swinging

[Guest]

ok i,ll be the guinea pig for the new room. My wife and I used to tease each other about fucking other people. Lately, it has been serious conversation. We both agree we would like to do this, but we have so many worries we dont know where to start.Let me say this though, we have been married for 6 years and our relationship is rock solid. I dont believe this will hurt us in anyway. We have already laid some ground rules,#1 being we dont do it away from each other and #2 if anyone of us gets uncomfortable, we are out of there. I guess the advice i am looking for is do you think swing clubs are the best place to start. It is public but i believe the safety aspect is better in a place like that. So what do you think?

 

[Jenne64]

Hi Bigbuck
I speak from experience here. Hubby and I have swinging for 2 years now. Personally we have never used a swing club or the like so I can't say how they compare to the way we do it really. We always meet couples in our home. The reasons being that we feel more comftable it's easier to throw someone out of your home than it is theirs if you get my drift. Not that we've ever had to throw anyone out!!
You sound as though you've talked it through and at least you have some ground rules. Infact you have a sensible approach to the whole subject from the sounds of it. The only advice I have is make sure you both want the same thing out of it and go for it!
if you want anymore help e mail me jenne64@yahoo.com
hope this helps
Jenne64

 

[Mrhappy]

Hello Everyone,
This is an area where I can speak from experience. I can't give you any advice about swing club experiences, but it might be a good place to find out if you're both OK with watching other people have sex. Also, when you see your partner getting excited about the size of someone else's tits or dick, it can in some instances cause the green-eyed monster to raise it's pointed little head. So...will you really be OK with that aspect.
My experience has been recent and I'm currently 'involved' with another couple. This didn't just happen overnight. I'm recently divorced and placed an ad in a swinger's magazine (be very specific about what you will and won't engage in). Swinging was always something I was interested in, but my wife would never agree. I decided to try swinging as an alternative to dating and another relationship. The first couple who responded wanted to meet at a bar. We had drinks, went to my house and she proceeded to get very drunk. He started slapping her around, ordered her to strip and then began ordering me to strip. Well, this wasn't exactly my idea of a fun time and why I suggest that you're very specific about what you will and won't do. Two more couples later, I was ready to give up on the whole idea.
Then I received a letter from a very sincere sounding man explaining how he and his wife had thought about this for a long time, had read my ad over and over and had decided that they wanted to take things to the next level. He asked for a picture(didn't have to be nude) and wanted to know more details. Before I end up writing a story, we started slow, exchanged pictures(great looking couple), talked on the phone and finally met at their home.
It turned out to be one of the most erotic and satisfying 48 hrs. I've ever spent. We were very comfortible with each other. He actually held his wife's legs open the first time I entered her and asked her how I felt inside her, etc., etc. I've been back to see them several times (it's a 2hr drive, but I really don't mind) and they visit me here occasionally. We don't always start out in bed, but we usually end up there.
That's my experience, but it took several tries to accomplish it.
I'm working on a story about it. Look for "And me, makes three in Tennessee"
Any comments to mrbhappy@hotmail.com
Enjoy

 

[Guest]

Thanks for the great advice Jenne64 and Mr Happy. My wife also read your advice and thanks you as well. She just revealed her big hang up about this. She is not into women and is afraid she would be pressured into f/f action. We already agreed that niether one of us had to do anything we were not comfortable with, but i guess she is just nervous. She has never done anything with another woman and i have always told her not to knock something until she tries it, but i realize now that is not something to tell someone whos has inhibitions about such things. She says maybe someday, but she would have to be really, really horny.(just between me and the rest literotica, thats not that hard to do, if you know what i mean). Oh well, again thanks for the advice, all other advice is still welcome.

 

[MorningStar]

reading some very sound advice here....even if they say it isn't....you're getting to see what can happen...each situation is different....the first time we tried it..my green eyed monster was terrible....she was cuter...noiser...seemed to be getting a hell of a lot more out of it than I was...and I was jealous....actually that's happened a lot of times...we always talk about what went on afterward...and finally...years later...I've adopted the attitude..I'm not going to worry about what happens or how the other female feels...I'm going to get as much out of it as possible...to be honest...to this day...with the foursomes we've engaged in...it's still my spouse that's met my needs...as well as hers...I'm a multiple...and the other guy is one that has more enjoyment watching his wife get screwed..than doing anything with me...so I just sit back and watch...wait till it's my turn....as for female to female...that's only happened once...and it was just that...something that happened...felt right at the time..so we both went with it...nothing of the sort was even considered at first...and we didn't do more than some kissing and holding...but it was pleasant....

best advice I can give....chose carefully...get to know the person or couple...don't plan anything...enjoy an evening's company...don't go prepared to jump into bed...or you'll be 'working at it..and then it's never a pleasure..it becomes a job....have to agree..being in the same room is a must...the mind can create enough scenerios when you're in the same room and watching...being in different rooms and only hearing things can be devestating....smile...been there done that...

also...talk afterwards...to each other...remain open...tell your likes and dislikes...the encounters are something you wanted to share...so remember to share them...feelings are allowed you know...and if you try to cover those up...you'll end up hurting...

swinging isn't for everyone..that's for sure...remember the reality often isn't as good as the fantasy...don't go into it with any preset ideas of what's going to happen...I guarentee you'll be disappointed if you do...

just my experience and input

MS

 

[Guest]

Hey folks thanks again for the advice. Well, it happened last night. We went to swing club with friends that have been long time swingers. The green-eyed monster did not come out. It was just the opposite, one of the hottest nights we have ever had. We had sex with two other couples in private rooms and engaged in an orgy in the orgy room. Let me tell you to see my wife with other men was incredible. I myself fucked 5 different women and we all had fun. The only suggestion that i would tell someone that is interested in this is to keep the alcohol out of the picture. A couple of drinks is fine but there a couple of people there that ruined the fun for a lot of people. They just were not any fun. When we got home my wife and I had the best sex we have had in years and agreed to continue. maybe I will use this as a topic for my next story.