Stress

[twister947]

A recent post in Lucy's AMA asked, 'how do you deal with it?' De-stressing, un-winding, re-setting...whatever you call it, what do you do to avert a meltdown?

 

[Wonderer67]

I like to turn to my hobbies to kind of de-stress: listening to music, going to the races, target shooting (believe it or not, I find it very head clearing), hiking in the woods, gardening, woodworking, long drives and getting lost in the middle of nowhere, sex and sexual activity and doing things for my kids and wife.

I can’t say I really have meltdowns… I find driving in heavy traffic to be insanely stressful. Sometimes when I have to drive to NY or Philly, I need to have a drink or take a really mild edible. I really don’t like being around a lot of people, especially on the road.

I’d like to really start yoga or a meditation routine but I’ve been saying that for 5-6 years.

My life ain’t peachy keen, but these are things that help me stay grounded and get focused when things get to me.

 

[IrisAlthea]

It depends a lot on what kind of stress we are talking about.
For the everyday, lots of stuff to do type stress, I like to use the short times I can find in between, waiting for something for example, to have a few words with someone virtually or IRL, just loosing myself in thought, reading etc.
Using the natural breaks like transport or waiting time, as a time to wind down is really important to me.

I find that going outside, a drive with good music or good company can make a huge difference.

For long time stress, like difficult life situations that just have to be handled, endured etc it helps to plan fun breaks with friends or family, doing something that takes full focus( can totally understand target practice for that @Wonderer67), being in nature. Being physical, like exercise, cuddling, massages, sex is really helpfull.

The thing that makes me fairly resillient I think, is that I’m rather good at looking bad stuff in the face, analyzing it and doing what I can about it but also at putting it in a box and keep it there until the next time it needs tending to.
I can even take it out and let the feelings rage a bit and then put it back, reasonably contained until I can get back to it.
It doesn’t mean it’s not stressful at all, because it eats up a lot of energy, but it keeps me functional.

Meltdowns are very rare and always because the total load of everyday bullshit and the actually difficult stuff come together during an extended time, so I don’t have alone time and/or energy to process it.

 

[Lady2020]

I either talk too much or shut down. I try to stick to the one day at a time thing, but frequently don't realize how much stress I'm under until I do something stupid.

 

[Wonderer67]

Forgot to mention live music and mosh pits. I’m 55 and still love the mosh, the skank and the pogo and all sort of zany shit that happens when you are seeing live punk rock. Your get a good workout, enjoy yourself and forget about life for a while.

Even if you are not in the pit, you get so into it, nothing else matters and you don’t focus on any worries, issues or concerns. Any live music or play or movie helps you focus on the here and now, puts your concerns on the back burner and is a nice change of pace.

 

[traill]

In general in very stressful periods I just need to be able to have an evening to myself. Reading and listening to music can really help me get more grounded. If I'm owned, I've also found that a good D/s session can do miracles for the stress. It lets me feel completely free within the session, and then the next day I'm ready to confront the world again.

 

[thejabber27]

I feel seen

A recent post in Lucy's AMA asked, 'how do you deal with it?' De-stressing, un-winding, re-setting...whatever you call it, what do you do to avert a meltdown?

I think like other researchers, masturbation is a primary de-stresser for me. Reading fanfic and cooking are my other big de-stressing activities.

 

[twister947]

I have Parkinson's...things as simple as buttons on a shirt produce figurative tears of frustration and rage. I've learned to see that coming, and just STOP. A few deep breaths, and I'm ready to try again.

This sounds silly, but I wash dishes. By hand. Carefully, one at a time, and then they go in what my wife calls the sterilizer. I like the process; it slows the world down.

 

[NC_Coastal]

I have to walk away from the noise, whether that's a nagging wife or just loud people in general. Ideally, I can get on my boat and float into a cove for a few hours. When the migraines hit though, I need total darkness and quiet. Funny how people who don't get migraines don't believe in them.

 

[seekingAlpha]

Physical exertion completly destresses me such as weightlifting, running, or heavy bag work. My favorite way to accomplish this is a raw and primal fuck where my sub and I are soaked in sweat, breathless, and exhausted.

 

[gracie920101]

Masturbation. But that can be awkward in public so I tune out and read something; reading words and not listening to voices is calming. In fact, I hate being read to by most people. If I have the opportunity and it wouldn't appear rude, I also use a solitaire game on my phone to re-center my control.

 

[Lucy_Lastic]

I don't actually suffer from stress too much but I smoke weed when I want the world to slow down a bit.

If I can't sleep cos I have stuff going on in my head, masturbation always sorts me out.

And if you ever need pure energy to displace bad vibes, Wonderer67 has it right, go see a live band, dance like nobody's watching, scream like nobody's listening and lose yourself in a sweaty crush of bodies.

Oh and never crowd surf in a short skirt!

 

[Inthesewalls]

Im easily stressed. Talking. Im a verbal proccesor (god love my friends) or singing or writing. I also enjoy soaking in a hot tub and chilling for a long time. Of course theres always masturbating or sex - an orgasm does tend to unwind me.

 

[CuriousRick]

Im easily stressed. Talking. Im a verbal proccesor (god love my friends) or singing or writing. I also enjoy soaking in a hot tub and chilling for a long time. Of course theres always masturbating or sex - an orgasm does tend to unwind me.

An orgasm is always wonderful stress relief

 

[Lady2020]

I'm still not dealing with stress as well as I would like. Especially after a heart attack 6 months ago. Which is why after something stresses me out, I walk for about 30 minutes. I have a new mantra, which helps. The world is so chaotic that it's not hard to feel stressed at times. Peace of mind. Peace of heart.

 

[CEOescape]

If my stress level it hight due to business related events, I try to find time to reduce stress by simply masturbating alone in my thought and fantasies .
The orgasmic release tends to reduce BP and relax me so I can attack the situation fresh

 

[IrisAlthea]

I'm still not dealing with stress as well as I would like. Especially after a heart attack 6 months ago. Which is why after something stresses me out, I walk for about 30 minutes. I have a new mantra, which helps. The world is so chaotic that it's not hard to feel stressed at times. Peace of mind. Peace of heart.

I’m sorry to hear that you had to deal with that kind of health issue!

There sure are enough things going on in the world, for a life time of stress.
Personally I try to limit the amount of doom scrolling I do and I try to be rather clear about to what extent that I can do something about a problem and to what extent it really is my problem.

 

[emme8]

I stress eat. It's bad, I know it, but sugar calms my nerves


If I can think ahead enough to catch myself meditation and prayer work better.

 

[dreamysub]

When I am stressed I like to be alone. I simply shut down and don't come out until I am better. I listen to my music and cry it out, or I just sleep it through. When it's sunny I love to go for a walk to the woods and let the nature do their magic and heal and soothe my soul. Nature, peace and quiet is the way I recharge. I prefer THAT over humans anytime when I am stressed or sad, simply cuz I just need to be alone then.

Another way how I deal with stress is intense impact play session with my PYL and cry it out there. That seems to work very well for me. Sadly it's not possible to do that every time I need it.

 

[Goldenfinger]

Being in a FLR is what helped my stress.

 

[sallysparrow23]

I like to exercise when I'm stressed. If I'm not up for physical exertion I crochet to manage stress because it gives me something to focus on. I tend to shut down when I'm stressed but am trying to be better about that because it doesn't do me good. If I can't work on a crochet project at the time, I stress clean, or take a steaming hot shower.