StrongMaster7
Literotica Guru
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- Dec 3, 2004
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I just read, in someone's profile, that they had divorced and were joining Lit in order to find a new mate.
I had never thought of Lit as a place for anything other than sexual hookups. But the more I thought about it, the more sense it made.
It is odd the way relationships evolve. Often, we become trapped by the events that happen early on. And we never get a second chance to create the relationship we really want out of fear of destroying the relationship we have, even if it's not really what we want. We don't want to hurt feelings. We don't want to 'walk back' anything we've said. And so we are stuck.
I was years into my relationship when my partner confided that she simply didn't care that much about sex. During our courtship, every time we were together, we had sex. I thought that was how it was going to be. She told me, in essence, that the party was over. What was I going to do, divorce her? Try explaining that one to your friends and family (and maybe to your kids).
"Yeah, I was hoping for a wild sex life. I wanted anal and maybe to get pegged. I thought we'd have a giant sex toy closet filled with vibrators and butt plugs. But, she just wants five minutes of missionary once a week. So, I'm leaving her. You support me, right?"
But if I did get a 'do-over', I think Lit might be a way to be completely honest and open about the details of what one really wants and find someone who is really compatible. It's great to have a place where one can be 100% truthful about who we are and what we want.
I had never thought of Lit as a place for anything other than sexual hookups. But the more I thought about it, the more sense it made.
It is odd the way relationships evolve. Often, we become trapped by the events that happen early on. And we never get a second chance to create the relationship we really want out of fear of destroying the relationship we have, even if it's not really what we want. We don't want to hurt feelings. We don't want to 'walk back' anything we've said. And so we are stuck.
I was years into my relationship when my partner confided that she simply didn't care that much about sex. During our courtship, every time we were together, we had sex. I thought that was how it was going to be. She told me, in essence, that the party was over. What was I going to do, divorce her? Try explaining that one to your friends and family (and maybe to your kids).
"Yeah, I was hoping for a wild sex life. I wanted anal and maybe to get pegged. I thought we'd have a giant sex toy closet filled with vibrators and butt plugs. But, she just wants five minutes of missionary once a week. So, I'm leaving her. You support me, right?"
But if I did get a 'do-over', I think Lit might be a way to be completely honest and open about the details of what one really wants and find someone who is really compatible. It's great to have a place where one can be 100% truthful about who we are and what we want.
