Standing up for others

[Guest]

Today, someone I've known for only a short time was teased in a very horrible way. There were lots of witnesses, including myself. I am horrified to say, I am the only one who said it wasn't funny and way out of line...that caused a great silence. I am disappointed in the others that I knew that stood around and laughed at something so cruel.

I would rather be liked by a few or none at all, then go along with the crowd just to be accepted. Tearing someone else down for sport is never ok in my book of personal rules. I was taught that if you haven't got something nice to say, don't say it at all.

I don't like conflict and as a rule I try to avoid it at all costs. I suck at it. After today though, I decided that it's ok to get involved when someone needs help. I'd rather be remembered as someone who tried to help than someone who just stood by and watched. I've been told that is stupid in the society we live in today..."look out for #1", blah, blah, blah...that you never know who has a gun or a knife or whatever. I understand that but how can it be ok to watch other people get hurt who don't deserve it?

 

[PacificBlue]

whoops...I logged myself out.

 

[truegentleman]

You did the right thing.

It takes a big person to go against the crowd when you see something wrong. You should be proud of yourself. I just wish more people would do the right thing, instead of the popular thing.

 

[truegentleman]

whoops...I logged myself out.

I knew that this had to be someone with a good heart.

 

[sunstruck]

Not to give you shit, but if all that's true why are you posting unregistered?

 

[cybergirly]

It's never ok!

I make it a point of all ways being the one to stand up and say "you people are wrong, what you are doing is not right!" At first I was thouht of as a bitch, and wasn't excepted as part of the "group", but once people realized that I treated everyone excately the same (while at the same time not allowing anyone to take advantage of me) I became the "cool one" in my social/work group.

 

[sunstruck]

whoops...I logged myself out.

I take it back.

 

[PacificBlue]

I take it back.

I took to long in typing my original post.

 

[riff]

I'll beat the shit out of them with a piece of heavy chain.

Starblayde was right.

 

[Guest]

You did the right thing. Is the picked on person OK?

 

[koalabear]

Just keep being yourself PB.

 

[PacificBlue]

You did the right thing. Is the picked on person OK?

I think so.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Good for you PB.

I love standing up for someone being squashed for no good reason.

 

[lovetoread]

I've done it.

I'll do it again.

It pisses me off to see people act this way.

 

[Starfish]

Your points are very decent. I can't see how anyone can really down others without some degree of guilt, but it happens all of the time. I have even felt bad and hypocritical for making fun of yayati regardless for his atrocious tendancies to be cruel, and very outrageously assuming. The recent uptake of posting long winded stories or bible takes is good. It is better than being like him and slinging hate speech about him.

This situation that you bring up, though, has little to do with protecting one's self in spite of others. It has everything to do with group mind fucks. If that is what those people think, then that sort of justification for people being mean is just tripe. The mentality you bring up is one of unjustifiable selfishness, but for the sadest of reasons... maintaining heard mentality. That isn't just about who is number one, but who is in number one's inner circle.

Selfish people don't use reasonable concepts to justify their behavior. Like you said, these people are so apt to jump to the conclusion that if they are a good person, they are opening themselves up to be fucked over. However, if you are truely good, unselfish, and decent, then you'll be strong inside enough to not feel hurt by someone who is selfish, trying to hurt you, and you'll put your foot down and cut the fuckers off.

Besides, if you know what is in your best interest, and you're out for number one, you'll never be cruel and mean, because what comes around goes around.




Also, I guess I just think there is a difference in being a good person and being nieve. Those people don't know what it means to be good. They only know what they think they have to do to stay on top of what they deem as cool, or hip.

 

[Guest]

I think so.

Good deal. I actually started a thread on this same thing a few months back. And, I got flamed for it. Go figure.

 

[Ezarc]

I have been known to do that. I have gotten shit from people for that. I feel that to pick on someone just shows how weak your soul is.
Take Care,
Ezarc

 

[Debbie]

Today, someone I've known for only a short time was teased in a very horrible way. There were lots of witnesses, including myself. I am horrified to say, I am the only one who said it wasn't funny and way out of line...that caused a great silence. I am disappointed in the others that I knew that stood around and laughed at something so cruel.

I would rather be liked by a few or none at all, then go along with the crowd just to be accepted. Tearing someone else down for sport is never ok in my book of personal rules. I was taught that if you haven't got something nice to say, don't say it at all.

I don't like conflict and as a rule I try to avoid it at all costs. I suck at it. After today though, I decided that it's ok to get involved when someone needs help. I'd rather be remembered as someone who tried to help than someone who just stood by and watched. I've been told that is stupid in the society we live in today..."look out for #1", blah, blah, blah...that you never know who has a gun or a knife or whatever. I understand that but how can it be ok to watch other people get hurt who don't deserve it?

Thank you PacificBlue for standing up for others and not turning a blind eye when someone needed help.
I feel the same as you. How can I stand by, do nothing and watch out for no 1? Knowing I can make a difference and help someone is something I have done again and again. I only hope when I need help someone like you will be there for me.
Yes, getting involved can be dangerous and you need to gauge the situation that you may be stepping into. But those who stand and watch, do they never think this could happen to them or their relatives and no one will help them?

Thank you for your courage, PacificBlue

 

[Guest]

Fishie...you smell bad. Wash! And click that spell check button cuz you're starting to show that you really are a trailer park reject.

 

[Guest]

Good day, Unreg.

 

[Bidin~Time]

PB you did the right and decent thing.

Only small-minded insecure people run others down, usually in an attempt to make themselves feel superior. An ass is still an ass no matter how superior they feel.

Storm I'm sorry you got flamed when you too should have been applauded.
for you both

 

[bluespoke]

Fishie...you smell bad. Wash! And click that spell check button cuz you're starting to show that you really are a trailer park reject.

Check your own, trash, cuz is not in any dictionary I own.

 

[hatara]

PB I applaud you. There is never a good reason to belittle another human being in that way. Good for you. Hugs

 

[Bidin~Time]

Fishie...you smell bad. Wash! And click that spell check button cuz you're starting to show that you really are a trailer park reject.

An ass is still an ass no matter how superior they feel

Funny how it never takes long for some people to start to feel insecure

 

[markb325]

As someone that used to be that person that was picked on thanks PB. I know the feeling of having one person or a group picking on you because your different. I learned quickly that it didn't do any good to fight these people since they want change no matter. It usually does take someone from the outside to make these people see that what they are doing is wrong.