strap-on thoughts?

i bought a strap on about 2 months and still have not use it yet...but i am very excited and anxious to use it.
 
As some of the people above have noted, there's no substitute for asking your SO whether they're interested or not.

That said, there are probably ways to bring it up that are less jarring than others. In your shoes, I'd bring it up while we were fooling around, in the context of "talking dirty" / whispering sexy fantasies and forbidden ideas.

An alternate approach would be to try easing into the idea, not during sex but during a relaxed conversation. "Hey, I saw something about this whole prostate massage thing and it's supposed to be amazing. The article said that a really easy way to try it is to get a little inexpensive toy, stick it in there, and have your woman suck you / give you a hand job / ride you. And, you know, I figure anything that could give a totally mindblowing orgasm is probably worth trying. Of course, I'd totally make it worth your while before and after...."

Obviously, that's not the same thing as her strapping one on and going for a ride. But, you know, baby steps and all that.

Also, from a tools standpoint, if you ever get to the point of wanting to try a strap-on, get one of the ones that has a pouch inside to hold a vibrating egg on her clit. Because it's an odd thing to fuck someone and make them cum like crazy, but essentially without sensation for the person doing the fucking. So, thumbs up on the egg.
 
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dont know where i rate on the average scale :rolleyes:
But the idea drives me wild with lust

It's relatively common.

And it doesn't matter what I think or how the average woman feels about strap-on sex. If you're asking because it interests you, it only matters what YOUR partner thinks.

If you don't know how your partner feels, I'd suggest asking her, rather than guessing or asking us what she might be thinking.

Fingers crossed that she has had similar thoughts cross her mind also. You never know... you may be fortunate enough to find that she shares the fantasy.

I for one am pleased my husband confessed this same idea to me; we purchased our own strapon and the rest as they say is history...

If my husband would only let me near there... *sniffle*

I get turned on by the idea of fucking a guy with a strap on!

But I'm also not your average girl ;)

The delicious naughtiness of the thought is so-o-o-o rewarding. Planning the seduction, making the man so hot to be taken and then drawing out the inevitability as a tease to ramp up the eroticism of what is to come only adds to the allure. Ladies, when this intimate act is done slowly, lovingly -- and then faster and harder -- the trip, and the orgasm, are incredible. Don't deny yourselves or your man the pleasure -- it only takes careful preparation to lead him to the idea. Letting him know how incredibly hot it makes you to even think about it is a marvelous convincer strategy after you've worked up through loving finger caresses of his opening that lead to insertion and internal massage while his stiff cock is in your mouth at the time. The first time he comes while you're inside him and you feel the sexy contractions that pulse around your finger in time with the spurts of his cum will say everything necessary about why the eventual fucking you'll give him will be exquisitely erotic and satisfying for both of you.

i think its completely normal and really sexy.
I tried to talk my boyfriend into letting me but he's not interested.
He said he's had the whole prostrate massage thing and it just didnt do anything for him<not buyin it> but i respect his wishes and dont push the subject.
But if he did it with me, it would be such a turn on. I'd love it.

Just keep aiming for this. Take note if he had a bigger orgasm or not while you are doing it. Use plenty of lube, and talk dirty, let him know how much it turns you on.

That's how I got hooked...

It sound like many men are ready willing, and able, and some men not even close to that.

Fortunately, lots of women are game!

For me, it is one of the most intimate and intense acts that I share with my wife. I could receive a strap-on any day, any time!
 
I hope your wife shared your view on this, i would love to find a girl to put a strap on on and show me a good time but as of yet i haven't found that person :(
 
I've been fucked loads of times by my girlfriend but for the first time last night I got on top and rode the cock, its was a good experiance, something I wanted to do for a long time and a lot less difficult then I expected.
 
I found out my wife's desires when I went to our porn VOD sight and viewed the history and saw what she had been watching when I worked nights.

We are pretty sexually adventurous and I'm saying its not for everyone.

To her the idea and talking abouit it were more exciting than doing it.
 
Anyone have the links where it is discussed? I'd like to read more male 'experiences' with this...
 
My ass is a instant subbie button. When my g/f plays with it the first words out of my mouth are "yes Ma'am. I haven't had a strap on used on me but so turned on by the idea.
 
mwcntx4fun that is one hot photo of your strap-on !!!! Would love to see more of them.


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I second that!!

As for the original question I agree with what others have said 'normal' isn't really a very helpful term when dealing with sexuality. I say be open minded enough and bold enough to try something you like the idea of. On a more personal note, the role reversal and switch of power is quite exhilarating ;)
 
As requested!

Here's a pic of TBH's newest strap-on.....she loves the Vac-U-Lok thingy and the fact that this harness is crotchless.

We got this one months ago but this is the first time we've used it.

It's a completely hot idea/fantasy/roleplay/whatever.
 
I think it sounds hot, but then there is very little that I would find "not" normal!
 
It gives my partner great pleasure to fuck me, it empowers her as nothing else does. We talked about it for ages before it happened, so I learned her need to experience it. Eventually I bought her one in a rather seedy sexshop in Soho. (The original Soho, in London.)

Her face as she prepares to fuck me, and afterwards, is a joy to behold (no, I will NOT share the pics). I find it a turnon because she enjoys it so much, though it doesn't sexually excite me in that my cock has always remained flaccid when she fucks me. But maybe in time that will change?

It's part of our mutual love.
 
I'm not sure that asking questions on this site, to find out how common particular sexual practices/desires are, will you give you much of an idea. I think the site attracts those who are into all things sexual.

If it helps - I like the idea of it. So I experimented with my own fingers first. I've tried strapons a couple of times and enjoyed it (as have the women involved) but one with a harness might have made it better.

There's no reason a "straight male" won't enjoy something up their arse. It's very different from being attracted to men.
 
I'm not sure that asking questions on this site, to find out how common particular sexual practices/desires are, will you give you much of an idea. I think the site attracts those who are into all things sexual.

If it helps - I like the idea of it. So I experimented with my own fingers first. I've tried strapons a couple of times and enjoyed it (as have the women involved) but one with a harness might have made it better.

There's no reason a "straight male" won't enjoy something up their arse. It's very different from being attracted to men.

Asking here will, however give you access to a polling audience who may actually give you a real, honest answer. You can't poll the general public on these things and get an accurate result, average people just won't admit to kink- not even anonymously. So, yes, maybe lit members are a little more kinky. Not that it matters- do what feels good to you, or involve a consenting adult, but either way- do it FOR you, not concerned with opinions of others. Long live kinky:D
 
I showed interest when my wife and I were in an up scale adult store. The place is in Minneapolis and they just opened a place in Denver. Called the Smitten Kitten. Any way, my wife asked what was in it for her. We explored different devices and wound up purchasing a feeldoe. The first time I used it was with it in her and I went down on her. She admitted that it was hot and one thing led to another...We both wound up happy. She was a bit hesitant at first but we explored the feeling of power and dominance that comes with the phalus. It got her turned on.
 
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