Swapping wifes is more attractive than let her have her way with another ?

[LittleGreene]

Sorry I wasn’t necessarily referring to long term. A first world be a good starting point

Sorry. I misread

As you know we’re going to a swingers club for the first time next week - I’m very curious on the other couples we will meet. Would there be a couple we both connect with, or is it more likely we meet couples where one of us connects and the other doesn’t. Will be an interesting experience

 

[CuriousJInLA]

That’s interesting and daunting. Can’t wait to hear about it

 

[1DarkNightOwl]

Sorry. I misread

As you know we’re going to a swingers club for the first time next week - I’m very curious on the other couples we will meet. Would there be a couple we both connect with, or is it more likely we meet couples where one of us connects and the other doesn’t. Will be an interesting experience

Ooh, I would be excited untill the point it was happening. Then scared to death.

A third does not interest me so hope you do find the right couple.

 

[LittleGreene]

Ooh, I would be excited untill the point it was happening. Then scared to death.

A third does not interest me so hope you do find the right couple.

We have emotions changing hourly, from excited, horny, to absolute terror. Think it will be like that all week leading up to it.
We don’t intend to ‘swap’ as this is us just dipping our toes in.

 

[Islander55]

We have emotions changing hourly, from excited, horny, to absolute terror. Think it will be like that all week leading up to it.
We don’t intend to ‘swap’ as this is us just dipping our toes in.

I would think that going to a swing club or a simple swinger party, your mind set really should be that you want to try some new things or try some new people. Whether it is a swap or joining in with some group play. I think you both need to be open to having your partner have sex with another person. This lifestyle can be a lot of fun and add a lot to your sex life with your partner. From simply discussing what happened to reliving some moments in your own bedroom.

 

[Diann_Mom]

We have emotions changing hourly, from excited, horny, to absolute terror. Think it will be like that all week leading up to it.
We don’t intend to ‘swap’ as this is us just dipping our toes in.

That is your intention now but once there and mingling with people and even get a view of others having fun, you just might change your mind!!

 

[Kolejdayz]

That is your intention now but once there and mingling with people and even get a view of others having fun, you just might change your mind!!

Absolutely. . . I started swapping girlfriends when I was in yearly 20s. Such a turn on. Not to be missed

 

[LittleGreene]

We’ve set limits and boundaries we won’t go past this time.

 

[Kolejdayz]

We’ve set limits and boundaries we won’t go past this time.

What are they?

 

[LittleGreene]

What are they?

We can make out. Kiss. Touch other people but no penetration. No oral.

We are open to having sex with each other and being watched (we’ve already done this once before)

 

[deft]

We can make out. Kiss. Touch other people but no penetration. No oral.

We are open to having sex with each other and being watched (we’ve already done this once before)

I hope it all goes well! I'm sure you'll have a sexy time.

 

[Flying_Fix]

We can make out. Kiss. Touch other people but no penetration. No oral.

We are open to having sex with each other and being watched (we’ve already done this once before)

Great rules and it sounds hot and tantalizing

 

[LittleGreene]

Great rules and it sounds hot and tantalizing

Thank you. Only a couple of days to go now

 

[Flying_Fix]

Thank you. Only a couple of days to go now

I envy you quite a bit. I have a fantasy to do a swap or go to a swingers club but my wife is not ready. We discuss it but but on a fantasy level.
You enjoy and the first time is about getting your feet wet and testing the water

 

[tpsmps]

Same room sex is the ultimate. But it could turned into a group one.
Because when we did this in darghasheriff of vaniyambadi rural house, inadvertently ,after a climax ,we were veered into each other on mad sex drive which culminated in group orgy.
Its amazing.

I share your point of view, the ultimate is when it's no longer an exchange between two couples but an orgy, each will find their pleasure without taking into account what the other wants or doesn't want, no matter how many people you've fucked with or their age or gender or build!! You leave full and bursting with orgasm!!
Of course, in an orgy, it's the women who enjoy it the most!! Leaving with cum full in all three holes is absolute bliss!!

 

[tpsmps]

I'd be down to being swapped. Would be even hotter if I had no idea to who I was going. And if the man was about 20 years older

i love this mind, it sound the truth

 

[gtnlynn]

I really wasn't interested in swapping, but I knew she could have sexual fun with others without it impacting our relationship. I let her do her own thing, and she enjoyed it for a few years before stopping completely.

 

[TravisAW]

Thank you. Only a couple of days to go now

Possibly wrong thread but I couldn't find your other post. I remember you saying that night went really well. Have you decided any more on next steps?

