Spanking as a therapy

[Demaris]

Hello all, I am new here and wondered if anyone else has used spanking as a form of therapy? I am in a loving and trusting relationship, and we have both explored S&M to some degree. We don't really use it in scene way, but experiment during love making. I find any form of spanking (hands, belt etc) to be really stress relieving.

At the moment I am suffering from deep emotional issues that have come to the surface since my Mum died two months ago. I have confidence, anxiety and low self eesteem issues that have risen to the surface because of the grief I'm feeling over my Mum. When my partner has manged to take me to that headspace place, I feel so content, loved and secure. I am thinking of broaching the subject with him to use it as a therapy, as after a session of spanking I feel so much better.

Has this worked for anyone else?

Obviously I am persuing other areas like counselling etc.

Thanks for reading

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Hi Demaris

I think that you and I have some similar issues going on. You don't currently have your private message facility enabled on here but if you would like to chat further please feel free to switch it on in the options menu under user control panel and drop me a line.

(be aware that you shouldn't post an email address or IM on any of the forums)

 

[Demaris]

Hi Velvet,

I have enabled PM's

 

[catalina_francisco]

You will also find a few older threads about this, as well as research conducted into similar ideas.

Catalina

 

[DrHappy]

Demaris,

I remember reading about a recently published study in Russia which reported that spanking could be used to treat depression. I'm sorry that I don't have any links to this, but I'm sure that you can find something easily with an internet search. I don't know if the original publication has been translated or if it is available at at. Having said that, I'd recommend some healthy skepticism. Some Russian medical science is really good, though they have some quackery thrown in. Also, I don't know how effective it claimed to be, or what fraction of the population it worked for.

The theory does sound believable to me. Pain invokes a variety of chemicals in the brain. Spanking wouldn't be such a big hit in these forums if no one felt positively about it.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Some of the previous threads:

A Good News Story

Can BDSM Be Therapeutic?

BDSM As Health Therapy

Curious...Why When I'm Stressed..


Catalina

 

[Demaris]

Thankyou so much for finding the links. The first article is very informative and I will be showing my partner

 

[Demaris]

Demaris,

I remember reading about a recently published study in Russia which reported that spanking could be used to treat depression. I'm sorry that I don't have any links to this, but I'm sure that you can find something easily with an internet search. I don't know if the original publication has been translated or if it is available at at. Having said that, I'd recommend some healthy skepticism. Some Russian medical science is really good, though they have some quackery thrown in. Also, I don't know how effective it claimed to be, or what fraction of the population it worked for.

The theory does sound believable to me. Pain invokes a variety of chemicals in the brain. Spanking wouldn't be such a big hit in these forums if no one felt positively about it.

Thankyou Dr Happy,

Scientifically I can see the benefits, the feelgood hormones would make a difference.

 

[HoHoBomb]

I just realized that I want him to spank me.
Thanks for starting this thread.

 

[subwannabe]

If you feel comfortable talking about it with your "counselor" I would ask them. I can see your point but then again it is also possible that long term this could do more damage than good. It may be kind of reinforcing your opinion of yourself, which may give you relief from stress in the short term but then actually causing your feelings to come back. This could be sort of like taking illegal drugs which can give you a short term high and make you feel good but then you crash and need to get high all over again. You soon get addicted but your real problem never gets fixed and the end result of it all is unhealthy. I really don't know as I am not a psychologist, just making you aware of a possibility. I am into spanking myself, both giving and receiving, but it is not a result of any depression. Good luck.

 

[northwoods_sub]

I know that in my case I have had a lifelong battle with depression. It runs in my family, but ever since Sir has started spanking me on a VERY regular basis I have had no problem with my depression.
I feel more alive then I probably have ever felt in my life. So I would say that there is a lot to be said for the benefits of a good spanking.

 

[Chicklet]

I wanted to post a question and thought it was too much along these lines for its own thread...

Do you think it's unhealthy to desire a spanking when you're feeling insecure?

 

[museofdragon]

never mind, link would't post

 

[maybenicegirl]

I wanted to post a question and thought it was too much along these lines for its own thread...

Do you think it's unhealthy to desire a spanking when you're feeling insecure?

No way. I don't think wanting a spanking to make you feel better is any less healthy than doing anything else to alleviate feelings of insecurity. How could that be different than exercising, being with someone you love, eating chocolate, etc. In fact, that's probably one of the healthiest things a person could do to help them get rid of insecurities. Gee, now I really want a spanking!

 

[Etoile]

See also this thread:
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=501791