Sympathy Sex

[Monazwx]

Hi guys,

I started another thread similiar to this one on the general board about having sex with someone you hated.

It got really interesting when someone mentioned that they had had "sympathy sex" instead and I know where she's coming from!

For me, it was with an ex I hadn't seen in a while who was going through a rough time (won't go into detail) and I was feeling generous.

Would any of you have sympathy sex with an ex (or otherwise) or had sympathy sex in the past. Did it improve your relationship with them or did it get them out of your hair!

 

[huskie]

If I were not married and didn't HATE'm I would....... But NEVER my x-wife. It could only make things worse in the future if it where with her.

 

[lawaris]

I had / am having SS with a colleague of mine ....she is jus' not my type but all she wants is ME !
And she is around most of the time trying to help me ...esp. when I need it most- so I sort of feel trapped when I get a signal from her.

 

[Monazwx]

Be careful Lawaris!

Sex with colleagues from work could backfire. Dump her at just the right time, or even better make her dump you. But hey, as long as it's working 4 ya!

 

[NoRegrets]

Would any of you have sympathy sex with an ex (or otherwise) or had sympathy sex in the past. Did it improve your relationship with them or did it get them out of your hair!

I have done this a few times and my experience was that rather than a one-time thing, it was an attempt to get together or back together permanently.

It was usually a good sexual experience but there was no real relationship to improve and it did not get them out of my hair, they wanted more than I was interested in offering.

I understand wanting to get laid by someone you know is safe. I have wished for this on occasion myself. In most cases, more was hoped for and it was a disappointment for others. I wonder if they thought it was worth it or not?

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[Bindii]

I took it one step further - I had a sympathy marriage!!!

We were engaged and on the day I decided to tell him that I had changed my mind, wham he found out he had cancer......to cut a long story short we got married, his cancer was cured and we got divorced.

As for sympathy sex I have done it before with an ex boyfriend who used to show up on my doorstep in the middle of the night crying...I'll do almost anything to stop a man from crying. In the end I had to learn to toughen up and tell him to leave.

 

[huskie]

I took it one step further - I had a sympathy marriage!!!

We were engaged and on the day I decided to tell him that I had changed my mind, wham he found out he had cancer......to cut a long story short we got married, his cancer was cured and we got divorced.

As for sympathy sex I have done it before with an ex boyfriend who used to show up on my doorstep in the middle of the night crying...I'll do almost anything to stop a man from crying. In the end I had to learn to toughen up and tell him to leave.

lol lol lol!!!!! I'm sorry bindii. I know you don't think this is funny but I don't think one could write a better sitcom. I guess my first marriage was a sympathy one. Thought I could raise the girl out of the trailer park and she would be happy for it. Not so. lasted less than one yr. and would not have lasted that long if she had not gotten pragnate with my son.

Aussie guy crying at your front door? I thought them guys were suposed to be tougher than most??

arnt you suposed to be in bed!

 

[Monazwx]

Sympathy Marriage

I feel sorry too Bindii, what bad luck!!!
But thank goodness everything worked out in the end. I know all about the men whining (almost as bad crying), either on your doorstep, answering machine, parent's house, etc.

From experience (too much experience in my opinion), it's best to them 'em the boot and stick to it.

 

[NoRegrets]

I almost choked when I read this!

I took it one step further - I had a sympathy marriage!!!

This is very funny now that you seem to
accept and understand. Did you convince
yourself to really try and make a go of it,
or was it a sacrafice up front.

If this was a sacrafice you should look into
beatification.

 

[xMorganx]

Been there done that!

Yep I have had SS with a couple of guys. Its quite sad really because one was a total prick with a great prick (hehe) But the sex stopped when I went to college. And just this past weekend at spring break i had SS with a guy because he was "the nice one" of the group AKA didn't get any play from anyone. plus i felt sorry for him because he tired to hit on all the girls at the bar and they looked at him funny. poor guy.

 

[Monazwx]

xMorganx

You good Samaritan you!
You made a young man very happy. Hope the spring break was a blast!

 

[Bindii]

Re: I almost choked when I read this!

lol lol lol!!!!! I'm sorry bindii. I know you don't think this is funny but I don't think one could write a better sitcom. I guess my first marriage was a sympathy one. Thought I could raise the girl out of the trailer park and she would be happy for it. Not so. lasted less than one yr. and would not have lasted that long if she had not gotten pragnate with my son.

Aussie guy crying at your front door? I thought them guys were suposed to be tougher than most??

arnt you suposed to be in bed!

I see the funny side now - six years after the divorce! I can still remember my matron of honour begging me on the morning of my wedding not to go through with it, should have listened to her it would have saved a lot of heartache. But hell what d you do, your wearing the dress and there's two hundred people waiting for you.
Its all a learning experience.

Aussie guys cry? Never he was English!

This is very funny now that you seem to
accept and understand. Did you convince
yourself to really try and make a go of it,
or was it a sacrafice up front.

If this was a sacrafice you should look into
beatification.

At the time of my marriage it was a sacrifice, I didn't want to be there (anywhere, please lord anywhere but here) it was a bit like leading the lamb to the slaughter. So young and stupid.

But yes I really did try to make it work, and it did for five years.....but if I'm honest I should say that in my heart I always knew that he wasn't the one for me. Every time I tried to tell him that I wasn't happy he would start with the 'drama queen attack'.....I can't live without you etc etc etc. In the end I had to convince myself that if he did end up killing himself it was his decision not mine. He had to accept responsibility for his own life, and I had to accept it for mine.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

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