STD question

[*rose of lit*]

I have met the most wonderful man, just one catch. He has an STD. He has been up-front about it, but I am concerned about having relations with him. Has anyone come across this and how did they deal with it. I know there has to be ways to have sex and not catch it. Please help me.

 

[Jaded1]

I have met the most wonderful man, just one catch. He has an STD. He has been up-front about it, but I am concerned about having relations with him. Has anyone come across this and how did they deal with it. I know there has to be ways to have sex and not catch it. Please help me.

The actually steps for prevention would depend on the type of STD! Your going to have to provide a little more detail your being a little to general to give a inteligent answer. Although any STD you will be occuring some risk!

Jaded1, CT

 

[*rose of lit*]

I am sorry about that, he has genital herpes. Hope that helps with the answers.

 

[styxitnu]

Hmm...

Run for your life! Unless you want to catch a virus that will cause you hell for the rest of your life. NO CURE, unreliable prevention and just because he told it is not going to keep you from getting infected however it will prevent you from taking him to court for damages.

Good Luck.

Styx.

 

[Nefarious]

It's been 15 years ago in one case, and 9 years ago in another, but I've had unprotected sex with women infected with herpes. I guess it was a case of dodging a bullet, because in both cases I knew what I was risking and did it anyway. I guess neither was in an infectious state at the time, because I have recently been tested for STDs and came up with a clean bill of health. Herpes can go dormant for long periods, and an infected person might not pass the virus, ever. Some herpes sufferers experience regular outbreaks, while others might not experience symptoms after the initial infection. My one friend had carried the virus for almost 20 years, but had only experience 3 outbreaks, all linked to emotional stress.

 

[Jaded1]

I am sorry about that, he has genital herpes. Hope that helps with the answers.

Unfortunately, genital herpes is not something that you can easily protect yourself from. In its dominant state condoms can reduce the risk some what. I'm am not sure if you're ever safe in a oral sex situation. The problem lies during its active state and in the beginning phazes when its un detectable that you run the greatest risk. Once you contract the virus you can easily spead it yourself. Yes, you can be hauled into court for knowingly transmission of a desease with out warning a possible sex partner. I know what my choice would be!

Jaded1, CT

 

[ChemE_student]

It's such a hard situation to deal with, but you're fortunate to have been told in advance. Many people don't get that opportunity. It's something you'll need to think carefully about, but the 'run for your life' approach is not necessary. Please visit http://my.webmd.com/medical_information/condition_centers/genital_herpes/default.htm and get more information before you totally remove this person from your life. There are drugs around now that almost completely supress both transmission and active episodes. You owe this person enough (assuming you actually like them enough to want sex with them) to at least get as much info as possible.

 

[*rose of lit*]

Thank you all for your posts and comments. I do find it intersting that one can go dormant for years and yet others can have regular out breaks. I have also been told that men can carry it and never know they have it. Has anyone known of a case where oral is spread to genital or genital to oral?

I do have many questions and the answers seem to be as many.

 

[Nefarious]

There are 2 primary herpes viruses, Herpes Simplex I is the "Cold Sore" herpes, and Herpes Simplex II is the "Genital Herpes". For all practical purposes, they are interchangable. You can get cold sore herpes on your genitals, and you can get genital herpes on your face. I believe that treatments are the same for either one.

 

[styxitnu]

Live or Die

As for liberal moron chemE-student she forgot to mention that there is a direct link with the virus and cervical cancer if you would run away from a car that was about to hit you, why not also run form cancer also there is no CURE and the drugs only help with symptoms.

I suspect that Ms. chemE-student is infected with the virus and that may not mean much to her but the rest of us??????.

 

[tendril]

Re: Live or Die

As for liberal moron chemE-student she forgot to mention that there is a direct link with the virus and cervical cancer if you would run away from a car that was about to hit you, why not also run form cancer also there is no CURE and the drugs only help with symptoms.

I suspect that Ms. chemE-student is infected with the virus and that may not mean much to her but the rest of us??????.

What a mean and stupid thing to say about someone you don't know.

 

[*rose of lit*]

Re: Live or Die

As for liberal moron chemE-student she forgot to mention that there is a direct link with the virus and cervical cancer if you would run away from a car that was about to hit you, why not also run form cancer also there is no CURE and the drugs only help with symptoms.

I suspect that Ms. chemE-student is infected with the virus and that may not mean much to her but the rest of us??????.

I am with tendil, this thread is meant to help not harm. I think the information given here can help not only me, but others with the same questions.

Who are we to judge what others do with their lives?

Thank you again to everyone who has posted and has sent me pm's. As with anything, this is a life choice and I can only hope to make the right one. The only way to make the right one, is to know all I can about the subject.

 

[*rose of lit*]

WoW, you mean to tell me that with all the sex that happens on this site, no one else has run into this? How can this be, 2 in 5 carry the virus and yet only 11 posts? Why are STD's so taboo and why are people who carry them or contract them outcasts? If they didn't tell you, would it matter?

 

[ChemE_student]

What a strange thing to say...why would you make a claim like that? I have never said that I was anything other than a scientist, and the scientific perspective says that you should gather all possible evidence before choosing a course of action. I don't believe in rushing to conclusion based on the advice of any single human being, no matter how much I trust them. I like to learn for myself. That was all I was trying to say.

As for STDs, there are a lot of people out there who carry them and never even know it. There are people who never tell their partners because of the fear that they will react as some of those on this thread have responded. Is it better to simply go about one's business or to warn one's potential partner? I say the latter, and I say that people who are brave enough to admit it deserve at least the consideration of serious thought, rather than emotional judgement. I wish *rose of lit* the best of luck in her search for knowledge.