Spouses with mental illnesses

[Travelguy2022]

Well, that torpedoed quite disastrously into flaming heap, but I'm gonna say this nicely as I can then I'll fuck off and it's aimed at no specific person. I was genuinely curious at first. I wanted an idea of other's experiences also. Now, I'm just strongly reminded why I'm such a damn misanthrope. Y'all can drop to teen gamer levels of human decency in a hurry can't you?

If any of this is actually a legitimate person seeking some advice and feedback in a mental health topic, sorry this is the dumb shit offered. I'll agree things weren't always clear but still. That into this?
I'll say this to you, because its about the best I have to add to this waste of my time....
Its not easy and there's some really rough days, I know.
I've never hit a woman but my ex got me quite close a night or two. If you love her, then love her unconditionally and don't give up.
People have so many opinions of mental health but speak from bad TV stereotypes and poor understanding of how dark and deep the cave goes.
Unless, it's seen or experienced personally (not a short conversation in passing you later laugh and joke about with friends), then all people do is toss out words, labels, and terms that do nothing but further trivialize the subject in general. The real victims struggle for any help that can be found in the disaster we call American "healthcare". A highball and cigarette to one person is a night ending in an arm covered in burns and a blackout to another. But sure let's ....ugh smfh.
Mental health. Substance abuse. Its some serious shit and if you've never experienced the struggles, I hope it stays that way. I've been using my phone over a year now to help chronicle the sweeping ups and downs. The clips can get pretty unsettling. How else will I become better equipped to gain understanding if I don't study the f'ng issue and my ticks more closely to even have a chance to fix it. None if it is a damn gimmick or ploy to be manipulated, but damn sure isn't something to be used as an insult or joke to be hurled online at people by other grown ass adults.
This is really hard stuff to do without good support but hey I'm just a damn maniac anyway, eh? Probably why I'm single and don't have any kids huh? Need more therapy...

People really need to stay seated and quiet until they decide they want to actually stand for something... Hate me now. I'm finally done.

Thank you @KamikazeClaymore . My post is 100% legitimate. People's BS responses didn't get to me. They just kept my post at the top of the msg board. I've connected with a small handful of people who are going through what I am, who PM'd me so they wouldn't go through the crap people here tried to start with me. Whether it's caring for a mentally ill person, or caring for a person with substance abuse, it was good to hear that I wasn't alone, and I've been given some great suggestions which I have followed (including going back to a therapist). I take things day by day. Most days are up days, but the down days are really bad, and it's scary how much a person's mind can make them believe in things that are not real. All I can do is stand by her, and continue to help, even on her dark days.

 

[rockcasbah]

It’s usually the ex that is mentally ill, right?