someone to measure up?

[Sexyladykate]

Before I fall into the trap of indiscriminate whoredom and responding to all sorts of unsolicited pms, let me be clear about what I am and am not looking for. I do not want to find Prince Charming and fall in love, nor do I want to be a one night stand in your cheap hotel room. Ultimately, I want a sexual partner ... a man I can trust, who enjoys sex for what it is - a passionate connection that need not be explained or questioned.

You see, life is complicated. I am a mom to a fan-fucking-tastic kid and I don't see the point in dating only to expose him to men who will not be around either by their determination or mine. Oh and I am still technically married for the next year or so, so discretion is key. But all of that is my responsibility so that is the last you'll hear of it from me.

A girl has needs. Who can go a year without feeling wanted, desired and experiencing a little bit of passion? Let's keep it simple...if you can respect my emotional and personal boundaries while pushing my sexual ones, then I'd like to get to know you.

 

[ejredlady]

good luck in your search. I don't even have the restrictions you currently have, and can't find that one man who understands a lady has needs also. I am getting the feeling sex really is a game to men and either they want to latch on like a suckling pig and be in every aspect of your life or they truly are wham bam thank you ma'm.

 

[goodfella1114]

good luck in your search. I don't even have the restrictions you currently have, and can't find that one man who understands a lady has needs also. I am getting the feeling sex really is a game to men and either they want to latch on like a suckling pig and be in every aspect of your life or they truly are wham bam thank you ma'm.

Now that I have finished laughing I can type to respond, suckling pig I am certain that there are a few gents on Lit who fit the bill. Sadly I am not in your neck of the woods, as I do not suckle nor the wham bam thank you ma'am. Best of luck in your searches and thank you for the laugh, I needed that this afternoon!

 

[DonovanCrane]

Good afternoon, ladies. I won't bother speaking on behalf of my gender, as I'm pretty sure you're right about most of us. Personally, though, I find the "friends with benefits" concept most satisfactory. After all, without some level of connection between partners, the sex might as well be masturbation. I think it all goes much better when you can respond to one another's needs, and the subtle cues offered in the littlest sigh or groan, not to mention the importance of being able to interact when one person or the other isn't actually horny.

Of course, when you're actually looking for someone to meet and satisfy your needs in physical reality, your options become a lot more limited, and you should rightly be very, very picky. Given that I'm sure that I'm geographically distant from either one of you, this is not me offering myself as your personal sex toy; just offering an opinion.

I hope everything works out for both of you ladies.

 

[Sexyladykate]

Thank you! Here's to getting needs fulfilled without resorting to suckling pigs! Love it!
Good luck to you as well.

good luck in your search. I don't even have the restrictions you currently have, and can't find that one man who understands a lady has needs also. I am getting the feeling sex really is a game to men and either they want to latch on like a suckling pig and be in every aspect of your life or they truly are wham bam thank you ma'm.

 

[Bandant]

......

 

[Sam37]

Interesting idea. Too bad you're so far away.

 

[pleases32]

"Suckling pigs" are too needy and "wham bam, thank you ma'am" men are much more like little boys.



Sometimes, balance is the way to go.

good luck in your search. I don't even have the restrictions you currently have, and can't find that one man who understands a lady has needs also. I am getting the feeling sex really is a game to men and either they want to latch on like a suckling pig and be in every aspect of your life or they truly are wham bam thank you ma'm.

 

[TheLM]

Reverse mysogyny is fucking hilarious.

 

[ejredlady]

Glad I could amuse. I am certain you men understand how unattractive a woman who wraps herself around you and chokes the very life out of you becomes. I am amazed at the number of men who are ready to move in immediately and become my next dependant. It has been suggested I post what I really desire, so here goes:
A single man. A man who respects a woman's desire for both tenderness and control. A mature man who is self supporting in the manner he wishes to maintain. A man who is 5'10" tall or taller, clean in personal hygiene, no heavy drinkers, no smokers, no drug users. A man who is virile and strong in both his beliefs and his desires sexually. A man who understands the line between pleasure and pain. A man who understands the difference between 4" and 8". A man looking for more than a sex buddy and is open to a relationship bult on mutual desire, trust and common interests both sexually and socially. I am 58 years old. I have been married and divorced 2 times. Both husbands satisfied me sexually in their own way. Both husbands disappointed me in other aspects of our marriage. I am southern born and while I do not consider myself a racist, I am also not interested in black men. I am not interested in someone who thinks being dominant means degrading and humiliating their partner. My submission would b a gift to be treasured, not destroyed.

 

[HumbleAfrican]

Seen!