 

[LittleGreene]

Possibly wrong thread but I couldn't find your other post. I remember you saying that night went really well. Have you decided any more on next steps?

We have. We’ve decided to go back to the same club in November.
We’ve had a lot of discussions about what happened and what we are hoping we can do at the next event.

 

[TravisAW]

We have. We’ve decided to go back to the same club in November.
We’ve had a lot of discussions about what happened and what we are hoping we can do at the next event.

Good luck. Hoping for the same couple to be there or not that bothered?

 

[dz2681]

We have. We’ve decided to go back to the same club in November.
We’ve had a lot of discussions about what happened and what we are hoping we can do at the next event.

Very hot. Can you fill us in on what you’d be willing to let happen on the next trip? You and hubby have the same thoughts or did one want to push things a little more before coming to an agreement?

 

[LMWM321]

Swapping wifes is more attractive than let her have her way with another?​

More attractive for whom?

I really don't understand swinging. What if the woman you are attracted to is married to a man your wife is NOT attracted to?? Do you just say, "Sorry, I'm hot for your wife, but my wife isn't hot for you, so no thank. ..Now, would the next couple please step forward."

To my thinking, if you're okay with your wife fucking another man, you should leave it to her to pick who that man is without it being a part of a package deal.

And no one should ever be asked to "take one for the team" - ie., have sex w/ someone they're not particularly attracted to just keep the other three people happy.

 

[TravisAW]

Swapping wifes is more attractive than let her have her way with another?​

More attractive for whom?

I really don't understand swinging. What if the woman you are attracted to is married to man your wife is NOT attracted to?? Do you just say, "Sorry, I'm hot for your wife, but my wife isn't hot for you, so no thank. ..Now, would the next couple please step forward."

To my thinking, if you're okay with your wife fucking another man, you should leave it to her to pick who that man is without it being a part of a package deal.

And no one should ever be asked to "take one for the team" - ie., have sex w/ someone they're not particularly attracted to just keep the other three people happy.

You're right, you don't understand it.

I've never done it but from the research I've done, it's clearly a case that it's got to be right for all four of the people involved. It's not just a book in, turn up, hope they're ok and go for it session.

 

[LMWM321]

You're right, you don't understand it.

Maybe.. but I'm also not judging it. I have no problem with the ethics, just the way it's suppose to play out.

I can imagine my wife dreading going because she'll know the chances of her being sufficiently attracted to a man she just met to have sex with him on the spot is probably 1 in 1000. For it to happen, he'd better have Sean Connery's good looks, James Bond's charm AND the key to a private room that looks like a quaint ski Chalet. Instead, it will be "Honey, this is Fred. Umm, he wants to fuck you in that dingy dank room on a dirty mattress.. Any interest?" Yeah, I don't see that happening for any but the very highest libido'd women.

Not judging, but I think the better plan is to let each other find their NSA hookup in some other, more organic way. Like at Yoga, or a co-worker while on a business trip, or maybe a guy at a resort while traveling with her girl friends, etc...

 

[TravisAW]

Maybe.. but I'm also not judging it. I have no problem with the ethics, just the way it's suppose to play out.

I can imagine my wife dreading going because she'll know the chances of her being sufficiently attracted to a man she just met to have sex with him on the spot is probably very very remote. For it to happen, he'd better have Sean Connery's good looks and James Bond like charm AND a private room that looks like a quaint ski Chalet. Instead, it will be "Umm, this guy here wants to fuck you in that dingy dank room with a dirty mattress.." Yeah, I don't see that happening for any but the very highest libido'd women.

No judging, but I think the better plan is to let each other find their outside hookup in some other, more organic way.

I suppose it depends what you're looking for, what your expectations are of the people and location, etc.

One option is go to a no obligation swingers club for a look round and chat. Don't go expecting anything than learning more but do set boundaries if you both meet a couple you're both interested in. An exception might be, for example, that you're okay watching her kiss (and more) another woman.
Another option is get online at a dating site for couples and see who's about - look as couples at people who do or don't look the part. You can book a hotel and be in full control of the location, meet them in a nice lounge bar and then if you hit it off, offer to take them upstairs.

As you say, though, might not be for everyone, especially if your wife currently dresses and undresses in the dark! Could be fun researching which couples you'd both say yes to or indeed both reject - looks, preferences, etc. and be honest and open with it. After all, swinging isn't for insecure couples, it's for those who love each other so much that they know seeing their SO with someone else will increase their love for them, not increase their paranoia or jealousy. I've watched Mrs AW kiss other women and it's hot. She's kissed other men but never in front of me but always tells me after (she usually comes home horny because snogging someone else has got her wet but she didn't want them enough to go further with them).