Spit the Cat

[Dapperguy]

Can the proper noun “Bitch,”
be used as a term of endearment? Or, is it always a negative expression of domination? My friend calls his wife: ‘the Bitch’ to her face, but he treats her as his equal. I don’t think this is a healthy title for his wife. Am I wrong?

 

[tnhardon]

Can the proper noun “Bitch,”
be used as a term of endearment? Or, is it always a negative expression of domination? My friend calls his wife: ‘the Bitch’ to her face, but he treats her as his equal. I don’t think this is a healthy title for his wife. Am I wrong?

I’ve heard of women or gay men using the term bitch playfully with women. Coming from a straight guy, I’d struggle to find a way in which it would be taken well.

 

[jedclampet69]

Amazing how upset some get over just a word .. so many quotes memoirs etc stating .. Actions speak louder than words .. Yet character intension etc can be destroyed by just one word .. We becoming a soft lot

 

[magicalmoments]

It depends on the couple. If the spouse accepts the name and sees it as an endearment I don't see the problem. The only issue arises when the spouse doesn't like it, regards it as abusive and wants it to stop but the partner keeps on using it.

You don't know the history of how this "nickname" arose. It could come from some treasured sexual moment they shared in the distant past. It could be she finds being called a demeaning name in front of friends stimulating.

I've said it on other posts, just because you find something unusual or offensive doesn't mean you're right for everyone. Mind your own business.

 

[ZfrkS62]

Listen to tradesmen talk to their friends. 'Bitch' is probably the second favorite name next to 'Fucker'. I can a couple of my female friends 'Bitch'.

Anything can be used as a term of endearment. Just depends on the inflection.

 

[CuttingEdge]

Ultimately, I don't think it makes for a healthy relationship.

How could it? While she accepts and tolerates it, how can she control exactly when he uses the term? At some point he will become too flippant with the term, and while meaning it genteelly, just one slip, said when she really wanted to feel loved and respected, and he lets loose with "Bitch" and she is left feeling embarrassed... or worse... humiliated. How could she NOT resent that?

I have five daughters; if one of their husbands or boyfriends referred to one of them as a Bitch routinely, we would quickly come to a painful understanding. A slip... yeah I could let that go, but more than once or twice... no... not happening.

 

[Bray123]

My workmate has his wife entered on his phone as 'Psycho'. He's not that great on tech and he says that she created the contact and named it herself.

 

[cocktaildress21]

My girlfriend calls me whore - and many, many other things, some of them much nicer. All are welcome. I should add, maybe, that she uses the dirtier appelations only when we're alone =)

 

[Rob_Royale]

My wife calls herself a bitch, but it's her way of saying, "I'm a strong-willed, opinionated, brash woman, and I'm not shy about it." But I don't call her that or refer to her as such.

 

[CuttingEdge]

My fun name for my first wife was "Pudgy Gut", and called her that for years in a fun way. But now looking back at my 20 year old self, I think it was absolutely stupid to do. I asked her during our divorce if that term had anything to do with our divorce and she assured me it wasn't, but it was incredibly arrogant of me to think that it did not have some impact on her.

The older I get, the less I say, and I think that is a sign of maturity and intelligence...

 

[StrongMaster7]

Words have the meaning that the listener gives them. When I call my friend by a 'funny', insulting nickname, he knows that I mean it with affection, not aggression. My tone of voice, my facial expression, our years of friendship all let him know what I mean when call him that.

 

[JessGabriel]

My husband used to playfully say, "you bitch," when I'd do something bratty or I'd surpass him at something silly like playing a higher scoring word on Words With Friends. I never took it as derogatory because that was never the tone. For me, it's not the words used, it's the intent behind them that's important.

 

[Chernosoth]

Bitch is so common now that it needs adjectives to indicate specific type: basic bitch, bad bitch, bubblegum bitch, etc.

 

[Inbef]

Call me old-fashioned but I have always refused to open p0rn links that have bitch and other derogatory terms in its title.