Glad I could amuse. I am certain you men understand how unattractive a woman who wraps herself around you and chokes the very life out of you becomes. I am amazed at the number of men who are ready to move in immediately and become my next dependant. It has been suggested I post what I really desire, so here goes:
A single man. A man who respects a woman's desire for both tenderness and control. A mature man who is self supporting in the manner he wishes to maintain. A man who is 5'10" tall or taller, clean in personal hygiene, no heavy drinkers, no smokers, no drug users. A man who is virile and strong in both his beliefs and his desires sexually. A man who understands the line between pleasure and pain. A man who understands the difference between 4" and 8". A man looking for more than a sex buddy and is open to a relationship bult on mutual desire, trust and common interests both sexually and socially. I am 58 years old. I have been married and divorced 2 times. Both husbands satisfied me sexually in their own way. Both husbands disappointed me in other aspects of our marriage. I am southern born and while I do not consider myself a racist, I am also not interested in black men. I am not interested in someone who thinks being dominant means degrading and humiliating their partner. My submission would b a gift to be treasured, not destroyed.

Would have put myself forward as a viable candidate but alas, I smoke weed all day er'day so that will obviously not please you. Oh and I'm black as well, just not my day is it.

 

[Sexyladykate]

Reverse mysogyny is fucking hilarious.

Hey! Not reverse misogeny at all. I happen to love men...Even the ones who have been not so great. They have all been in my life for a reason and taught me valuable lessons. It just so happens there are certain things I need and others that I don't right now. And it looks like ejred is very clear about what she desires as well, so respect that.

 

[Sexyladykate]

Would have put myself forward as a viable candidate but alas, I smoke weed all day er'day so that will obviously not please you. Oh and I'm black as well, just not my day is it.

But alas it is MY thread so you are more than welcome here.

 

[ratherabsurd1]

I hope you find what you seek

It would be nice to be in your neck of the woods

 

[pleases32]

The kind of choking you speak of is definitely not an enjoyable thing. Those next dependants you speak of are not real men. I like what you say at the end. There is a difference between being in control and being controlling. Good luck in your search! There are a few of us 'good one's' out there. You just have to throw out all of the garbage sometimes so as to appreciate that one true gem.

Glad I could amuse. I am certain you men understand how unattractive a woman who wraps herself around you and chokes the very life out of you becomes. I am amazed at the number of men who are ready to move in immediately and become my next dependant. It has been suggested I post what I really desire, so here goes:
A single man. A man who respects a woman's desire for both tenderness and control. A mature man who is self supporting in the manner he wishes to maintain. A man who is 5'10" tall or taller, clean in personal hygiene, no heavy drinkers, no smokers, no drug users. A man who is virile and strong in both his beliefs and his desires sexually. A man who understands the line between pleasure and pain. A man who understands the difference between 4" and 8". A man looking for more than a sex buddy and is open to a relationship bult on mutual desire, trust and common interests both sexually and socially. I am 58 years old. I have been married and divorced 2 times. Both husbands satisfied me sexually in their own way. Both husbands disappointed me in other aspects of our marriage. I am southern born and while I do not consider myself a racist, I am also not interested in black men. I am not interested in someone who thinks being dominant means degrading and humiliating their partner. My submission would b a gift to be treasured, not destroyed.

 

[ejredlady]

Would have put myself forward as a viable candidate but alas, I smoke weed all day er'day so that will obviously not please you. Oh and I'm black as well, just not my day is it.

that is just me, and this isn't my thread so post away...remember be nice.
i reserve my smoking for the evenings. I work and can't focus if I smoke.

 

[wantonmama]

It would be nice to be in your neck of the woods

Hi
I would thank you for your complimentary PM but your profile won't accept it!

 

[Sexyladykate]

that is just me, and this isn't my thread so post away...remember be nice.
i reserve my smoking for the evenings. I work and can't focus if I smoke.

...or naughty

 

[vibes]

...or naughty

... anything goes, basically

 

[dieseldaddy64]

...or naughty

Naughty is always good. 28/m here from Durham.

 

[Sexyladykate]

... anything goes, basically

Even bare asses, yes

 

[vibes]

Even bare asses, yes

Were you referring to anyone in particular?

 

[Sexyladykate]

Do you see any other bare bottoms around?

Were you referring to anyone in particular?

 

[eroticman61]

Do you see any other bare bottoms around?

what are you ladies opinions of men's bare asses on this forum?

kate, good luck in your search!

 

[vibes]

Do you see any other bare bottoms around?

No, I don't. Unfortunately though Europe might turn out too far away from NC