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Ladythunder
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Well all I figured I'd just poke my head in here and say hello. And sinse we all seem to be sharing a little about our selves... I figured I'd just go ahead and share that it seems I'm one of the few male pyt's that hangs out on the forums. Either that or I just need to start reading more posts heh.So as of right now I'm trying to find a "munch" in my area. Even googling for one dosn't seem to help me very much. Heh, I guess I live a little bit to far out in the boonies. Heh
Lol Ng, I bet you're not in the same boonies as me but I feel for you anyway being in the same boat. There was a group about 70km away from where I live but apparently their meetings lasted only a couple times and a lack of anyone willing to run the show (i.e. set up a restaurant reservation, set dates etc) has prevented any in recent memory. I don't have the time myself either, so for now I am as out in the cold as you are
NervousGuy
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LadyThunder, well considering your using KM instead of Miles, it leaves me to believe your in another country all togeather. Heh. But yeah, I know how you feel. Closet thing I've found so far was 240 miles away, or about 386KM. Still havn't found a munch in my area. Though I have been looking.
fishercat
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Hi All -
Well, I finally had my first real-time D/s experience, with a Dom/Domme couple in the area! And after a two long sessions with all kinds of different toys and things, I have a few questions.
One is, I noticed that after a while I started shaking all over, including teeth chattering. It seemed to happen mostly after sexual play, as opposed to pain play. We took several breaks for water, and once for snacks, but I still shook most of the time. I felt okay, but it was strange. I'm not hypoglycemic or anything. I didn't feel cold. Does anyone know why this would occur?
The second question is harder to explain. Until last weekend I had really no sexual experience, and I grew very sore quite quickly. After that it seemed no matter how we changed things up, I kept hitting a wall where any pleasure met with pain and together they overloaded my ability to process either, at which point I ended up using a "yellow" safeword to take a break. I hated to do it, but I was almost non-verbal by the time I did. It was incredibly frustrating for me, though they were totally supportive. So my question is hard to word, but I'd love to know if this "overload" thing has happened to anyone, and how to deal with it. Having to safeword for something like that made me mad, and I'd rather avoid it if I can.
Last question. After the second session (I stayed overnight), I felt achy and weak. Now, 24 hours later, I'm mostly okay. It kind of felt like the flu. Of course, I was also a total space cadet for a long time - even today! I was wondering if that might have been a reaction to the impact play. Kind of like a good massage can release toxins and make you feel flu-like symptoms, especially if you haven't been drinking enough water. Could that have been what was bothering me? And if so, would more water help? Or more regular beating? LOL
Thanks for the help!
Well, I finally had my first real-time D/s experience, with a Dom/Domme couple in the area! And after a two long sessions with all kinds of different toys and things, I have a few questions.
One is, I noticed that after a while I started shaking all over, including teeth chattering. It seemed to happen mostly after sexual play, as opposed to pain play. We took several breaks for water, and once for snacks, but I still shook most of the time. I felt okay, but it was strange. I'm not hypoglycemic or anything. I didn't feel cold. Does anyone know why this would occur?
The second question is harder to explain. Until last weekend I had really no sexual experience, and I grew very sore quite quickly. After that it seemed no matter how we changed things up, I kept hitting a wall where any pleasure met with pain and together they overloaded my ability to process either, at which point I ended up using a "yellow" safeword to take a break. I hated to do it, but I was almost non-verbal by the time I did. It was incredibly frustrating for me, though they were totally supportive. So my question is hard to word, but I'd love to know if this "overload" thing has happened to anyone, and how to deal with it. Having to safeword for something like that made me mad, and I'd rather avoid it if I can.
Last question. After the second session (I stayed overnight), I felt achy and weak. Now, 24 hours later, I'm mostly okay. It kind of felt like the flu. Of course, I was also a total space cadet for a long time - even today! I was wondering if that might have been a reaction to the impact play. Kind of like a good massage can release toxins and make you feel flu-like symptoms, especially if you haven't been drinking enough water. Could that have been what was bothering me? And if so, would more water help? Or more regular beating? LOL
Thanks for the help!
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Harmony_1985
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The other question is harder to explain. Until last weekend I had really no sexual experience, and I grew very sore quite quickly. After that it seemed no matter how we changed things up, I kept hitting a wall where any pleasure met with pain and together they overloaded my ability to process either, at which point I ended up using a "yellow" safeword to take a break. I hated to do it, but I was almost non-verbal by the time I did. It was incredibly frustrating for me, though they were totally supportive. So my question is hard to word, but I'd love to know if this "overload" thing has happened to anyone, and how to deal with it. Having to safeword for something like that made me mad, and I'd rather avoid it if I can.
Thanks for the help!
Sex for the first time is always sore. My boyfriend too my virginity at the start of the year and despite the fact I'd been masturbating with a vibrator for a good 2 years before this, I was still sore as hell afterwards, to the point where I couldn't do much. I think we managed to have sex 4 times that weekend, and the first 2 times were fine, but after that we couldn't do it for long because I was sore. We ended up doing oral instead because I couldn't do it.
