Sooo.... Came out to my sister this weekend...

[inlovewithyourghost]

She's the first person from RL that I've come out to. I was totally prepared for the worst. But I was wrong about her. She the first one I told because I figured that she would be the hardest one in my family to tell. I thought that she would feel betrayed, be completely crushed, and make me leave her house. She hugged me and said, "You know... I've decided not to be a christian anymore... I know it isn't the same, but I think it is almost as difficult as coming out as a gay person. Anyway... Whatever you decide to do, I love you." Then she just held me for a while and let me cry.

LOL... then she said, "GOD... I know you don't have time to go out and meet anyone, But I am Sick of seeing you alone... Go to Match.com and put a profile out... I have the cutest picture of you!!!" (Didn't do it yet, btw)

It's really nice to have that over with. My brother will be easy. I just need a chance to see him alone. Then it is on to my parents in January. :nervous crooked smile: Wish me luck?

 

[naughtyinsilk]

Of course I wish you luck, I also wish you a happy, loving and pleasure filled future.

Congratulations, on how its worked out with your sister, its so much easier to face the world when you have people supporting you.

 

[inlovewithyourghost]

Of course I wish you luck, I also wish you a happy, loving and pleasure filled future.

Congratulations, on how its worked out with your sister, its so much easier to face the world when you have people supporting you.

Thanks naughty.

It really has made the biggest difference in the last day or two... Even if nothing else has changed.

 

[Night_Jasmine]

It will make a difference because that hurdle has been cleared. The only ones I've come out to are the members of my 'heart' family, which are the friends that I consider siblings. My family is dyed in the wool Southern Baptist and would probably kick me out on my rear once they heard that and my other announcement as well. So you can imagine why I haven't said anything yet. My grandfather is close to 75, and I don't see him often so I'll probably wait until he passes before sharing my good news. He's the only one I respect, and it'd crush me if he disowned me as well.

Congrats on clearing this bit of worry!

 

[inlovewithyourghost]

It will make a difference because that hurdle has been cleared. The only ones I've come out to are the members of my 'heart' family, which are the friends that I consider siblings. My family is dyed in the wool Southern Baptist and would probably kick me out on my rear once they heard that and my other announcement as well. So you can imagine why I haven't said anything yet. My grandfather is close to 75, and I don't see him often so I'll probably wait until he passes before sharing my good news. He's the only one I respect, and it'd crush me if he disowned me as well.

Congrats on clearing this bit of worry!

Yeah... my dad is a high priest at church. So I can relate. But I have 6 grandparents all in thier 80's... And none of them are even close to being ready to die. I'm close to everyone in my family (Lol.. for now anyway). So I figure I just need to go ahead and do it. Because with my mom's health the way it is, it is getting a lot harder to go it alone. I might actually lose her in the next couple of months. I don't want to let her die without knowing who I am. I don't want to lie to her anymore about why I don't ever date any nice guys and bring them home. If it were anyone else, I wouldn't say anything. Ignorance is bliss, and I would let them die blissfully unaware. But it's my mom. And I have always been honest with her about everything else in my life.

And if she survives... Then I guess we'll see what happens. But I can't let her die loving a lie. She may be angry with me... But at least she'll die loving me in spite of me. I just... have to have faith in her love for me, I guess.

Besides. The geographically closest family member (the sister that I just came out to) lives over 4 hours away. So at least if they all get pissed at me, I'm already living on my own, and I won't have to see them every day. And I'll know that I still have my sister behind me, anyway.

 

[AussieAngel]

Woot!

Congrats on your sister taking it so well. That is great.
And good luck with the rest of your family.

 

[kbate]

It's the first step to living a freer and happier life. Congratulations to both you and your sister. Your shared strengths will get you through the hard times both of you will experience.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

It is a big inner relief to tell the nearest and dearest, if it is only one for now.

I know since I have come out of my marriage I feel comfortable to tell people I am bi. It does relieve the soul.

 

[Jaxbi]

Good on you for telling your sister.

I understand where you're coming from with not wanting your mother to pass on without knowing who you really are. I feel stink for never letting my grandmother know (we were really close), before she passed away - cause if she could see how happy I am, I know she'd be happy.

However, with my own mother, who I told years ago - she has only really just recently come around to the whole thing!. Ok, given that she took my confession as being a lesbian, not being bisexual - correcting her, realxed her a bit - i suppose the opportunity for me not to be in a gay relationship was still there being bi - so she was happy. But now, seeing how happy I am in my relationship (we've been together for just over a year), Kate is part of the family, and included in any family things....so...yeah, she's come round!

Good luck - don't feel pressured to do it straight away. When the time is right - you'll know. Also, make sure you have somewhere you can go, if things turn to custard - as I noticed you mentioned your family lives a long way away - so if you tell them in person, then have some place to go, if you can't stay at home.

Be proud. Good luck

 

[Night_Jasmine]

Part of me wants to come right out and tell them. To be honest, except for his, their opinions don't matter much at all. I've gotten hurt too many times by them to really worry about this.

Good luck on sharing it with your family.

