Sub-Space...........What exactly is it to you?

[xxxSubSamxxx]

I have read a couple of comments about sub-space and from what I gather it's very personal and quite a subjective experience. I am not sure it's actually real at this point and I am quite sceptical.

How would you describe it? What has been your experience?

Sam xx

 

[LallyH]

I have read a couple of comments about sub-space and from what I gather it's very personal and quite a subjective experience. I am not sure it's actually real at this point and I am quite sceptical.

How would you describe it? What has been your experience?

Sam xx

I'm a little puzzled you're asking about something you say you don't believe is real, but....

If you go to the BDSM library sticky at the top of this list, and look for subspace in the alphabetical list, it will give you a starting point. Once you've read up on it, if you've got further questions, come back here and we'll try to help.

 

[xxxSubSamxxx]

LallyH....thank you for telling me where to research..I Have read little but I have come here to engage with other postersand would like to know their experiences too and ask then specific questions.

From What I have read it's an endorphin based state brought on by pain.

Is it much the same as exercise for you?

 

[CutieMouse]

It's a biochemical reaction as a result of stimulation. Often compared to a "runners high" similar to the feeling at the end of strenuous exercise.

Some people are more susceptible to endorphin dumps (the cause); some aren't

Some people's goal is to "hit subspace"; some people either prefer to avoid it, or are perfectly happy either way.

 

[xxxSubSamxxx]

Thanks very much for your responses. I am looking for a detailed experience too if anyone has any xx

 

[butterfly_flip]

It isn't just an pain induced endorphin triggered experience, that is simply one example of how subspace occurs.
There are a plethora of people who have experienced it who will happily counter your assertion/scepticism as to it's reality.

 

[xxxSubSamxxx]

Thank you Butterfly for your post. But have you experienced it? Please tell can you get to subspace from an orgasm?

 

[butterfly_flip]

Thank you Butterfly for your post. But have you experienced it? Please tell can you get to subspace from an orgasm?

Yes, several times, the subtleties and nuances are usually slightly different, but what remains the same is that I find it addictive.

Subspace is a very personal experience, you could ask 20 different people to describe it and get 20 different answers.

For me, no, orgasm does not induce subspace. The journey to that orgasm might though

 

[xxxSubSamxxx]

Than you very much Butterfly I am starting to understand what it is to different people xx

 

[butterfly_flip]

Than you very much Butterfly I am starting to understand what it is to different people xx

Welcome

ETS: One thing absolutely guaranteed to send me straight to subspace is knife play. The way the blade catches on the undulations in the skin, the endorphins, my desire for more, and more importantly, probably the most important element, is the person wielding that knife.....gets me every damn time

 

[xxxSubSamxxx]

Knife play eh? Sounds interesting. Do you have wounds from knife play?

 

[butterfly_flip]

Knife play eh? Sounds interesting. Do you have wounds from knife play?

wounds? no.
Surface scratches which have lasted a few days, yes.

 

[xxxSubSamxxx]

wounds? no.
Surface scratches which have lasted a few days, yes.

I am not sure I could be convinced to try that.......but I might if it means experiencing subspace xx

 

[CutieMouse]

Some people (both sides of the D/s slash) see subspace as thebe all and end all ultimate goal of a play session or intimate encounter. Subspace can be an interesting altered space (kind of like being punch-drunk, fuzzy-headed, etc), but I prefer to avoid subspace.

A side effect of subspace, is often subdrop. Personally, I don't find the "high" from subspace to be worth the drop, after. As a result, dominants who are hyper-focused on getting a partner to reach subspace aren't a good fit for someone like me.

 

[xxxSubSamxxx]

Some people (both sides of the D/s slash) see subspace as thebe all and end all ultimate goal of a play session or intimate encounter. Subspace can be an interesting altered space (kind of like being punch-drunk, fuzzy-headed, etc), but I prefer to avoid subspace.

A side effect of subspace, is often subdrop. Personally, I don't find the "high" from subspace to be worth the drop, after. As a result, dominants who are hyper-focused on getting a partner to reach subspace aren't a good fit for someone like me.

