Stamina Problems

Nycouple28

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I have been having problems lasting when my Gf and I make love. Its really starting to hurt ou relationship, because it gets us both upset, and we end up fighting. Does anyone have any suggestions. Please Help. Thank- You
 
try fucking her first. Let everything go as normal. Then plan on doing it a second time. Normally you will last longer. Does for me.

Or masturbate and learn how to controll yourself!

HOw long do you go for?
 
Try grabbing the bottom of your penis and press your
index finger there when it feels as if you are about to
cum - I read somewhere that it'll delay an orgasm.

/Anders

Nycouple28 said:
I have been having problems lasting when my Gf and I make love. Its really starting to hurt ou relationship, because it gets us both upset, and we end up fighting. Does anyone have any suggestions. Please Help. Thank- You
 
If you have a weak erection to start with, don't use those delaying creams. I have heard tell of an acquaintance who's stiffy flagged every time he used something like that.

Although it's worth a try to see, just get a small set, and do it while masturbating so you don't have to face the embarassment of the lack of wood.

Melesse
 
Nycouple28 said:
I have been having problems lasting when my Gf and I make love. Its really starting to hurt ou relationship, because it gets us both upset, and we end up fighting. Does anyone have any suggestions. Please Help. Thank- You

try variety....alternate fucking with licking and fingering...after you think foreplay is over...restart the foreplay.....take your time and enjoy the scenery while you make her blissfully happy.....then the time you spend stroking will be better and longer in total time....

Just a suggestion that works for me...
 
Just masturbate right before your session, or even better, have your GF make you cum during foreplay. Then when you're up again, you should last longer.
 
Nycouple28 said:
I have been having problems lasting when my Gf and I make love. Its really starting to hurt ou relationship, because it gets us both upset, and we end up fighting. Does anyone have any suggestions. Please Help. Thank- You


Couple of things here:

1. You don't state whether your inability to "last" is due to pre-mature ejaculation or an inability to hold an erection.

2. You don't state your age, nor is it in your profile.

Personally, I don't understand how this type of thing can lead to an argument, unless once you either ejaculate or lose an erection (whichever one it is), you lose all interest in making love.

If you are suffering from pre-mature ejaculation, there are many techniques you can try. Many good ones given here. If you have an inability to hold an erection, it would depend on various factors. Your age might be a big one - as men age, they sometimes have difficulty maintaining an erection. Could also happen if you drink alcohol. There might be some sort of physical problem, especially if this is something that has just recently developed with this woman.

More information is needed before anyone can truly offer up advice to try to help you out.
 
Re: Re: Stamina Problems

SexyChele said:
Personally, I don't understand how this type of thing can lead to an argument, unless once you either ejaculate or lose an erection (whichever one it is), you lose all interest in making love.

I'm in agreement with Chele here...

"argument"???

It makes me wonder as to the maturity of the BOTH of you folks here. Is this someone you want to be sleeping with in the first place? What's to argue about??

This is something to be discussed sure... but to argue over? Is there a winner/ loser scenario in this?:confused: :confused: :confused:

Communication seems to be SORELY lacking here.:( :rolleyes:
 
If you cum prematurely and aren't using a condom, try one. It's not too intimate, but it does desensitize you, or at least according to my exboyfriend.
 
If you cum prematurely and aren't using a condom, try one. It's not too intimate, but it does desensitize you, or at least according to my exboyfriend.

i totally agree with this one. I wil put one on and i can sit there for a good 2 hrs. Then i just get bored and do something else. try the condom trick.

I can see how this would make you guys upset. Its the things you don't expect to happen that can cause fights. I would say to her look i want to try a few things and see what happens. IF they all fail, and you better try all these suggestions. Then i would go to a doctor or something.

sexy people argue over the most stupid stuff. I totally understand, and i don't think age would have anything to do with this. Yes older men may have this problem,but it affects all men no matter what age. Just from what i have been told mind you not.:D
 
I see where he is cummin from

(sorry had to that)

Anyway..I dont think he or his girlfriend are unsual or immature at all. He wants to last longer and she feels a little put out when he cums to quickly. She prefers to cum with his cock inside her and not some other way.

Here is my advice

Kegel exercises....start doing them yesterday. Keep at it and keep working up the amount you can do and I garantee you'll see some results.

Lose weight and exercise....I dont know why but it makes a big dfference...probably has something to do with your circulation.



For now tell her you understand what she wants and that your working on it and that your confident your stamina will get better.



My two cents
 
when you think your gonna cum, pull out and go down on her....then when your calmed down or she has gotten off go for it again
 
lovechild i disagree. for me when i "do" go down on a girl. it justs me more excited. I think this would happen for him to. I am not saying don't try it, but most likely it will not work. ::shruggs::

I still say the condom. Besides where is nycouple28? i want an update....
 
Not sure if this will help but personally, when I want it to last I'll vary my rhythm. I'll slow down and rise high, and go all the way to the base (I'm on top - duh), rinse, repeat. The different sensation keeps the erection but slows down the proverbial train.

In my experience though, some guys can really start to ache after you do this three times...almost like orgasm plateaus. Some don't, but it's one of those things you don't want to risk, you know? Life's little lessons.

From the guy's perspective, would it help if you slowed down periodically? I mean, not as if you were stopping, but as if you were really deliberately intending every inch of contact, every stroke, every move was purposeful and heavy with attention. Personally the slow times are my favorite. Maybe she'll like it.
 
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