Speaking of IM's

[Juliangel]

Why is it that you can talk to someone day after day on the board yet you do not feel you can approach them in an IM?

 

[Mackdaddy_74]

I would like to know also, I am the same way at times.

 

[Guest]

With all due respect, Julie, but maybe it's just you? I mean...maybe it's you who feels unable to approach people. I have a section in my buddy list called "Lit Buddies", and there is now 8 people there. I also talk to several others who haven't quite made the list yet since I don't talk to them as frequently.

 

[Mackdaddy_74]

I think part of it is how "well" you know the person also.

 

[R Nitelight]

Juliangel

I can speak for only one person who fits that profile, and at the moment he feels quite unworthy of your friendship.

 

[Guest]

I think part of it is how "well" you know the person also.

Not always babe. A while back, when didn't know Xander well, he IMed me out of the blue one morning when Lit was down. Freaked the hell outta me, but I talked to him. lol After starting to talk to him in IMs, I started talking to Ravenloft for the FIRST (yes, that's right, first) time on the board. I dug into his profile to see if he had an AIM screen name, sure enough he did, so I IMed him. Simple as that. I think I freaked the hell out of him on that one. ROFL!

 

[Mackdaddy_74]

But in general, it depends alot on how well you know them. Or want to know them for that matter.

 

[Guest]

Well, hell, since I seem to disagree with you on this one, we could end out having a whole "IM conversation" here...and heaven forbid! Especially since you're one of the 8 in my buddy list... ROFL

 

[Ezzy]

Well...

My feelings on this are that it is to do with the immediacy of the exchange, on the BB you have the time to review and re-evaluate your answer as many times as you want to.

In an IM chat you are on the spot as soon as the words are visible on your screen, and if you are intending to use ICQ, the other person can even see the way you construct your sentences.

In some ways it is the same as in a chat room, the immediacy is / can be part of the attraction, the adrenaline starts to flow along with the words, the spirit soars as the words dash from your fingertips to the screen, showing the flashes of brilliance as you spar and manoeuvre in the dance of wit and intelligence, (oooooops sorry that’s me LMAO).

Any of this ring a bell?



EZ http://cgi.tripod.com/smilecwm/cgi-bin/s/cwm2/sleep.gif

 

[Ravenloft]

I have 19 litians in my buddy list...

 

[Guest]

I have 19 litians in my buddy list...

You cyber slut you! I need to catch up now. Is that # through Compuserve or ICQ? lol I have a few at ICQ also...

 

[Ravenloft]

Oh? We bringing ICQ into this too?! I have 29 over there! And ITS about time you realized how much of a man whore I am! Sheesh!

 

[Guest]

Well, my grand total # on my AOL buddy list is 31. I used to have over 90 back when I hung out in the Omaha room and went out to their functions more.

 

[Samuari]

I'm really kinda shy, and I think that each of the peaple that I IM invited, or contacted me about it first. But I think that I would enjoy knowing most of you much better.

 

[Ravenloft]

All together with all THREE IM progies I have I have 53 peoples... HAH! Bite me! Heheh!

 

[Guest]

HAHA! Bite me! Heheh!

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[Ravenloft]

Ooo! It hurts so GOOD! HEheh!

 

[R Nitelight]

53 People

How do you manage 53 people? I have 3, and I'm neglecting people.

 

[Guest]

Nitelight...

I can't speak for Jason, but on my buddylists...not everyone is on all at the same time. Also, there are many people I have listed but that I don't talk with that much anymore...

 

[Ravenloft]

It can get hectic... I have had up to six im's going on all at the same time. Keeps me sharp and made me a little faster of a typer... Its not a good thing to keep three girls that are trying to domme you waiting...
I mostly let the people initiate the IM sessions then go from there... There are about five out of the 53 people that I will always start a session with if they dont start one first though.

 

[teresafannin]

I have ICQ, but use it mostly to talk to my sister, although a few of the Lit folks are on my contact list. I have received a lot of ICQ messages from total strangers, but I just put them on the ignore list. My ICQ is listed under my regular online name, so a lot of people don't know it is me. I have to know someone fairly well before adding them to my contact list.

 

[Nicole]

Not sure about everyone else but I have a few names on AIM, I hang out at one more than the others when waiting for my sweetness to come online. When he's on everyone else quite simply gets blocked or ignored, don't like to ignore people so I have a name especially for him that only he and his wife knows. Glad I have too.

I don't have ICQ anymore, but I know that when I did I went on private.

Juliangel it's normal for you to feel that you can not approch people, the best thing I have found to do is Email the person first, get to know them and then ask if they Have AIM, go from there.

Ezzy if you ever wanna talk to this little Aussie you only have to say in your next Email babe and we will talk.

Juliangel if you would like to talk just let me know and I'll pass my name on. I don't like to say on here because too many "lurkers" have IM'ed me looking for Cyber sex, and since I do love my honey, I don't want that.

I guess what I'm saying is you only have to ask and you will be shocked by the response.

 

[April]

I guess what I'm saying is you only have to ask and you will be shocked by the response.

That is so very true. I was absolutely stunned by the response I got when I started a thread about the different IM services. I mentioned a couple of times that I wouldn't mind talking to anybody who wanted to. Absolutely amazing! A resounding chorus of....silence. But you never know if you don't ask.

 

[Guest]

A matter of Etiquette

 

[Matthew D]

Indy,
I know what you mean about conflicting opinions.. I was just talking to Juliangel about that the other night on AIM.. Makes me feel really strange at times just to jump in and say Hi, what you doing tonight or whatever..