even in an essay I wrote. If women were more open about making a move, and letting the guy know how they felt, (and I don't mean by subtle hints) everybody would be happier.

Women don't come on to men because guys don't like women who are pushy or aggressive.

 

[dearc]

Women don't come on to men because guys don't like women who are pushy or aggressive.

flirty and approachable I like, pushy and aggressive I don't

 

[emap]

Yep, don't forget women are taught to be quiet. Mom was always saying how let the guy make the first move, don't make any decisions for him. I can tell you from experience just going up to a guy pulling him close and saying why don't we go someplace private does not always work.

 

[john-the-author]

I'm not finding nude pix of her, but there are some mighty appealing ones to be found here.

http://dominoeiga.up.seesaa.net/image/JewelStaite.jpg

http://www.runner.ch/firefly/bilder/cast/jewel_straite/jewel_38.jpg

 

[voluptuary_manque]

What? You mean she relies on talent? what is the world coming to?

 

[Vermilion]

Two possibilities. If he is her medical doctor, he has to maintain a professional attitude.

Otherwise, the reason is that he has no idea how she would react if he tried to make a move on her. If she wants him to loosen up, why doesn't she come on to him? This is a question I have asked repeatedly on other threads and even in an essay I wrote. If women were more open about making a move, and letting the guy know how they felt, (and I don't mean by subtle hints) everybody would be happier.

Because women who do that, and I am talking from experience here, either get rejected for being too forward or accepted, but for a lay only (sometimes that's what the woman wants, sometimes it isn't) or rejected - for whatever reason- and then slagged off behind her back for being a slut, because apparently it's till wrong for women to want sex or to make the first move.

Occasionally there is the odd man who actually appreciates it, but <sigh> I never met many of them.

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[Vermilion]

Women don't come on to men because guys don't like women who are pushy or aggressive.

Whoops. Must remember to read before posting

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[voluptuary_manque]

Perhaps it is accurate to say that most men are nervous about a woman who is sexually aggressive. Some of us are simply grateful . . .

 

[Safe_Bet]

Perhaps it is accurate to say that most men are nervous about a woman who is sexually aggressive. Some of us are simply grateful . . .

C'mere... Now!

 

[Zeb_Carter]

She's now a regular on Stargate Atlantis.

 

[Boxlicker101]

Quote:
Originally Posted by Boxlicker101
Two possibilities. If he is her medical doctor, he has to maintain a professional attitude.

Otherwise, the reason is that he has no idea how she would react if he tried to make a move on her. If she wants him to loosen up, why doesn't she come on to him? This is a question I have asked repeatedly on other threads and even in an essay I wrote. If women were more open about making a move, and letting the guy know how they felt, (and I don't mean by subtle hints) everybody would be happier.

Women don't come on to men because guys don't like women who are pushy or aggressive.

Pushy would be bad. Aggressive is okay, up to a point. All I mean is that women should be up front and say what they want, instead of hoping the guys can read their minds. That would save a lot of problems for everybody.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

C'mere... Now!

If you don't like the answer, don't ask the question . . .

 

[kimbalee]

She's now a regular on Stargate Atlantis.

And it's on tonight, Sci-Fi channel... hubby will be watching. She's one of his faves too, Cat. lol

The whole series of Firefly is available on DVD, and he has that too.

 

[Corylea]

Didn't we have a whole thread about what men think about women who make the first move, a month or two ago? Several men professed to be in favor of the idea, and several women posted about experiences with men who prefer to be the mighty hunter.

*rolls eyes* I think this is one of the main advantages of polyamory -- because there isn't a single slot marked "spouse," we can get to know people and allow the relationship to assume whatever form is natural for it. I've met a boyfriend's other girlfriend, who I thought would be just an in-law, but she became my girlfriend, too (one of the best uses of men -- they bring nice women home ). I've met a person who I thought would be a casual friend who turned into a serious lover, a person who I thought would be a just-for-laughs internet flirting partner, with whom I formed a serious friendship, a person I thought would be a net friend who turned into a quasi-client, and the list goes on.

I start EVERY relationship with, "You seem interesting, and I'd like to get to know you better." Sometimes that person turns into an acquaintance, sometimes a friend, sometimes a lover.

And last night, a person who I thought would be an acquaintance came over and fucked my brains out -- it's so cool when a person turns out to be more than you'd hoped they would be.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

Like I asked on another thread, where were you when I was young and single? Sigh

 

[Corylea]

Like I asked on another thread, where were you when I was young and single? Sigh

Oh, was it me you were talking to? Well, thanks, hon. I'm afraid I was in elementary school when you were 20ish. And really, you wouldn't want me -- I'm way too liberal for bears.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

Oh, was it me you were talking to? Well, thanks, hon. I'm afraid I was in elementary school when you were 20ish. And really, you wouldn't want me -- I'm way too liberal for bears.

I'm not hidebound, yanno. An open mindset is a valuable commodity.

 

[Salvor-Hardon]

One of the most aggressive women who ever approached me was memorable. Her first words were "I don't know how to handle you." We'd never met or were introduced but she had been watching me, trying to figure me out. From that admission, we started talking, became friends, and I still think of her fondly 20 years later.

There is that fine line between being open and honest and being aggressive. The wise woman knows how to walk it.

 

[SlickTony]

emap and Vermillion are right, a lot of us who've been around a bit longer have very clear memories of the training instilled by our mothers...Don't Ever Call a Boy, Always Wait to Be Asked, etc., etc. I'd like to think that things had improved, but it would not surprise me if there were still a lot of contradictory, yea even PA attitudes on the part of guys out there.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

You ought to hang around middle schools. The girls are so aggressive it frightens the boys and, worse yet, the boys' mothers. Really! Poor kids can't get their homework done because some little minx wants to monopolize a boy's time. Until she decides she wants a different one. Aggressive women? okay. Aggressive teenage girls? Where's that switch!

 

[Boxlicker101]

emap and Vermillion are right, a lot of us who've been around a bit longer have very clear memories of the training instilled by our mothers...Don't Ever Call a Boy, Always Wait to Be Asked, etc., etc. I'd like to think that things had improved, but it would not surprise me if there were still a lot of contradictory, yea even PA attitudes on the part of guys out there.

Your mothers probably did a disservice to you and other girls. I'm just a few years older than you, and I can remember the agony of high school. I was shy around girls, almost to the point of being a phobia. If there ever was a girl who was interested in me, I wish she would have made it known. We might have both benefited.

Girls did have one advantage, and that was the grapevine. She could get her friends to put in a word for her, and maybe break the ice. No guy would ever ask one of his male friends for such a favor, although he might have been able to mention it to a sister or somebody like that.

 

[LilaBlossom]

Firefly was one of my favorite shows and going back to the original question, I think one of the major reasons that the doctor didn't put the moves on Kaylee was that he and his sister, River, were running from the law. He didn't want develop a beyond friends relationship because a) he might have to leave her without a moment's notice and b) his first priority was keeping River safe.

When both of those reasons were gone they finally did get together.