Someone To Watch Over Me

[cascadiabound]

http://56.media.tumblr.com/c98d336e5b573154afbbea2107cb09d7/tumblr_no1m7zGeG81u3c2jro1_500.jpg

there is no one in the world I would rather share my adventures with.
or who I trust more to keep me safe while we are are adventuring.
we are partners in this. as in all else.

 

[cascadiabound]

http://56.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mcuwxkrA7j1ris76wo1_1280.jpg

 

[cascadiabound]

http://56.media.tumblr.com/96bfb98d44455096fbfd135d8fd3aad1/tumblr_nmy0u8WsCS1t009mho1_500.jpg

I dare you to say I have an attitude ~ lol

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

http://56.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mcuwxkrA7j1ris76wo1_1280.jpg

Ooo, so good!

Freedom from control.

 

[cascadiabound]

http://56.media.tumblr.com/9fa6aa30f9714cc6f0f32936025208c0/tumblr_nlvojn9Ckh1sjyfffo1_540.jpg

 

[cascadiabound]

http://56.media.tumblr.com/22cdaf4a8386e676b057e52df3ad9249/tumblr_njtcocNNSI1tu5xgoo1_1280.jpg

 

[jameslewis]

http://56.media.tumblr.com/259ba0108c5bb98704de916e49e3bb01/tumblr_o2stp5Imdx1uybisao1_500.jpg

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I'm just gonna admit this right here: I really like being naked!

If privacy wasn't a factor then HECK, YEAH, I'd wear as little as possible.

'Course, I'd want him to be naked, too...

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

http://56.media.tumblr.com/3826b99a93107611038b44bf18415bcc/tumblr_o1i4tbzmxh1sifsb9o1_500.jpg

Mmm... this is really working for me.

Her lips on his neck, his open mouth... can't help but wonder what she might be doing with her hands.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[cascadiabound]

http://56.media.tumblr.com/cafaad0c7c497e3a40c2a6849a0fbbf0/tumblr_nyywrsByJx1si1rqwo1_1280.jpg

this seems like the perfect place for this little reminder

these are things I strive for everyday.

 

[cascadiabound]

http://56.media.tumblr.com/8f6bcca13a4089059a20616ed39e90cc/tumblr_nxj8f7u7nD1ukd8jzo1_1280.jpg

 

[cascadiabound]

http://56.media.tumblr.com/2cad0e6cceb73740234aa4ba2b1126d7/tumblr_nxlpz82IK61sbc5zvo1_500.jpg

I have been able to lean in and relax against the firm presence of my man for over 30 years.
I know I am a lucky lucky lucky woman.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[cascadiabound]

http://56.media.tumblr.com/0a57629cb8931d36cdcbb9ae2709293d/tumblr_noeb6q16Nj1rl821mo1_1280.jpg

 

[cascadiabound]

I would SO agree with this...

And add also, that my storms are fewer, milder. I admit to having some quite bad emotional behaviour, including some 'tantrums' in my behaviour spectrum. Feeling fully loved and accepted for even the worst of my behaviour...which was not indulged but not walked away from, nor ridiculed, but clearly addressed then I was held tightly, and .....it's never happened again. Knowing love like that ....neither pandering nor half measured, it changed me.

I am not given to tantrums. I am not one to storm and rant. I do not like to fight. This is not the way I express passion in my life. Neither am I passive aggressive. I am a straight up, tell it like it is, pull no punches person. But in a real life... there are real storms. Things that are hard. Real conflicts with others, injustices and battles that must be waged; serious illness, death, wills and estate finances; threats of violence and actual violence. And through these real things that occur through decades of a real life...I have had a partner who I could trust to stand with me and hold me and be my rock. Be my sounding board, my confidant, my cheerleader and my support.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

http://56.media.tumblr.com/2cad0e6cceb73740234aa4ba2b1126d7/tumblr_nxlpz82IK61sbc5zvo1_500.jpg

I have been able to lean in and relax against the firm presence of my man for over 30 years.
I know I am a lucky lucky lucky woman.

I would SO agree with this...

And add also, that my storms are fewer, milder. I admit to having some quite bad emotional behaviour, including some 'tantrums' in my behaviour spectrum. Feeling fully loved and accepted for even the worst of my behaviour...which was not indulged but not walked away from, nor ridiculed, but clearly addressed then I was held tightly, and .....it's never happened again. Knowing love like that ....neither pandering nor half measured, it changed me.

Some days... it's hard for me to be on this thread. But I am so happy for what you ladies have. Truly.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[cascadiabound]

Yes, this is valuable too, but I have fought these alone, I could do it again. Other people have to. The biggest hurdle to fight is oneself, the protections we erect as a result of these kinds of 'storms', not the weather itself I think.....that either gets me or it won't. But how I react? That can be isolating.

Passive aggression I dislike, a lot, I'd rather just talk about something and agree to see things differently, but I will pull punches. They don't always need to be thrown I think.

"pull no punches" is a phrase I use often and have often been asked to explain what I mean when I use it.
I am not a physical fighter. But I will tell it straight. I will call a spade a spade. If you ask for my opinion ~ I will give it. Not in a cruel way, but in a truthful way. And I am as hard or harder on myself as I am on others. However, I do know when to hold my tongue. When it does not help to speak. When others can make my case better for me. When it is better to let a situation play out for a bit. So - that's me.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[cascadiabound]

Sometimes, while we are waiting for the person, the people who watch over us are friends, and family, and we can be people who make others know that not having found that person doesn't mean they are not valuable, in someone's thoughts, loveable.

Yes yes yes.
this is most certainly true

 

[txgent101]

What I have is his. Even if it's broken, or needs care. What he has is mine.

There are difficulties. It is him I choose to watch over me, not my family. I turn yo him, not them. But if I am in contact with someone, then so has he the choice to be. Inversely, I also respect that the primary important relationships are not 'in law/partner and family' but rather family and family, particularly parent and child. I am not able to travel to family functions and so on, which are often located in different countries from where we live, it's not important I go, but I do see the importance of him going. I watch over myself those times. There are times when things have been strained, and there has been distance between family ...I don't think that is ideal, even when I don't love the in law in question. My care and weight of importance is there because HE loves them and they love him, if there was not concern there would be no distance or stress. He has chosen in the past to stand between any unpleasantness and me. This makes it very easy for me to do what I feel is right, knowing he is there to watch over me, I can trust him, and make sure there is no feeling of 'torn' for him. I want, for example, him not to feel difficult, if his surviving parent is ill, but to know I am beside him in spirit even if my health means I cannot board a plane with him.

It's partnership.....it means facing things together. It might be this takes a while to do...personally, I have only once introduced a partner to my family ( no children) before a year, and it was the person I married. If I had (minor) children I would be as cautious.

Thank you for your perspective, it is helpful.

 

[cascadiabound]

Honey, if I could clone him I would. The world would be a better place.

Ditto.

It is not my intention to make anyone else's journey feel more difficult with my posts. And life is life. Things are not always easy. And there are things in my life and in Elle's that not a soul would I wish these hardships upon.
We each walk the path we are given. And choose the people we share it with.
Hugs.