suggestions please ;-)

[BlackJacksgirl]

Hey everyone

Im not "really" into bdsm though its something Im starting to play with. Ive always been the more dominant person in my sexual relationships.....(however, i crave to be spanked and submissive which he has granted me...how can I be both at different times??another question for later I think).

My LD lover will be coming to visit this weekend and we have I have told him I was going to tie him up.....and the suggestion turned him on highly. I dont think he is really *that* submissive since he definitely can be very agressive......but its intriguing me that he is all hot by the thought of being tied. So..can you guys give me some suggestions to make this experience fabulous? things I can say and do? I'd love any and all suggestions.

Im thinking of tying him up in a chair....
my first thoughts were just to restrain him and suck him....and then fuck him. But, this experience seems to beg for more....more than just being restrained.

So...any suggestions out there? The more graphic and specific , the better...
Thanks ;-)

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

Hi BlackJacksgirl,

Welcome to our Community! Sounds like you've got some interesting things planned Let me send you to our wonderful BDSM Library. First off, it's just loaded with threads divided into many different categories covering all aspects of BDSM. Secondly, why don't you check out the Links category and look for a specific thread entitled "Wizard's Links." It's a favorite around here. That thread is loaded with links to all sorts of sites, on rope bondage, etc, etc. I think you'll find it a lot of fun to look through, and it will give you some GREAT ideas too!!

If you are new to BDSM, check out www.castleream.com and www.steel-door.com/Chamber.html . They are both great overview sites.

Good luck on your journey, and I look forward to getting to know you through your posts

~anelize, "BDSM Librarian"

 

[BlackJacksgirl]

Thanks, Anelize..Ive looked through those links. There are a ton. I couldnt find the library and I was looking thank you!

Now...c'mon...I need some help everyone I guess the more Im thinking about this, I think that Im going
to try and tease him a lot since I dont think the humilation thing is what he wants...I think Im going play up the fact that he really likes bad girls....

but I need some more...
Help me please...
words, sugessions, positions, and things I could drive him crazy with....

 

[Etoile]

Im not "really" into bdsm though its something Im starting to play with. Ive always been the more dominant person in my sexual relationships.....(however, i crave to be spanked and submissive which he has granted me...how can I be both at different times??another question for later I think).

This is quite common, it's called switching. Plenty of people switch!

 

[Desdemona]

Thanks, Anelize..Ive looked through those links. There are a ton. I couldnt find the library and I was looking thank you!

Now...c'mon...I need some help everyone I guess the more Im thinking about this, I think that Im going
to try and tease him a lot since I dont think the humilation thing is what he wants...I think Im going play up the fact that he really likes bad girls....

but I need some more...
Help me please...
words, sugessions, positions, and things I could drive him crazy with....

You don't have to do everything at once. The fantasy may turn him on more than the reality. It seems to make better sense to start out slow, with the fantasy you already have and see how that works. You can prolong it simply by teasing him slowly, bring him to the brink of orgasm, then stop and allow him to calm down a while before tormenting him with pleasure again. You can use different sensations, tease him with a feather duster or an ice cube. But truly, don't try to make this too complex. Enjoy the experience.

 

[FungiUg]

So...any suggestions out there? The more graphic and specific , the better...
Thanks ;-)

Tie him to the bed instead. Can do more with him that way! Add a blindfold, and bring out the ice and the chocolate sauce. Go crazy with your tongue! Tease unmercifully! Then you can use him at your own pleasure and pace.