It's frustrating as hell, but totally normal. Now you've had your first time (I'm assuming lol) it shouldn't happen again.
We more than made up for it on his 2nd visit *giggle*
fishercat
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Sadly, it wasn't intercourse! Just vibes, dildos, fingers and a lot of clit and pussy spanking! Despite years of self-play, I just got so sore it felt like I'd sat in scalding water. Mostly my poor clit. LOL
intothewoods
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Sounds like you had a really intense extended period of play. It makes sense you would be overloaded and overwhelmed! Take it easy.
Kajira Callista
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Hot bath with salts...baby oil after.
fishercat
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I did. It was incredible, but I've been surprised at how my body reacted, both in the situation and after. I took a lot more pain than I thought I would, but my bits rather let me down.
I've been resting all I can, and getting lots of water and just processing the whole thing. Thanks for the reassurance!
fishercat
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Now that is not something I would have thought of! And of course do not have in the house, but will immediately purchase. I've been settling for chilly water and a hands-off approach. Thanks!
intothewoods
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I did. It was incredible, but I've been surprised at how my body reacted, both in the situation and after. I took a lot more pain than I thought I would, but my bits rather let me down.
If it makes you feel better, I have to be pretty comfortable with someone to let go and have an orgasm. I don't have sex with anyone other than my PYL right now, but there was a period of time in which we weren't exclusive, and I would try sexual play with people at parties, and I never got off once. It's too nerve-wracking. Just saying, bits are complicated things!
fishercat
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Aren't they just! Of course, mine are also just in a rut. After thirty-odd years of just me playing with them, I'm sure they got confused when other people got in there and started messing about. Mistress got me off, and hard, but then she has her own bits and has nice soft hands. Master, on the other hand, kind of enjoyed that it hurt and felt good at the same time.
It does make me feel better to know I'm not the only one who can't orgasm on cue. I was feeling rather pitiful.
Harmony_1985
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It does make me feel better to know I'm not the only one who can't orgasm on cue. I was feeling rather pitiful.
I can't do it either, I'm sure we're not alone
rida
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Add me to the list of shy girly pinky bits.
On my on I can cum in under a minute. Add someone else and ... well, I have to be very very comfortable and still it might not happen. Thankfully I have not been with anybody that put pressure on me because of it and since I can be quite satisfied anyway, I just don't worry too much.
On my on I can cum in under a minute. Add someone else and ... well, I have to be very very comfortable and still it might not happen. Thankfully I have not been with anybody that put pressure on me because of it and since I can be quite satisfied anyway, I just don't worry too much.
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fishercat
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Thanks, gals! I'm taking it easy, as advised, and letting things get back to normal. As it turns out I think the aching might turn out to be a virus, and not play-related at all, which is a relief. And a friend from elsewhere suggested the shivering might have been related to subspace, which is a definite possibility - I was sure spaced out.
Again, thanks. It's great having a bunch of experienced subs to get advice from!
Again, thanks. It's great having a bunch of experienced subs to get advice from!
the_pet
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Hi All -
Well, I finally had my first real-time D/s experience, with a Dom/Domme couple in the area! And after a two long sessions with all kinds of different toys and things, I have a few questions.
One is, I noticed that after a while I started shaking all over, including teeth chattering. It seemed to happen mostly after sexual play, as opposed to pain play. We took several breaks for water, and once for snacks, but I still shook most of the time. I felt okay, but it was strange. I'm not hypoglycemic or anything. I didn't feel cold. Does anyone know why this would occur?
The second question is harder to explain. Until last weekend I had really no sexual experience, and I grew very sore quite quickly. After that it seemed no matter how we changed things up, I kept hitting a wall where any pleasure met with pain and together they overloaded my ability to process either, at which point I ended up using a "yellow" safeword to take a break. I hated to do it, but I was almost non-verbal by the time I did. It was incredibly frustrating for me, though they were totally supportive. So my question is hard to word, but I'd love to know if this "overload" thing has happened to anyone, and how to deal with it. Having to safeword for something like that made me mad, and I'd rather avoid it if I can.
Last question. After the second session (I stayed overnight), I felt achy and weak. Now, 24 hours later, I'm mostly okay. It kind of felt like the flu. Of course, I was also a total space cadet for a long time - even today! I was wondering if that might have been a reaction to the impact play. Kind of like a good massage can release toxins and make you feel flu-like symptoms, especially if you haven't been drinking enough water. Could that have been what was bothering me? And if so, would more water help? Or more regular beating? LOL
Thanks for the help!
Don't stress it.... i shake too sometimes
....and it's easy to get overloaded when you have two people on you (don't beat yourself up)
....and i have felt like i've been hit by a truck the next day (the sore part i like, the feeling like i'm 1,000 years old the next day sucks)
