Spanking for fun--not punishment

[Valendon]

I enjoy getting my ass warmed from time to time, but not as discipline--not even in role play. This has been tough for some lovers to understand! Spanking for most has always meant punishment, and when the subject comes up it's inevitably linked to dom/sub or discipline.

I can be a top or bottom, but I don't enjoy dishing out whacks as punishment either. If someone gets a rush from the sting, like I do, I'm happy to oblige, but if they feel like they deserve to be hurt, punished, humiliated, etc, it's a complete turnoff for me. In all sex, I'd rather be an equal partner.

Anyone else?

 

[Lord_Johnny]

It's a quandary

It's always a quandary for me. On the one hand, I love swatting a woman's ass for mutual pleasure. It's something that I use as part of foreplay or right before orgasm to drive her that little bit beyond a "normal" orgasm.

On the other hand, I'm also a Dom and discipline does enter the occasion at times. Spanking is, as you said, one of the most common types of discipline. So, in some ways, that makes sense to me as well.

Honestly, I'm not sure where I stand on this one. I'm completely willing to do both. I think it comes down a bit to the specific relationship.

 

[live4thebj]

Girls tried it on me and doesn't do anything for me. I did a single spank to several spanks on woman/mothers and that turned on their horny switch from 0 to 100.

 

[KaseE]

I enjoy it both ways.

Certainly, when I'm in "sub space," the use of spankings as discipline serves perfectly to remind me of my role and place, which is very comforting at those times.

Even when not engaged in that (which is rare for me these days), a few good swats on the bottom is still a powerful turn on. The shaking it gives my private area along with the sting on the nearby skin gets me instantly wet and horny like flipping on a switch.

I think that's true of most women.

 

[Farawyn]

I like when he spanks me for pleasure.

 

[Samrita]

I like when he spanks me for pleasure.

I have to confess I too like being spanked for pleasure [it is a very intense turn-on] as well as an instrument of submission in role-plays

 

[Farawyn]

I have to confess I too like being spanked for pleasure [it is a very intense turn-on] as well as an instrument of submission in role-plays

Yes.
A HARD smack.

 

[ReadyOne]

We called them "Good Girl Spankings".

Started very gently.

Ramped up slowly until my hand stung and she was crying.

If I (i.e. my hand) gave up first, I would switch to gently rubbing her clit, or wiggling fingers hard on her g-spot. She would orgasm quick, and it was like a psychologically reset -- she was calm, loving, unstressed, happy, bright and cheerful.

If she yelled "Fuck me!", I would take her rough and hard and she would fuck back like a wild woman. Occasionally after a "Fuck Me!", she would start fighting as soon as I started moving her. This was her rape fantasy, where orgasm made her surrender then tell me "do what ever I wanted" to her.

She also had a thing for "neat pain". When she was turned on, pain became stimulation. Spanking could be very good for her!

 

[scott6251]

some men like it too

 

[Valendon]

We called them "Good Girl Spankings".

Started very gently.

She also had a thing for "neat pain". When she was turned on, pain became stimulation. Spanking could be very good for her!

"Neat Pain" Yes! There's a certain level of arousal where pain no longer hurts, right?! The gentle, warming strokes to start will get my motor running (if it isn't already.) At some point, especially when I'm close to an orgasm, I can take really hard, noisy whacks with hand or a paddle or a tawse or a crop. The sting and burn seem to go straight to wherever the center of an orgasm lives. If a guy started out at that intensity, I'd likely turn around yank his nuts off, but at the end--- pinch and twist my nipples, smack my ass, and pound me hard!

 

[Valendon]

some men like it too

Indeed they do! But it seems as rare to find a guy who just likes the sting as it is to find one who doesn't consider a request for spanking to be a request to dominate. (I'm lucky to have both a life-long lover-gal and a more recent guy who know juuuuust how I like it!)

 

[slojenniferfizz]

"Neat Pain" Yes! There's a certain level of arousal where pain no longer hurts, right?! The gentle, warming strokes to start will get my motor running (if it isn't already.) At some point, especially when I'm close to an orgasm, I can take really hard, noisy whacks with hand or a paddle or a tawse or a crop. The sting and burn seem to go straight to wherever the center of an orgasm lives. If a guy started out at that intensity, I'd likely turn around yank his nuts off, but at the end--- pinch and twist my nipples, smack my ass, and pound me hard!

I'm with you to a point, Val, but evidently not to the intensity you enjoy. I'm never going to enjoy being anyone's sub, but I do enjoy being warmed up back there. I need to be able to direct how hard and how many smacks get landed. And to someone's point above--yeah! Some guys like it too, and in the same vein we do. I don't tend to end up with guys who like to be subs, so there aren't very many but occasionally if I land a playful spank on a guy's tush, I'll get an "Oooo--nice" and we go from there. I've never wanted anything more than a bare hand, though. (What's a 'tawse'?)

 

[HornyProf]

I like to give spankings

but it usually all in fun, spontaneous part of wanton sex

 

[darlasmaster01]

My sub loved to be spanked for pleasure but at times it was punishment too

 

[yossi]

I loved being spanked for pleasure, both on my bottom and my cunt. There's a notable mental difference between a pleasure spanking and a discipline or punishment spanking. And that difference in my head space, as well as the severity of the spanking, allows me to separate the two. I crave to be spanked, but I don't crave earning a punishment spanking, because I know that comes with disappointment from my partner

I love how my bottom feels being warmed up, and how I'll writhe in delight when he stops to check how wet I'm becoming. It's fucking fantastic.