Tact and Orgasms

I'm sorry but this just begs the question: Did you ask her what she was thinking about? Or try to find out why she couldn't get stimulated?

There have been times when that has happened to me...and then my husband and I will talk about it, or I will show him exactly where I am feeling more stimulated...

This sometimes prompts him to talk naughty to me, or start to play with my ass...

Different things can start it up again...
 
English Lady said:
I really should learn to actually write one of these days ;)
I knew what you meant, but I could not help my immediate thought and reply. Just imagine...

Perdita :rose:
 
English Lady said:
*grins*

Oh yes, just imagine...
As it is, we really do have it all over men, eh? Multiple orgasms, not to mention two tits, a clit and a G-spot. How cool is that?! Praise the Lord, indeed.

Perdita ;)
 
we really do have it all over men, eh? Multiple orgasms, not to mention two tits, a clit and a G-spot. How cool is that?!

well they still have nipples... and a prostate...

the multiple orgasm thing we got them on...
although I know a few men who can do multiples... without even losing an erection!
 
perdita said:
As it is, we really do have it all over men, eh? Multiple orgasms, not to mention two tits, a clit and a G-spot. How cool is that?! Praise the Lord, indeed.

Perdita ;)

God created Adam and he created Eve. Then he realised that they didn't seem to interlink as much as he'd hoped. So God decided to invent sex.

After a while of thinking about sexual organs he came up with a design for each kind. Now all he had to do was work out who got which.

So God calls over Adam and Eve and says, "I have gifts for you. However, I don't know which of you will appreciate which one more. So I've decided that the first person to say "ME!" really loudly gets the first one - the ability to pee standing up."

Almost before God's finished speaking, Adam is on his feet, yelling "ME!" at the top of his voice. So God gave him the ability to pee standing up.

"Damn," says Eve. "That sounded really cool."

"Never mind," God says. "I'm afraid all that's left to give you is multiple orgasms."


Old and bad joke.

The Earl
 
SelenaKittyn said:
well they still have nipples... and a prostate...
Male nipples: I've yet to hear of a man who can get off on nipple play the way women can.

Prostate: erm, cancer.

Perdita ;)

p.s. Old but still funny joke, TE :) .
 
perdita said:
Male nipples: I've yet to hear of a man who can get off on nipple play the way women can.

My nipples explode with delight.

Sorry, couldn't resist the geek humour.
 
Honey123 said:
I'm sorry but this just begs the question: Did you ask her what she was thinking about? Or try to find out why she couldn't get stimulated?

There have been times when that has happened to me...and then my husband and I will talk about it, or I will show him exactly where I am feeling more stimulated...

This sometimes prompts him to talk naughty to me, or start to play with my ass...

Different things can start it up again...

Yeah, actually. Noticing that is often the number one complaint among women about their sexual partners, I've been trying really hard to follow signs and I told her to tell me whenever she wants me to do something specific or switchup and try and remember things that really excited her last time for the next time.

Still fuck up though on occassion. There was one recent night where it seemed a bit off, but the signs were there so I kept plugging away on foreplay and it turned out she was just faking. Still need to read signs like that better plus all the other shit to learn. I think this thread is helping even if it's a bit me-centered at the moment.


On G-spots, it's a bit trickier as I've never done anything with them before and she seemed surprised that she had one so we're very much the blind leading the blind. I tried a g-spot rub, lick the clit thing but I only got her off clitorially (weird word, sounds like something on the news: More rebels flee clitorial regime). I'll have to try the other stuff.


And to make this less about me how about some other people ask for some sexual advice as well so that I'm not all alone out here.
 
And to make this less about me how about some other people ask for some sexual advice as well so that I'm not all alone out here.

Ok... let's see... anyone know anything about fisting? :p
 
Male nipples: I've yet to hear of a man who can get off on nipple play the way women can.

really? I know a few...

Prostate: erm, cancer.

Breasts: erm, cancer...

besides which, men are perfectly equipped for maximum genital stimulation and orgasm... we females on the other hand, are a little misaligned... :rolleyes:
 
You've read my smut.

Some of it... although not all... The Gift was fantastic... !

I keep seeing "The Orange Slip" and the title intrigues the hell out of me... just haven't managed to sit and read it yet...
 
SelenaKittyn said:
Some of it... although not all... The Gift was fantastic... !

I keep seeing "The Orange Slip" and the title intrigues the hell out of me... just haven't managed to sit and read it yet...

Thank you. I was pleased with The Gift, even though it was my first foray into that genre.

The Orange Slip is just as good, in my opinion. It got a lot of good feedback.
 
Personnaly I think a great deal of it has to do with communication with your partner. Erogenous zones seem to vary widely person to person.

example:
I have no particularly erotic feelings in my nipples. I understand some men do. To me it is not particularly more erotic that playing with any other part.
I have had women insist that it is erotic and can be extremely pleasurable. The attention is always pleasureable but that does not necessasarily center on my nipples. Those that insist on nipple play, I simply use as a hands on demonstration of how they wish to be played with.
I have run into the occasional woman that does not have particularly sensitive nipples as well. They much preferred erotic play elsewhere.

Others are so sensitive that they can orgasm from nipple play alone.

Learning and more importantly caring what your partner wants, needs and desires is far more important that any one individual act or 'zone.'
IMHO

Hugo
 
dr_mabeuse said:
I go through the same thing as the receiver of oral sex. Performance anxiety, I guess. If I think she's doing it just to please me, I can't get off, or it takes me a godawful long time--too long for it to be much fun for either of us. I have to believe she's doing it because she loves doing it. Then I can let go.

Bottom line: when it stops being an expression of love and passion and becomes a job, it's time to stop. "Baby? You want to me to keep going?" seems to work pretty well. If she's close or wants to continue, she'll tell you. Maybe she just needs some time to rest anyhow. Or maybe you do.

Doc, you are so right.
Oh I HATE it when he's finished and he actually decides he's going to 'help me finish' but he's obviously completely uninterested! I don't even know if it's better or worse than just leaving me stranded.

Luc,
You have to stay in character!!!! (Or you know, keep the mood, however you want to state it). YOu have to know your partner and what she likes, specifically, but you just can not do a mechanical action over and over- you'll just rub her raw.

My tip would be, if she likes romance and lovemaking then tell her loving things, and act loving (stroke her hair with your free hand or whatever it is she likes) ect. if she likes to be explicit, describe what you are doing or how she looks or whatever the situation is, in positive language. If she likes to be manhandled, slap the insides of her thighs or pull her hair. If she likes to be humiliated tell her what a dirty little slut she is and tell her exactly why.

In other words, you have to find her button and PUSH her over the edge.

One thing that usually doesn't work for me is telling me to cum, ordering me to, encouraging me to... whatever. Forbidding me too... now that's a winner. Making me ask permission and then denying it is good. :devil: But everyone is different.

sex for women involves the mind not just the mechanics, so use that to your advantage. If you are done, don't ACT like you're done. Act like you want her more now than ever. Even if you have to fake it!:) :devil:
 
Edyufurkayshun sure is a wonderful thing an I've just bin edyufurcated for sure!
;)
 
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