Straight but infatuated w/a butch

[babs2U]

Hi people,
I've been reading literotica stories for a few years. New to the boards.

So here's the deal. I'm a single mom in my 30's (have a two year old). I've always been straight with the exception of experimenting with the girl next door as a young teen. Nothing since then.

I started a new job recently and have found myself attracted to a butch security guard. I've been flirting w/her, and she back. Some pretty heavy text messages...down right naughty..hehe. We talk on the phone every night and I hang up wanting her. Its amazing.

I'm a bit taken aback by my feelings for her. They're strong. As strong as I've ever felt for any man. She is apparently coming over this Saturday night. Son will be with dad I'm sure something will happen...its been building.

I'm excited and nervous at the same time....oh and did I mention way horny! I have no idea what to expect.

So here are some of my naive questions...I hope they're not too annoying.

Do butch women, generally speaking, enjoy receiving oral. I get the impression most enjoy giving rather than receiving. I know I should just let things happen naturally but I feel so in the dark...somewhat inadequate.

Another question I'm curious about...Is it common for a straight womn to turn totally gay in her 30's. I mean what are the odds. I'm assuming most people discover they are gay or bi earlier on in life. I just feel like I want nothing to do with a man at the moment. Hell, there might be no going back.

I'll let ya'll know what happens Saturday night.....if you're curious

Thanks for reading and any advice you can offer.

 

[Wolfman1982]

Hmm have fun

But I don´t know really, what I can say, I wouldn´t call it strange, if you say you are bi/gay/something

Heck, I think was a late bloomer when it became clear, that I was bi

And I am still a "virgin" to my biside, and I am 23 years old. But when I really found out I was bi, with a strong preference to women, I think I must have been about 18.

So I don´t know what to say.

other than good luck, and have fun

 

[neonflux]

Good luck!

Common saying:

Butch in the streets, femme in the sheets...

I would guess it depends upon the woman! I would say just relax and enjoy what comes - let her know of your wishes and desires as I am sure she will do with hers.

Does she know that this will be the first time you've been with another woman? I am in the early stages of a relationship with someone who has never been with another woman before - just getting divorced but has lots of friends in the dyke community and unlike you has thought about being with another woman for a while. I think that this is actually making her feel more "pressured" to perform, but the pressure is definitely ALL coming from her. She has expressed concerns about her ability to please, and trust me, I am NOT expecting her to be "experienced." I really like her and all I want to do is spend time with her in a way that is enjoyable to both of us.

Re: turning 100% gay - who knows what love and/or sexual attraction might do - actually this is something I wouldn't worry about at this point.

Good luck!!!

~ Justine

 

[sweetandkinky]

My partner of 10 years is stone butch - and definately not into oral (well not in the way you mean). I think it is best to have that conversation with her. All butches are completely different - and you have to respect thier own take on gender/sexuallity and what they and you are comfortable with.

Whilst I like girls and guys - I just adore butch women. That mixture of masculinity, in a woman's body - just does something to me that I have never been able to explain. Just gorgeous!!

I really hope that you have a lovely time - just enjoy. Part of the excitement is getting to know each other - and what each other wants. It would be great to hear how it all works out (by the way I was married when I met my partner and as surprised as you are, but its all worked out fabulously). Have a wonderful time.

 

[PredatorSmile]

Have fun. Don't get hurt. Be safe. Be discreet. What more can I say ?

 

[ima6uldv8]

That's hot. I'd be so nervous. And wow! Never heard of any woman not enjoying oral. That's one of my favorite things. I had an experience when I was super young that may have shaped my feelings. But, they're all fantasy right now. You'll have to let us know how it goes. Just try to relax and have a good time.

 

[revolution724]

It's not at all uncommon for a person to question or change their sexuality in their 30's or later. I don't even consider myself bi, really, or at least I have zero interest in a relationship with a man at this point, and I thought/deluded myself that I was straight until age 26. Then I went to a coming out group for a while and was often one of the younger women there!

As for "what to do" - you know, I really believe that honesty is the best policy. If you let her know that you haven't been with a woman before and you want to make sure you both enjoy yourselves, I am certain she'll be understanding and it will take the pressure way off. Plus, it really is ok to ask someone what they'd like to do or feel - open communication, you know, always important in the bedroom and out of it. She might be into (receiving) oral, or she might not, but I bet she'd tell you if you asked.

Good luck, and have a great time!

 

[little_dragon]

As far as women "turning" gay, my take on it is this----

Love has no boundries, and you can't help who you fall in love with....be it a male or female. No one is exempt from love .

Life would suck if we were.

Little Dragon

 

[Anniejustagirl]

hello to all.... nice to find a great spot like this.

I have to agree with Little Dragon on this. 'Turning' would be an odd term to use for me, as sexuality throughout my lifetime has been so fluid. Where my emotions are at the time have a tendancy to direct where my libido flows. I think... for the most part... if people are down deep honest with themselves, thats it's like that for most humans to one degree or another. More of a bell curve situation.

Also, i don't see anything too general about butches. Aside from a serious stone butch... the comfort level just needs to be there for both concerned. Giving is often much easier for a butch. Receiving means some Serious connection and intensity... just don't spring it quick and unexpectedly. As someone else said... communication is the key.

Good luck, have fun and try to relax and just follow the feelings.

 

[Xtinas_Girlfriend]

Hi people,
I've been reading literotica stories for a few years. New to the boards.

So here's the deal. I'm a single mom in my 30's (have a two year old). I've always been straight with the exception of experimenting with the girl next door as a young teen. Nothing since then.

I started a new job recently and have found myself attracted to a butch security guard. I've been flirting w/her, and she back. Some pretty heavy text messages...down right naughty..hehe. We talk on the phone every night and I hang up wanting her. Its amazing.

I'm a bit taken aback by my feelings for her. They're strong. As strong as I've ever felt for any man. She is apparently coming over this Saturday night. Son will be with dad I'm sure something will happen...its been building.

I'm excited and nervous at the same time....oh and did I mention way horny! I have no idea what to expect.

So here are some of my naive questions...I hope they're not too annoying.

Do butch women, generally speaking, enjoy receiving oral. I get the impression most enjoy giving rather than receiving. I know I should just let things happen naturally but I feel so in the dark...somewhat inadequate.

Another question I'm curious about...Is it common for a straight womn to turn totally gay in her 30's. I mean what are the odds. I'm assuming most people discover they are gay or bi earlier on in life. I just feel like I want nothing to do with a man at the moment. Hell, there might be no going back.

I'll let ya'll know what happens Saturday night.....if you're curious

Thanks for reading and any advice you can offer.

So what happened when she came over??

 

[Anniejustagirl]

Come on now, share...

So what happened when she came over??

I have to echo this.... What Happened?! Have you not come up for air YET?

 

[ima6uldv8]

Yes, please don't leave us hanging like that!