Something to write about

[CharleyH]

Since we are all bent on telling about our lives and pain in posts ... do we write about the eperiences that cause pain? Perhaps it'd be cathartic to get it out? Perhaps not. What do you think? Would you ever want your posts on the AH in your bio about you?

Thoughts?

 

[kendo1]

Everyone's different, Charley.

Sometimes it is good to talk to friends about difficult things.

Ken

 

[rgraham666]

A lot of my early pieces on Lit contained pieces of painful episodes in my life. And it was cathartic. I'm glad I did it.

And if people have a problem with my posts on Lit, it's their problem. I've enjoyed posting here a lot.

 

[Boota]

I have non-erotic story I might post some day that is about my real life and a big problem I had a few years back. Writing it down was supposed to be cathartic, but I think I was already too okay for that by then.

 

[Honey123]

I'd rather not. My life is pretty boring anyway.

 

[CharleyH]

I'd rather not. My life is pretty boring anyway.

LOVE YOU.

PS: your life is a soap! Grrr.

 

[CharleyH]

I have non-erotic story I might post some day that is about my real life and a big problem I had a few years back. Writing it down was supposed to be cathartic, but I think I was already too okay for that by then.

Cool - thank you.

 

[gauchecritic]

I did once (no one remembers, they just remember that they're supposed to feel bad about something about me) It wasn't cathartic, nor was it meant to be, it wasn't to elicit any negative emotions from others, although it killed the thread stone dead, it was about the exact opposite. Joy.
But no one saw beyond the pain that brought about the happiness. I don't do that anymore. I have alts for that kind of thing. (and none of the noobs (even some of the oldies) know muhahahahaaaaa)

 

[CharleyH]

And if people have a problem with my posts on Lit, it's their problem. I've enjoyed posting here a lot.

never a prob, Rob.

 

[OhMissScarlett]

Interesting question. I get all my true emotional stuff out in poetry. Mostly, the stories I write are an escape from real life, but sometimes I end up working through issues in them without even realizing it. Writing has always been my shelter, the first thing I turn to when things suck the big one. No matter how hard I try to make a story complete fiction, there's always going to be some true part of me there. But, I don't try to write about my life.

 

[Rumple Foreskin]

Since we are all bent on telling about our lives and pain in posts ... do we write about the eperiences that cause pain? Perhaps it'd be cathartic to get it out? Perhaps not. What do you think? Would you ever want your posts on the AH in your bio about you?

Thoughts?

Many do; I don't. As Ken said, everyone's different.

Rumple "repression is me" Foreskin

 

[CharleyH]

I did once (no one remembers, they just remember that they're supposed to feel bad about something about me) It wasn't cathartic, nor was it meant to be, it wasn't to elicit any negative emotions from others, although it killed the thread stone dead, it was about the exact opposite. Joy.
But no one saw beyond the pain that brought about the happiness. I don't do that anymore. I have alts for that kind of thing. (and none of the noobs (even some of the oldies) know muhahahahaaaaa)

I remember - some son things - mwahaha!

 

[S-Des]

There are bits of me in every story so far. I don't know how many more interesting things I have left to tell, I'm kind of wondering if my stories will get the same response when I run out of RL to put in them.

I wouldn't put it in a bio, however. I saw the secrets thread, but don't feel the need to share that kind of personal information with strangers. I'm glad it helps some and I'm happy to listen if it makes them feel the least bit better, but it's not for me.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

There's plenty that is somewhat autobiographical in my work. And plenty is that is just plain fantasy. Far more of the latter than the former, but even characters from a fantastic scenario often have elements of my personality or my past. And many characters are partly based on people that I know from my own life. So it's about 66/34. Hope that explains it.

 

[AchtungNight]

The ideal bio includes everything, including the difficult stuff. So yes. Definitely yes.

"I express my values in my fighting, acting, and so on because to do so is righteous. Righteousness is the mark of the true warrior."
- Bruce Lee.

