Sometimes I wonder...

[plasticman33]

How did we get on the discussion about frog legs? LOL

Join the conversation started in the original post damnit.

<------------ Kermit the Froglegs

It's a far safer subject!

 

[TheProvert]

It's a far safer subject!

Safer for whom? Definatly not the frogs.

 

[Purrde Flower]

You think being called someone who seeks attention is an insult? I don't think it is at all. I see nothing wrong with it. If I was going to insult you I would have called you an idiot or something.

Do I post here for attention? Heck yea I do. Why else would I be on the internet posting on a forum and on literotica.com's forums at that.

 

[plasticman33]

Safer for whom? Definatly not the frogs.

www.bigeasyseafood.com/friedfroglegs.html

Sound soooo......good!

 

[TheProvert]

You think being called someone who seeks attention is an insult? I don't think it is at all. I see nothing wrong with it. If I was going to insult you I would have called you an idiot or something.

Sooooo.... where then did the "nothing nice to say then don't say anything at all" come into play at? Ohhh, thats right, its that whole faulty logic thing. Yes, attention seeking in general is not a bad thing. Attention Whoring is.

Do I post here for attention?

Obviously.

Why else would I be on the internet posting on a forum and on literotica.com's forums at that.

Well, lets see. Its kills time, it helps you build friendships with other people. It gives you the ability to have intelligent conversations with intelligent people (oops... I should say sometimes).

Don't really know what to say about the highlighting of literotica for attention whoring. I joined this board to chat. Not seek self gratifying attention. I posted on picture of myself because I was asked by many to do so way back when. Its the only picture I've posted of myself and I go out of my way to not be "complimented" because I don't handle compliments well. I have no urge to hear "hey, you are a great looking guy". I know what I look like, I know what my self-image is, I don't need/want to hear honest or two faced comments about me.

Guess we came dial our modem with different intentions. I'm sorry if you have to have people complimenting you all the time for you to enjoy the internet.

 

[sexy-girl]

i try to reply to nearly all the pm's i get even the weirdo ones

if someone wants to post pictures of herself and wants to be mean to people who don't like her pics then who cares


if she keeps being mean to people then soon enough people will stop saying nice things to her no matter how nice her pictures are

 

[TheProvert]

www.bigeasyseafood.com/friedfroglegs.html

Sound soooo......good!

See you are from Ohio. Ever go to Fat Fish Blue up in Cleveland? Great place. If you get the chance... go.

I'll be there again on Feburary 1st.

No, I WON'T be eating frog legs for dinner.

 

[TheProvert]

if she keeps being mean to people then soon enough people will stop saying nice things to her no matter how nice her pictures are

Not going to happen. I was mainly speaking of one person but I know a few others as well on here and other boards. This particular one has been posting for over a year and still has the legion of fans that seem to like being whipped like a dog in the hopes that she will admonish them with return praise and hopefully an invite or a visit.

 

[TheProvert]

Let me reiterate. This is supposed to be a discussion on how these people who desperately crave/need heaping praise get along in real life. Are they the same in real life? Are they completely devoid of happiness when they step away from the computer?

 

[plasticman33]

See you are from Ohio. Ever go to Fat Fish Blue up in Cleveland? Great place. If you get the chance... go.

I'll be there again on Feburary 1st.

No, I WON'T be eating frog legs for dinner.

Good choice! Great food! Let me know when you're here I'll buy you a drink! You don't have to have frog legs!

www.fatfishblue.com

 

[TheProvert]

Good choice! Great food! Let me know when you're here I'll buy you a drink! You don't have to have frog legs!

www.fatfishblue.com

So you are in that area? We'll be there the evening of Feb 1st unless they decide to change plans. I'll be extremely pissed if they do. We'll be with a large group and while most of us want to go there the person I'm riding with that is also setting the plans up thinks they won't be able to handle the sizable group that we are becoming. At this point its double the size of last years get together there.

 

[sexy-girl]

Not going to happen. I was mainly speaking of one person but I know a few others as well on here and other boards. This particular one has been posting for over a year and still has the legion of fans that seem to like being whipped like a dog in the hopes that she will admonish them with return praise and hopefully an invite or a visit.

well then obviously those people like her and she likes them ... you don't like her which is obvious and i guess she doesn't like you because of the lack of reply of pm's


so whats the problem ?

 

[TheProvert]

well then obviously those people like her and she likes them ... you don't like her which is obvious and i guess she doesn't like you because of the lack of reply of pm's

Actually, she I've found out she hardly replies to anyone that PMs her even if she asks them to. I've never said anything bad about her. Most of the people that post in response don't personally "like" her or she "like" them. They are horndogs and she loves the praise.

so whats the problem ?

No problem... geez. Let me try this ONE more time.

Let me reiterate. This is supposed to be a discussion on how these people who desperately crave/need heaping praise get along in real life. Are they the same in real life? Are they completely devoid of happiness when they step away from the computer?

Forget about the person in question. This is the point of the conversation. The question is about not only those on this board but others as well.

 

[Purrde Flower]

Sooooo.... where then did the "nothing nice to say then don't say anything at all" come into play at? Ohhh, thats right, its that whole faulty logic thing. Yes, attention seeking in general is not a bad thing. Attention Whoring is.

I never said I followed the rule. I just said that might be the other persons opinion.

