Something Screams "Rape!", Here

[SweetErika]

Well, I have to say though. 'Round here, it can take up to 9 months before getting an appointment with a specialist. If she's on anti-depressents, she can't wait that long. I understand that aspect... but still, I still feel this guy should be reported.

Why would she need a specialist for anti-depressants? That doesn't make sense, and this slimy doctor isn't a specialist, is he? Sure, she might see a specialist to manage her care or for a problem that can't be solved by another doctor or drug regime, but she shouldn't need one to treat a run of the mill disorder.

My money's on a drug that other doctors wouldn't readily prescribe and/or something she wants, but doesn't really need. Otherwise she'd just go to another doctor/clinic to get the prescription.

 

[Mac98]

Why would she need a specialist for anti-depressants? That doesn't make sense, and this slimy doctor isn't a specialist, is he? Sure, she might see a specialist to manage her care or for a problem that can't be solved by another doctor or drug regime, but she shouldn't need one to treat a run of the mill disorder.

My money's on a drug that other doctors wouldn't readily prescribe and/or something she wants, but doesn't really need. Otherwise she'd just go to another doctor/clinic to get the prescription.

To be honest, I don't know if it's anti-depressants. It might not be. I'm speculating as to what it could possibly be. Her doctor IS a specialist... in what? I don't know. I've seen specialists before for my digestive track and it's true, sometimes you can even wait up to over a year for an appointment, it's fucken ridiculous!! And I'm guessing that her dissorder is probably not a "run-of-the-mill" one... If she's seeing a specialist, I'm supposing it's probably something more serious. I wouldn't be surprised by much.

Perhaps she's addicted to something... but I've seen her take her meds before and she doesn't get high or anything... she's as sober as any of us. I really have no idea. I'll tell her again that I'm against it, but there's really not much more I can do. If she's crazy enough to follow through with it, in the end... it's her loss. I'm not sure WHAT would push her to do it; but in the end, no drug in the world is worth that risk.

Besides, I'm sure if she made a complaint or something, the hospital would still know how to take care of her.

 

[SweetErika]

Yeah, an addiction to painkillers or benzos or something would explain a lot. Addicts will do almost anything to get their fix.

 

[Mac98]

Yeah, an addiction to painkillers or benzos or something would explain a lot. Addicts will do almost anything to get their fix.

Yeah, but wouldn't that show in the person soon after taking it? Wouldn't I have noticed her being high off the painkillers?

 

[satindesire]

Yeah, but wouldn't that show in the person soon after taking it? Wouldn't I have noticed her being high off the painkillers?

This is coming from an ex junkie, so trust that I'm telling the truth.

No, and no.

Most 'functional addicts' go about their lives with 99% of people around them totally unaware of the fact that they're fucked up.

 

[SweetErika]

Yeah, but wouldn't that show in the person soon after taking it? Wouldn't I have noticed her being high off the painkillers?

Not if she's tolerant and taking a maintenance dose (e.g. just enough to achieve a mild high or stave off withdrawals).

I obviously have no clue what she's taking, but from what you've said, it sounds like it's something other doctors wouldn't readily prescribe and a controlled substance makes sense with the story. For instance, if the slimy doctor knew she couldn't just go anywhere for the prescription, he'd likely have quite a bit of leverage with her, which might be the only reason he felt relatively safe making advances and insisting she come to his home.

And, really, even if she's on something like painkillers, she might not be an addict. She could have chronic pain and simply be physically dependent, which is another animal entirely. It can be hard to differentiate someone with chronic pain from an addict because people with pain are often also desperate to get their drug(s), just for a different reason (life or death pain vs. addiction). I'd imagine those with severe anxiety face similar issues that may drive them to choose the prescription over their own safety.

IOW, I'm just hypothesizing, and you certainly shouldn't assume or act on what I'm saying here. There's nothing wrong with watching for clues so you can get a better read on the situation, but she may very well have some condition or reasoning that none of us can imagine.

 

[MsGoodBody]

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[Mac98]

I've asked her time and time again to voice a complaint. But she needs whatever he's not giving her.

There's really nothing more i can do. I still have a hard time understanding why she's going through with this. I understand that she maybe can't wait 9 months for a refill, but there are other ways... there has to be.

It's in her hands now. She'll do what she wants and live with those consequences. It sounds cold hearted, but I've done everything I can...

 

[MsGoodBody]

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[Mac98]

Thanks MGB. I really do hope she makes the right decision.