 

[Huckleman2000]

Very interesting questions! I'm absolutely positive that I've posted things in the AH that I'd never want permanently associated with me.

That's sort of a combination of, sometimes I post things that I'm not very certain of or don't agree with just to advance the discussion, and sometimes I've grown and changed my viewpoints. Offhand, I can't think of examples at two in the morning, but I'm sure that's happened. I know I pissed off Colly early on, and really tried hard to eventually get off her 'ignore' list, despite disagreeing on many issues. So, my tone has changed somewhat.

My unfinished stories are kind of lame business-travel fantasies. While certainly not autobiographical, at least they're based on scenarios that I think would have been REALLY AWESOME if they'd ever happened anywhere outside the grey matter closest to my dick.

 

[Liar]

I have non-erotic story I might post some day that is about my real life and a big problem I had a few years back. Writing it down was supposed to be cathartic, but I think I was already too okay for that by then.

Pretty much my experience too. My past is passed, and the problema I had are nothing that I need to write my way out of. Still, some of the episodes would make for a pretty good story. So I just might write it down one of these days.

 

[impressive]

I did once (no one remembers, they just remember that they're supposed to feel bad about something about me) It wasn't cathartic, nor was it meant to be, it wasn't to elicit any negative emotions from others, although it killed the thread stone dead, it was about the exact opposite. Joy.
But no one saw beyond the pain that brought about the happiness. I don't do that anymore.

Understand completely.


To answer Charley's question ... mostly in poetry, but sometimes bits of me will sneak into my characters.

 

[Guest]

Pretty much my experience too. My past is passed, and the problema I had are nothing that I need to write my way out of. Still, some of the episodes would make for a pretty good story. So I just might write it down one of these days.

I Feel very much this way too. Though some parts of my life/posts are too bizarre for fiction. hrm...

 

[scheherazade_79]

I'm quite open about any trials and tribulations going on in the present - probably too much so sometimes. I'm not really one to dig around in the past, though. I find the present complicated enough to process, without adding extra dimensions.

As far as stories go... it's weird, the ones that are the most autobiographical are the ones that I've never published.

 

[AppleBiter]

Interesting question. I get all my true emotional stuff out in poetry.

Ditto.

And, I normally don't broadcast my personal woes on the boards. Although, I did let everyone know about my brother's death and the reason that I did that was that some things are just easier to talk about via this medium than any other. That may be the reason that you see so many people talk about their personal problems on the boards. I can't speak for everyone, or even anyone else, but that was my reasoning.

If I had a bio? Yeah, my brother's death would be in it. Not to elicit sympathy on any level, but because he was in my life from the moment of my birth and I wouldn't pretend that he never existed.

Just my 2 cents.

Apple

 

[FallingToFly]

*shrugs* If I have something to write out and post, I do. Good, bad, or indifferent, I'll usually say what I'm thinking or feeling.

I suppose it's a different frame of mind depending on where you go and who you ask, but I write down almost every semi-major to major event. Writing it online seems to work best for me as far as clearing my head and setting it out in an orderly fashion, if I'm confused, or if I'm angry it tends to bleed it off. And if I'm happy, I get to share that as well.

Sometimes, especially if you're in a situation where your real opinions or emotions will hurt someone else or are completely inappropriate for the situation, it's nice to have a place to share it where at least someone is going to understand it on some level. As an example: The other day my husband was very angry and upset with himself that he hadn't known something was wrong and that the youngest was with me instead of him. It upset him and embarrassed him that I was so proud and grateful for my baby, so obviously, it wasn't something that I could talk about with him. Enough of the Lit crew are parents that they completely got the feeling that you have when your children do something that awes you, even in a bad situation.

Not everyone needs that outlet- some people are much more quiet and keep things to themselves. Neither way is wrong, neither is rght- it's just different. I don't think I've ever said anything online that I truly regret- a lot of things that make me shake my head and laugh a little ruefully at how I can let my temper run off with my tongue- or fingers as the case may be- but very seldom anything I wish I hadn't said.

Hope that helps answer the question!