Spicy messaging

[KimGordon67]

My boyfriend and I live a couple of hours apart. We see each other every two or three weeks normally (sometimes less, sometimes more). We've been together two-and-a-half years. We have great sex, and we both know that we've got a lot more to explore together. But one thing that's always been a bit tricky is some consistent flirting over text when we're not together. I find this unusual - most of the 'things' I've had that have been either entirely online or at a distance have involved a fair bit of sexy texting, but it seems to make my current BF feel a bit awkward unless he's had a few drinks. He's not like that when we're together. I would like to try to build that up a bit, but obviously don't want to make him feel weird. Any thoughts about this?

 

[EmmAgain]

Oh boy! Sounds like you could sit down with him and explore what he feels comfortable with in terms of texting - kinda loosen him up a bit? What about pics and FaceTime? That’s can make the whole expertise feel more ‘alive’. You might also settle on an erotic author and encourage him to develop his literary confidence?

Just spitballin’! I’m no good at writing - it’s always been about the pics and vids with me - so it’s very possible your darling bf just needs to work on his writing skills. I’m sure he’d value your encouragement and feedback.

Happy exploring and good luck!

 

[KimGordon67]

Oh boy! Sounds like you could sit down with him and explore what he feels comfortable with in terms of texting - kinda loosen him up a bit? What about pics and FaceTime? That’s can make the whole expertise feel more ‘alive’. You might also settle on an erotic author and encourage him to develop his literary confidence?

Just spitballin’! I’m no good at writing - it’s always been about the pics and vids with me - so it’s very possible your darling bf just needs to work on his writing skills. I’m sure he’d value your encouragement and feedback.

Happy exploring and good luck!

You might be right ... it might be the need to write stuff that's difficult for him. I know what you mean about pics/video calls, but I'd kind of like to send him some sexy messages when he's at work, when overtly visual stuff might not be so appropriate.

 

[UtilityCurve]

You might be right ... it might be the need to write stuff that's difficult for him. I know what you mean about pics/video calls, but I'd kind of like to send him some sexy messages when he's at work, when overtly visual stuff might not be so appropriate.

I would bet on it. Writing has been dying a slow death, first the telephone (1876) and more recently SMS/text messaging/Twitter limits.

Schools are so desperate to preserve/conserve reading skills (and fighting that near-vertical battle) that writing isn't de-emphasized as it is squeezed out.

Too, it has been suggested (and I agree) that as keyboarding replaced cursive handwriting, writing on those keyboards broke a synergy between the speed of thoughtful thought and getting it written down.

I told my daughter, there's a reason there's no Nobel Prize for reading.

 

[just4me350]

My boyfriend and I live a couple of hours apart. We see each other every two or three weeks normally (sometimes less, sometimes more). We've been together two-and-a-half years. We have great sex, and we both know that we've got a lot more to explore together. But one thing that's always been a bit tricky is some consistent flirting over text when we're not together. I find this unusual - most of the 'things' I've had that have been either entirely online or at a distance have involved a fair bit of sexy texting, but it seems to make my current BF feel a bit awkward unless he's had a few drinks. He's not like that when we're together. I would like to try to build that up a bit, but obviously don't want to make him feel weird. Any thoughts about this?

My hubby is the same way. He is weirdly awkward when it comes to sexy emails or texts (with me anyway)! It's like he's almost embarrassed or something. I don't even try anymore. I have a friend who sends her hubby sexy pics and things all the time. Am i missing OUT?!?

 

[Experimentalist]

You might be right ... it might be the need to write stuff that's difficult for him. I know what you mean about pics/video calls, but I'd kind of like to send him some sexy messages when he's at work, when overtly visual stuff might not be so appropriate.

Even if he’s not good at (or uncomfortable with) the writing, he likely really appreciates what you send whether words or pictures.

 

[BillyWalrus]

My hubby is the same way. He is weirdly awkward when it comes to sexy emails or texts (with me anyway)! It's like he's almost embarrassed or something. I don't even try anymore. I have a friend who sends her hubby sexy pics and things all the time. Am i missing OUT?!?

Yes.

 

[KimGordon67]

My hubby is the same way. He is weirdly awkward when it comes to sexy emails or texts (with me anyway)! It's like he's almost embarrassed or something. I don't even try anymore. I have a friend who sends her hubby sexy pics and things all the time. Am i missing OUT?!?

I'm trying to ease into it gently. Yesterday I just messaged him while he was at work and said 'So now I'm not working I have time to think about things that are much more 'fun' ... ' ... he responded asking if he should be afraid ... I said maybe a little
That feels like a good start ... I might try something else tomorrow.

 

[KimGordon67]

Even if he’s not good at (or uncomfortable with) the writing, he likely really appreciates what you send whether words or pictures.

I guess ... I just don't want to make him feel embarrassed or awkward.

 

[Experimentalist]

I guess ... I just don't want to make him feel embarrassed or awkward.

Have you asked him if he likes the messages? I know I would very much enjoy getting them.

 

[Abe881]

My wife can be the same way but when she is in the mood hot damn. Sometimes for her it just takes some coaxing is all.