Well, lets see. Its kills time, it helps you build friendships with other people. It gives you the ability to have intelligent conversations with intelligent people (oops... I should say sometimes).

Would you build a friendship wish someone who didn't pay attention to you when you were talking? Conversation.. Someone talking to you on the subject your or they are talking about. AKA recieveing and giving attentin to that person while chatting.

Guess we came dial our modem with different intentions. I'm sorry if you have to have people complimenting you all the time for you to enjoy the internet.

Do I get compliments? I don't seek them on this board no.. I have been told I'm a nice person and that I make people laugh. I don't post my pictures here so that would disqualify me for the pictures forum. I come to this forum to talk/write. To give and recieve attention/conversation for myself and others. It's called listening or in this case reading what others have to say.. Notice it and give an opinion on it, make a joke.. or whatever.

Your definition of attention and mine vastly disagree. You seem to think it is a bad thing. I don't. I think of conversation as a way of gaining attentin. When I converse with someone they are getting my attention. When someone converses with me I am getting their attention.

 

[peachykeen]

I can't believe I just devoted like three whole minutes to reading this whole thread through.

Everyone likes attention.

Some people need more than others.

Some people handle criticism very well.

Some people don't.

So what?

 

[TheProvert]

Your definition of attention and mine vastly disagree.

As I said before... speaking in conversation is most definatly not the same thing as attention whoring.

Do you bite the head off of anyone that doesn't heap praise on you? Do you show your stupidity anytime says something that maybe you don't quite understand but take as a personal insult? Do you come to the board asking umpteen thousand people to come and fuck you on an ever so many month basis? Do you invite people to PM you and then ignore them? Do you get upset and post berating whiney posts when someone on the board is seemingly more popular than you?

 

[plasticman33]

I can't believe I just devoted like three whole minutes to reading this whole thread through.

Everyone likes attention.

Some people need more than others.

Some people handle criticism very well.

Some people don't.

So what?

Didn't you notice that some people actually like frog legs??

 

[alexandraaah]

Let me reiterate. This is supposed to be a discussion on how these people who desperately crave/need heaping praise get along in real life. Are they the same in real life? Are they completely devoid of happiness when they step away from the computer?

It's possible that they're the same in person, yes. Don't you know people like that? I know I do...or did, as most of them outgrew it in their 20's or so.

I think there is a difference here, though; that being that the gratification is in fact immediate due to the large ratio of people *waiting* to see pics, does that make sense?

It's not likely that someone is going to walk outside of their apartment, and start posing for complete strangers, hoping for a compliment. It's more likely that they'll show off a new haircut or sexy dress and wait for a few compliments to come their way.

Here, there is the luxury of that *perfect* angle for your boobies, or, uh, lips even.

People who post a lot of pics here are spoiled by the flood of positive attention they're used to getting, immediately. So yeah, I think it's the same psyche at work here or in person, but the many adoring fans at Lit. pacify the hunger for attention quicker and more abundantly than anyone could in person.

 

[TheProvert]

People who post a lot of pics here are spoiled by the flood of positive attention they're used to getting, immediately. So yeah, I think it's the same psyche at work here or in person, but the many adoring fans at Lit. pacify the hunger for attention quicker and more abundantly than anyone could in person.

I've seen some very attractive and not so attractive women post pictures on here and they take the good comments along with the bad in stride.

My post is aimed more at those that get outright beligerant the moment a post is made that does anything other than blow a ton of hot air about just how wonderfully exotic and hot said person is.

Its these people I worry about in person. Just how horrible a life much you live to be constantly insulted by anyone that doesn't find you the pinnacle of the female form?

 

[alexandraaah]

I've seen some very attractive and not so attractive women post pictures on here and they take the good comments along with the bad in stride.

My post is aimed more at those that get outright beligerant the moment a post is made that does anything other than blow a ton of hot air about just how wonderfully exotic and hot said person is.

Its these people I worry about in person. Just how horrible a life much you live to be constantly insulted by anyone that doesn't find you the pinnacle of the female form?

My post was aimed at that population as well; I think for the most part there's a lot of healthy exhibitionism going on in these parts.

As for a horrible life? Eh, in some ways, yes, I think it's a lot of narcissism at work-not to be confused with egotism-narcissism is when you can only have a sense of yourself through the actions and words of other people, and NOT just positive.

Frankly, I see a lot of this in word-only posters as well, not just picture junkies.

As well, I think these people of whom you're speaking revel just as much in the negative comments as they do in the compliments. The negative's allow them to play victim for a while.

I think in person, this would look very different than it does here. It would probably take the form of a "pleaser" and one who wants to do everything "right" but always finds themselves amid a drama or two.

Eh, maybe it's not that different.

 

[MissTaken]

In a fashion, isn't lit a healthy outlet for those who thrive on the positive and negative feedback?

Isn't lit a healthy outlet for those who build their egos by judging others harshly, belligerently?

Perhaps in having somewhere like lit to feed their self esteem, they aren't doing crazy ass things in their real life for attention. Have you ever worked with someone who was an attention fiend? It can be very disruptive to your work as well as the whole program. IT gets tiresome and alienates them from others.

So, perhaps some, have a better quality of life for using lit to work out the gliches that aren't acceptable in a real time society?

Just a thought.......