 

[Berwyn]

As soon as I read your description of what she said I thought that the script was probably for a benzo or narcotic. The slimeball would know that, if it is one of those drugs, she would be much more likely to go along with his plan. ESPECIALLY the "try you off it for a bit and then come to my place". That is getting her into withdrawl/REALLY desperate and thus more controlable.

This guy doesn't sound like a doctor, he sounds like a predator. She needs to get a new doctor at the very least, and also should report him to the state medical board. If she is an addict, she probably won't report him, but she should be able to get a new doctor.

There are very few medications that a general practitioner can't perscribe/require a specialist. At the very least she could try to get a GP to get her a short script until she gets in with a new specialist.

 

[Mac98]

May I ask what a Benzo is?

 

[SweetErika]

May I ask what a Benzo is?

It's a benzodiazepine. Something like Valium or Xanax with sedative properties that's prescribed for anxiety, convulsions, muscle spasms, etc. Benzos can be both habit- and dependence-forming, and the withdrawals can be pretty wicked, so you have to be really careful with them.

 

[VelvetSin]

Hi everyone,

I'm seeking advice here yet again because I'm really stuck between a rock and a hard place, here!

Is this the same girl from this thread? If so, it sounds like a plea for attention in my opinion. In that thread, you mentioned she had a "need for attention and affection." This sounds like a concocted story to get exactly that since you were hesitant according to that thread and maybe you needed an extra push to fawn and play her game.

Unless the doctor is mentally impaired in some way or looking for a quick ticket out of his medical license, I just can't buy it. I mean, there are predators everywhere but it's so messy and poorly handled, it just rings false.

If the doctor wanted to give whatever ailment she has a few weeks then give her a prescription as needed, even if she can't get an appointment for months she could call his office and they could phone the Rx to a pharmacy without her needing a return visit. It happens all the time. He would know that and know the ploy is otherwise transparent.

Even if he were so flippant about the career he's worked decades for (if he's 60+ years old), providing her with physical evidence in the form of a hand-written map is asking for an investigation. He'd have to be clinically stupid to do that.

Even if it is an addiction to a prescription drug, there are so many avenues to attain those, he'd be more likely to hook her into showing up if he had her stop by within a day or so rather than a few weeks, or he risks her getting her fix elsewhere. Also, severe withdrawal from many of those meds can be extremely dangerous (lethal in some cases), and a medical degree would tell him if she did happen to string along and wait for the covert appointment, she's more likely to suffer some bad withdrawal symptoms in the meantime and tell someone in her reduced state.

I don't know, I just can't buy it. It sounds like a cry for attention to me.

 

[Mac98]

VelvetSin: Yes, it is the very same person as the other thread. It very well may be a cry for attention, and I haven't thrown that possibility aside. But had it been anyone, a story like that DOES grab anyone's attention... but in the end, I'm not the one being harmed, she is.

I have NO idea what her prescription is. Like I said on a few occasions, it's so vague that it could literally be anything. I'm not saying it's Vicodin or Epipen (she has allergies)... because I honestly have no idea what it is.

I'm seeing her Sunday and I'll do what I can to understand exactly what the fucks going on... If she is lying or blowing hot air, I'll seriously look in to cutting contact with her. Last thing I need right now is a vampire sucking all the energy and life out of everyone. But I still can't take it for granted that she's lying.

If she still insists on not telling me what's going on, then I'll just let her wallow in whatever lie/sticky situation she's got herself in...

It would really fucken help if I knew what she was taking, though...

 

[Berwyn]

Is this the same girl from this thread? If so, it sounds like a plea for attention in my opinion. In that thread, you mentioned she had a "need for attention and affection." This sounds like a concocted story to get exactly that since you were hesitant according to that thread and maybe you needed an extra push to fawn and play her game.

ahh...I didn't make the connection to the other thread. After reading that I agree with Velvet. The girl is wacked....run, don't walk, the other way...

 

[Mac98]

ahh...I didn't make the connection to the other thread. After reading that I agree with Velvet. The girl is wacked....run, don't walk, the other way...

Meh, I'll figure it out for myself on Sunday. I'm supposed to see her, so I'll ask her everything that needs answering... if I see that she's dodging shit again, then I'll know to "run" away lol. But I'll still let her try and explain herself...

Don't worry, I'm weary of her too. Only something's telling me to give her the benefit of doubt.

 

[SweetErika]

If she does have a drug problem, that could explain her wacky behavior all around (inappropriate flirting, proving unreliable, being selfish, etc.).

 

[Mac98]

Yeah. Quite. But I can excuse her behavior if it's SOLELY because of the drugs. If she's actually like that au naturel, then that's another story.