That's very interesting that you describe a drop. Like a hangover of some kind? I don't think I would mind if my Dom took care of me and held me tight. I have read bout this once before xx

 

[CutieMouse]

That's very interesting that you describe a drop. Like a hangover of some kind? I don't think I would mind if my Dom took care of me and held me tight. I have read bout this once before xx

Kind of like a hangover. Exceptsone people drop right away. Some drop a day or three later. Some come out of the drop easily; some don't. For me, personally, the high isn't worth the low, so I tend to do what I can to avoid subspace, and rarely get involved with people who have "subspace" as an end goal.

 

[Thegirl1987]

As said before sub-space is different for every single person. For me it's a love/hate kind of thing. I do enjoy it most of the time, the only real time that I don't like it is when it takes me a little to come down from it and I have very little time left with 'R'. I would describe mine as it puts me in a type of daze, almost like I am high or drunk. I am normally brought into it with spanking or flogging.

As was mentioned there is such a think as sub-drop, that of which being the exact opposite of sub-space. Which can be unavoidable, weather your Dom gives you proper aftercare or not. I myself have only experienced once, and hope to not have to deal with it again.

 

[Scotsman69]

I had a sub a couple of years ago who was a psychologist with a specialism in the psychology of hypnosis. She reckoned that subspace is comparable to one's experience in a hypnotic trance.

As said before sub-space is different for every single person. For me it's a love/hate kind of thing. I do enjoy it most of the time, the only I don't like all the time is when it takes me a little to come down from it and I have very little time left with 'R'. I would describe mine as it puts me in a type of daze, almost like I am high or drunk. I am normally brought into it with spanking or flogging.

As was mentioned there is such a think as sub-drop, that of which being the exact opposite of sub-space. Which can be unavoidable, weather your Dom gives you proper aftercare or not. I myself have only experienced once, and hope to not have to deal with it again.

 

[LallyH]

I would describe mine as it puts me in a type of daze, almost like I am high or drunk.

I had a sub a couple of years ago who was a psychologist with a specialism in the psychology of hypnosis. She reckoned that subspace is comparable to one's experience in a hypnotic trance.

This is my experience. It gives the disconnected feeling that you get when you've had too much to drink but you are still aware of everything that is happening around you. The difference is that you simply don't care about it. Total physical and mental relaxation also lowers inhibitions and increases pain tolerance for me, so it's important that my partner can be trusted completely.

I have never suffered from subdrop from RL play, but that's probably because 'aftercare' such as keeping warm, being cuddled, having a drink and sleeping are just natural in my situation.

 

[xxxSubSamxxx]

Thanks for all your experiences. It's clear to me that not everyone can reach subspace and that not everyone has a drop.

I am very interested by it and how it gives pleasure. I want to experience this. I hope I get an opportunity to do so.

Sam xx

 

[skinnysinner]

Thanks for all your experiences. It's clear to me that not everyone can reach subspace and that not everyone has a drop.

I am very interested by it and how it gives pleasure. I want to experience this. I hope I get an opportunity to do so.

Sam xx

I corresponded for a while with a very sensual woman who wanted and desired that subspace, and reached it with her partner if tied, blindfolded and paddles for a long time. However, her physical treatment only went part way, her partner was not her Dom in any other way and her need to submit as well as be paddled or spanked was what she sought. For her I believe that would have brought an even more powerful response, alas I was never going to be the one to help deliver! :-(

 

[xxxSubSamxxx]

Thanks Skinnysinner for your post and the experience xx

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[xxxSubSamxxx]

This is most like my extremely limited experience.

I'd say I was not that aware of what was going on around me, or maybe just didn't give a damn.

I am almost never fully relaxed, not in a way I find negative, its just who I am, I am physically tense and a little mentally/emotionally taught even when I look relaxed. In this situation I felt more relaxed than I ever had....relaxed and devil may care.

Yet for me it was also very different to drinking or any other experience I might have had that might be related .

The truth is....at the time I didn't really care to analyse it. I did not orgasm in those few situations and would chose it in preference to orgasm. I do not know if its possible for me to have both. I thought I might come when instead I had this departure.

Thanks Gianbattista for your differing experience. It is very interesting to see lots of ways subspace occurs in different people.

I wonder if it is something you can attain alone or a Dom needs to take you there.

Has anyone ever brought themselves to subspace? Any experiences?

Sam xx

 

[Kumo163]

Sub space for everyone is different. Some people break down into a maniacal laughter, unaware of what's going on around them because of all the intense emotions that's going through them. Some people go silent and others turn into screaming harpies, wailing with pleasure. Sometimes it depends on the 'space' you're in as well (little vs pet for example).