soo theres this friend...

[cleanpeach]

i like her... and i want to make a move.. i am just too damn chicken shit to do it... i work with her and want to grab her ass or either kiss her and i am too scared to.. even when we are alone... i really dont know how to make a move without freaking her out.. i flirt like an idiot when i am with her and half of the shit i say is retarded. she says she is curious to kiss a girl again because she liked it the first time... i just dont know how to let her know i want her to kiss me... maybe more and not be too up front about it and freak her the hell out... any comments... suggestions? ita be helpful thanks

 

[bigwarwood]

My take.

Well, this is coming from a guy so take that with a grain of salt. I've kissed a bunch of people in my time, and made moves on them accordingly. I've gotten slapped and bunched once or twice so here's whats worked for me. First make the decision of, is she or he worth working for? Could you invest the time to see where it goes. Secondly, some things have to be right. Alone time, a friendly, secure feeling place, and some close contact. Break the ice slowly by introducing her to touch. Nothing overt or direct but making her feel ok with a touch to an arm or interlocking arms on a stroll. Then that moment will come where you reach out and flick her hair away from her face, some face to face time and keep pressing it. A couple of drinks help, but eventually if all else fails, just tell her, hey after what you told me, I can't get kissing you out of my mind. Lets just get it over with! It might succeed.

 

[southern_gal]

i like her... and i want to make a move.. i am just too damn chicken shit to do it... i work with her and want to grab her ass .....

Might I recommend that you not grab it at work? Even a playful gesture like that could be taken the wrong way especially if she is not as into you as you are her. Then you have just opened a whole new jar of trouble that could have sexual harassment written all over it.

 

[bigwarwood]

College Days

Might I recommend that you not grab it at work? Even a playful gesture like that could be taken the wrong way especially if she is not as into you as you are her. Then you have just opened a whole new jar of trouble that could have sexual harassment written all over it.

Southern_gal is absolutely right. There is a right time and right place for that first expression of interest in another person. Though it can start in the workplace, I have seen too much drama their to recommend it. The other thing is that, at times the desire of it, and I use "it" as a generality, not knowing what your final goal is. But the desire of that "it" at times is more alluring and intoxicating then when you finally get "it". I knew this guy in college, a good friend, an eventual roommate, a male model and we teased each other to no end. We reveled in it. The teasing increased, blatant, to see who broke first and gave in. To the point that a mutual girlfriend of ours finally said, why don't you guys just do it already. We countered in defense, only if you watch. She responded, name the place and time and I'll be there, you guys are driving me insane. At that point we were walking around the house virtually naked. It wasn't uncommon to show up out in the living-room to watch TV in shorts. We'd sit and intentionally let our balls and flaccid cocks spill out the leg opening of our wear and sneak peeks at each others junk. It became bolder and we started commenting on each other. It, developed further to taking brief streaks into the kitchen or sprints from our separate bedrooms to the bathroom for a shower, completely naked, always where the other could see. The day it happened, we had been roommates for 2 or 3 months already. The apartment only had one bathroom. I was showering and the vinyl curtain was somewhat clear. He knocked, I answered, I was showering, he begged that he couldn't hold it any longer and had to pee. Come in I said, and as he flopped his cock out of his jeans I lathered my body and couldn't help but to scrub my pubes and gripping my dick, stroked its shaft, pushing a ring of lather down its length. He stopped peeing and I was under the stream of water, head tilted backwards, eyes closed when I felt him grab it. I backed up out from under the stream that was spraying my face and turned to see him holding my dick in one hand and sliding the curtain with the other. The only thing I could say was, come in! Seconds later he had peeled his t-shirt and jeans off and stepped into the shower with me. Now let me say, I was 5' 10", he was 6' 3" and it was never more noticeable then us standing there, facing each other in the tub. After getting himself wet and turning to me, he reached again for my cock and that was the start. We almost drowned that morning, and spent enough time soaping each other up and tasting the water off each other to wrinkle our finger tips. That night we spent it in one bedroom. That continued for the rest of that semester. But reality struck. Character flaws became evident. My first experience in noting and turning away from a person that was too manipulative in an insidious way, needing too much attention for what I could provide at that time. Chronically jealous. Unreliable. I moved out. But it was fun while it lasted.

 

[candyredlips]

Be honest and direct with her, treat her with respect. Some women are, "bicurious" and that is fine, but any unexpected emotion/touch/ etc. can really be alarming and wreck mayhem and havoc on any relationship you currently have. Ask her out to a place you both enjoy or a cute little restaurant, flirt a tiny bit, see if her body language changes, if she shifts toward you, reaches out in some small way, or she flirts back, then tell her you're interested in getting to know her better. Kisses may happen by the end of the night. *wishing you luck*

 

[Bramblethorn]

she says she is curious to kiss a girl again because she liked it the first time... i just dont know how to let her know i want her to kiss me...

"If you weren't a workmate, I'd happily help you out."

 

[cleanpeach]

thanks

thanks yall! the feed back is helping... alot actually.... the crazy thing is.... i can flirt with a guy with NO problem... flirting with a girl is so damn hard i guess i just dont want to freak her out.. and i am so damn nervous.... lol keep the comments coming..

 

[UhlBWett]

Trust your instincts............

I love your name by the way. I once sucked cling peach slices from a young lover's pussy, Then covered my smooth shaven cock with the heavy syrup. It made for one hot, wet 69...............

 

[cleanpeach]

thanks

yea.... i was craving peaches at the time and i was EXCITED and i was smooth... so yea thats where the name came into place lol

 

[photobuff56]

Do you two hang out together? If you do make some drinks or wine to calm you down and start taking about her past experience with it and ask her if she has anyone in mind, if she says no just blurt out how about me with a seductive look. Have you had bi or lesbian experience before?.

 

[cleanpeach]

well...

we have hungout once outside of work... it was fun... didnt do anything tho.. i texted her later on and asked "no kiss lol" and she said she thought about it but was nervous to.. MY HUSBAND STARED THROUGH THE PEEP HOLE lol he was like damn i was looking at her and could tell she wanted to attack you but wtf .. she didnt do shit lol.

yes i have kissed a few girls but it was a few years ago when that happened... and a girl that my sister use to hang out with took advantage of me when i was younger and made me touch her... down stairs and i was like wtf but... have never done it since... now my curiosity has peaked! damn i sound desperate but its true...

 

[bigwarwood]

we have hungout once outside of work... it was fun... didnt do anything tho.. i texted her later on and asked "no kiss lol" and she said she thought about it but was nervous to.. MY HUSBAND STARED THROUGH THE PEEP HOLE lol he was like damn i was looking at her and could tell she wanted to attack you but wtf .. she didnt do shit lol.

yes i have kissed a few girls but it was a few years ago when that happened... and a girl that my sister use to hang out with took advantage of me when i was younger and made me touch her... down stairs and i was like wtf but... have never done it since... now my curiosity has peaked! damn i sound desperate but its true...

Girl, your half way there! Another get together, some wine, a little moo goo gai pan, some chop sticks, get close and grab a little piece of chicken with the chops and feed it to her. Lean in and let her have it. Your there!

 

[dougsan]

This is a MAJOR problem for all of us, how to break the ice without being outed. Not that it was more then 65% effective I smply asked a person of interest if they'd like to go out for a drink. But I would never attempt a relationship with co workers. Being bi or gay when I was working was NOT ACCEPTABLE and all office romances I knew of came out.