Submissive contract?

[sweetlittleass]

I've been doing some research and have come across a few people who have had "submissive" or "slave" contracts with their Dom and I would like to find a copy of one... no one has been able to help me actually locate one as I would like to present one to my Dom.

Thanks in advance for your help!

Baby

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

I've been doing some research and have come across a few people who have had "submissive" or "slave" contracts with their Dom and I would like to find a copy of one... no one has been able to help me actually locate one as I would like to present one to my Dom.

Thanks in advance for your help!

Baby

Hi sweetlittleass, welcome to our Community. Check out www.castlerealm.com and www.steel-door.com/chamber.html

Both have sample contracts.

Good Luck!

Check out our Library when you get a chance, it's full of lots of interesting threads as well!

~anelize, "BDSM Librarian"

 

[FungiUg]

Interesting. Can I ask what is is that you like about the idea of a written contract? Is it a safety-net thing, or something more?

 

[dragonlace]

http://www.bdsmu.com/page_training_sample_contract.html

http://www.castlerealm.com/library/con2.shtml

http://www.castlerealm.com/library/signing.shtml

http://www.bdsmcircle.net/dslifestyle/contracts.htm

http://www.bostondungeon.org/contract.html

http://www.bdsmcircle.net/dslifestyle/contractam.htm

here are a few to give you an idea.....hope it helps...i was researching contracts a bit ago

 

[incubus_dark]

No need for me to give you links to a contract as there are many of those above, but if you are thinking of using one, consider this: Irrespective of how much you may agree to it at the beginning, how would you feel if you were told you were bound by it at the end of a relationship? How would you feel if an ex' turned up with one in his hand and tried to enforce it, however illelaglly? This shouldn't stop you using one if it does the trick for you, but it may influence its content.

 

[Croctden]

Contracts

I don't use them, I generally just have "time out" talks if you will with my girl. I can understand the appeal of the contract, as time goes by and the relationship changes (someone starts to take too much or withdrawals) you can whip it out and say hey this is what we agreed this relationship was about in the beginning. Some subs have problems coming out and saying if they are having problems, this is an easier way. Now do realize this certainly might lead to a break up.

I do have to say that I find the idea of someone whipping out a contract and saying you can't go pretty farfetched. Only a nut would do that. If someone tried to play that on me, I'd think it ludicrous. If someone wants a contract, fine to each there own. I would think most people into BDSM would reject any type of one-size-fits-all concept.

 

[Phoenyx]

Those contracts are just a visual representation of the commitment between the couples.

They are not legally enforcable but to some it might seem like a mairriage contract without he marriage.

I would never use one. If she wants to be sub to me it has to be on
her own free will and not because I have a contract forcing her.

 

[zipman]

Some people use "contracts" as a means of clearly articulating limits and boundaries in a relationship, sort of like a more formalized checklist to clarify expectations.


Personally, I don't care for them much.

 

[FungiUg]

The problem is that limits and boundaries change! And sometimes dramatically. What's okay on Tuesday may not be okay on Wednesday, but it's okay again on Thursday.

So I'm not sure I see the value of having them "written down in a contract."

Each to their own, I guess.