Staying erect during ass play

[polrky1]

I like ass play from time to time, but I cannot stay erect when I insert my toys in my ass. Any over the counter pills that would do the trick? I don't want to have to take Viagra, Levitra or Cialis, but I am tired of a limp penis when I cum.

 

[SweetErika]

And you've tried touching your cock during ass play to no avail?

Hubby can get soft if we're doing ass play alone, but as soon as we involve his cock, he gets hard immediately and has no problem coming with an erection. He finds the combo to produce better orgasms, anyway, so there's really no reason to ignore his cock.

I've never heard of an OTC pill working like ED drugs, and more than that, supplements aren't standardized or regulated and can be dangerous -- especially when they mess with the vascular system (ephedra/ma huang is a great example of this). While certain herbs may improve genital blood flow, they're not a "natural Viagra," and you should definitely thoroughly research the clinically proven benefits and risks and talk to your doctor before taking them.

 

[SubNebGuy]

And you've tried touching your cock during ass play to no avail?

Hubby can get soft if we're doing ass play alone, but as soon as we involve his cock, he gets hard immediately and has no problem coming with an erection. He finds the combo to produce better orgasms, anyway, so there's really no reason to ignore his cock.

+1

I often go 3/4 soft when my bum is being toyed/spanked/licked...but the instant she starts touching my penis, it gets rock hard.

My only other thought is to try a cock ring. Since it applies some pressure to the base of the penis, I've notice I don't go soft as quickly if I'm wearing one.

then again we don't use that much, so it could simply be the novelty of wearing it keeping me a little more aroused. i still think there's merit to the idea, since medical penis pumps use a band around the penis, plus a vacuum pump, to create and hold an erection.

but again I wouldn't worry too much about it. if anal play is somewhat new to you, its probably just your mind playing games on your penis....you'll get used to the whole thing and it quickly won't be a problem.

 

[subwannabe]

I'm not totally sure what you mean in your post. Are you having sex with a woman or are you complaining about when you are alone? If with a woman what exactly is going on? Are you trying to fuck her in some way with toys in your ass or what exactly are you doing? In any event, I don't think you are alone on this. I like ass play too, mostly for the thought process and some pleasure too but I believe my cock is usually not as hard either with something in it, especially something good size. I have also noticed that it effects my orgasm. It can help bring orgasm faster and maybe even more pleasurably but I have noticed that I don't shoot as far or as hard with something in my ass. I'm not sure if it effects the amount I cum or not. I'm also not sure if you can do anything about this or not. You may have to accept it for what it is and work around the issue.

 

[polrky1]

It's when I am by myself. I have seen videos where a TS is getting fucked, but completely erect. I figure it is from Viagra or something like that, but I don't want to have to resort to something like that. I have toys that are by no means small, but they are not huge either. Several nights ago I was with my wife and she started playing with my ass at the same time, and I started to go soft. I don't have problems coming with my toys in my ass; I would rather stroke a hard cock than a limp one. I was just wondering if supplements like Orexis or MagnaRX would produce similar results.

 

[silverwhisper]

polryk1, are you sure anal play is something you enjoy?

if so: are you sure you aren't having some mixed feelings about the experience, for whatever reasons?

if not: why are you doing it?

not sure: is it novelty that's driving your interest? there's nothing of which you should be ashamed if that's the case.

ed

 

[borborite]

I lose my erection during anal penetration, but I love ass play. From what I have heard, some men lose erections, and some maintain them. It doesn't have anything to do with how much you enjoy the act.

- Jesse

 

[polrky1]

I LOVE anal play and have enjoyed it for several years. I have done it with my wife a couple of times too. I am definitely not ashamed of it.

 

[AzDeez]

Just to add to the general consensus here. I enjoy ass play alone and with a partner and it really depends on the level of the play time. I have been both erect and soft. It has gone up and then we get to playing more analy and it will decrease a bit. At first I was so into the new feelings of the anal probe that my cock would go soft but as soon as I thought less about it and enjoyed the whole experience it was hard again.

When you get past the newness or whatever is tricking your dick the dual sensasion of anal and cock stim at the same time is awesome.

 

[SweetErika]

It's when I am by myself. I have seen videos where a TS is getting fucked, but completely erect. I figure it is from Viagra or something like that, but I don't want to have to resort to something like that. I have toys that are by no means small, but they are not huge either. Several nights ago I was with my wife and she started playing with my ass at the same time, and I started to go soft. I don't have problems coming with my toys in my ass; I would rather stroke a hard cock than a limp one. I was just wondering if supplements like Orexis or MagnaRX would produce similar results.

Well, if you don't need to be hard for sex, why does it matter if you're hard or not?

You didn't answer the question about playing with your cock during anal. Have you tried it?

Don't waste your money on "natural Viagra" supplements. If they really worked, we all would have heard about it and people wouldn't spend so much on ED drugs.

Do work on becoming comfortable with having a soft(er) cock during anal, or not worrying what your cock's doing, as long as you're enjoying yourself. If you keep worrying about it, you'll likely create a psychological problem for yourself and you may have trouble getting hard during anal, no matter what you do.

 

[uptoplay2]

if you aren't trying to penetrate...

If the anal is being done for you... and someone else's enjoyment... sit back.. relax... enjoy. You can cum just fine with a limp cock... and still get hard for your real orgasm later... thus the plus of your prostate... and milking and analgasms! It's pretty natural to go limp I think.

If the head of your... tribe is taking you... you really don't want to piss him (or her) off by baring your hardened cock... (personally... I just want my tribe to be Amazons) Then again SHE might want to know she's pleasing you... the endless stream of precum would be a dead give away.

 

[alaskabibear]

I think it's a variable thing - sometimes up and sometimes down. And if you watch much gay porn (especially non-pro like redtube, etc) you'll notice there is a mix of hard and soft among the participants - seems to me that it is just a normal thing. (also, I think erections have to do with mental stimulation as much as physical - maybe sometimes you're just not "into it"?) Try to just relax and enjoy the experience regardless of how your "friend" responds.

 

[bhg08054]

I think each of us may be "wired" just a little differently.

For me, I prefer anal and penile stimulation to be separate.

I am usually soft while enjoying anal stimulation, and don't enjoy playing with my penis while I have anything in my ass.

Likewise, I don't enjoy having anything in my ass while playing with my penis.

 

[Always_loopy]

My b/f always gets softer when I play with his ass too, that doesn't mean he isn't still begging for more. If I play with his cock he gets rock hard again in seconds.
Maybe you need additional stimulation, watch something that really turns you on, or get your wife to join in more often.