 

[Anniejustagirl]

What an amazing step. Good on you and the very best of luck with your future revelations!

Doesn't it just Lighten the weight on your shoulders?!?!?!?!

 

[inlovewithyourghost]

Good on you for telling your sister.

I understand where you're coming from with not wanting your mother to pass on without knowing who you really are. I feel stink for never letting my grandmother know (we were really close), before she passed away - cause if she could see how happy I am, I know she'd be happy.

However, with my own mother, who I told years ago - she has only really just recently come around to the whole thing!. Ok, given that she took my confession as being a lesbian, not being bisexual - correcting her, realxed her a bit - i suppose the opportunity for me not to be in a gay relationship was still there being bi - so she was happy. But now, seeing how happy I am in my relationship (we've been together for just over a year), Kate is part of the family, and included in any family things....so...yeah, she's come round!

Good luck - don't feel pressured to do it straight away. When the time is right - you'll know. Also, make sure you have somewhere you can go, if things turn to custard - as I noticed you mentioned your family lives a long way away - so if you tell them in person, then have some place to go, if you can't stay at home.

Be proud. Good luck

I'm glad that things are turning around for you!

As for my timing, I'm going to be living with my parents for the month of January. Through an extraordinary tangled up series of events, it has come to pass that I will be doing my mother's rehab after she comes home from her next surgury. ( no pressure there...) As it is, she is confined to a hospital bed in my parents' living room. I kind of feel bad about the circumstances... But we're going to be spending a lot of time together. And I need for her to know. The topic of relationships WILL come up. And I won't lie to her about it.

As for somewhere to go... Egads. I don't know anything about the city. I'll probably take off and go to the beach for a few hours if it gets to be too much to handle. But I won't be kicked out of the house. It isn't an option... not with the care that she needs. If she chooses not to acknowledge it, fine. If she gets mad, fine. If she accepts it, then I'll be so incredibly happy. But however it turns out, I'll be there for her just as she was always there for me.

 

[inlovewithyourghost]

Woot!

Congrats on your sister taking it so well. That is great.
And good luck with the rest of your family.

It's the first step to living a freer and happier life. Congratulations to both you and your sister. Your shared strengths will get you through the hard times both of you will experience.

It is a big inner relief to tell the nearest and dearest, if it is only one for now.

I know since I have come out of my marriage I feel comfortable to tell people I am bi. It does relieve the soul.

Part of me wants to come right out and tell them. To be honest, except for his, their opinions don't matter much at all. I've gotten hurt too many times by them to really worry about this.

Good luck on sharing it with your family.

What an amazing step. Good on you and the very best of luck with your future revelations!

Doesn't it just Lighten the weight on your shoulders?!?!?!?!

Seriously... I am So happy. Thanks everyone for the encouragement. Happy holidays to all!

 

[inlovewithyourghost]

Update:
Came out to my mom! It went great! She's so supportive of me! Never in my wildest fantasies could I have wished and dreamed for it to go better than it did. I am sooooo much lighter now... *floats away*

 

[Nirvanadragones]

Update:
Came out to my mom! It went great! She's so supportive of me! Never in my wildest fantasies could I have wished and dreamed for it to go better than it did. I am sooooo much lighter now... *floats away*

She is a wonderfully compassionate, understanding, and feeling woman . . . just like her daughter

 

[Night_Jasmine]

Congrats!!!!

 

[naughtyinsilk]

Update:
Came out to my mom! It went great! She's so supportive of me! Never in my wildest fantasies could I have wished and dreamed for it to go better than it did. I am sooooo much lighter now... *floats away*

Congratulations, being honest with those around you will make you so much happier in the long run. Not having to hide who you are makes life so much less complicated. I hope you find someone who will make the rest of your dreams come true

 

[playwithlezli]

Update:
Came out to my mom! It went great! She's so supportive of me! Never in my wildest fantasies could I have wished and dreamed for it to go better than it did. I am sooooo much lighter now... *floats away*

Glad it went so well-doesn't it feel great!

 

[CelestialNight]

Good for you! I haven't come out to any of my family yet. A few of them suspect, but It's just too scary. I'm too young for that kind of stress! I might get wrinkles!

 

[playwithlezli]

Good for you! I haven't come out to any of my family yet. A few of them suspect, but It's just too scary. I'm too young for that kind of stress! I might get wrinkles!

You might get a load lifted off your shoulders too! But whenever you're ready, that's the right time.

 

[Guest]

She is a wonderfully compassionate, understanding, and feeling woman . . . just like her daughter

VANA!!!! *pounce*



yay for the ghost chickie

 

[Fallenfromgrace]

Congrat's on those you've told taking it well hun

It must feel wonderful to have it off your shoulders AND taken well.

Although it was a huge weight lifted for me, my 'coming out' (just over a year ago) wasn't in any way taken well...at all...on any level. *sigh*

 

[inlovewithyourghost]

My thanks...

To all of you for your support and lovely comments... It's wonderful. Going so well. I wish that it could go that well for everyone...

*grins and hugs everyone here!*