someone take a hammer to my head.....
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witcha
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I'm not going to be harsh..you seem to be confused as what you want....and pushing away people, who try to help..is a natural reaction...so don't worry...just think for a few days what do you REALLY want..what that cute English woman wants and then if you think it's needed ask for help..if not deal on your own...can't help a lot coz ultimately it's all your choice sweetie, can only offer tons of (((((((((((((warm,fluffy hugs))))))))))))))))))) to you
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Be assertive!
Being assertive has nothing to do with being a submissive, darlin. If you don't want to wash the car, tell her to do it herself etc.
However, in order to effectively be assertive and NOT a doormat, you might need to be able to organize yourself enough to avoid the sis feeling a need to dictate the plans. Beat her to the punch, so to speak.
Tell her what the plan is
If you think you are transferring a need to submit to your everyday interactions, you will still find a void in your life. There is no substitute, darlin.
Get tough!
Being assertive has nothing to do with being a submissive, darlin. If you don't want to wash the car, tell her to do it herself etc.
However, in order to effectively be assertive and NOT a doormat, you might need to be able to organize yourself enough to avoid the sis feeling a need to dictate the plans. Beat her to the punch, so to speak.
Tell her what the plan is
If you think you are transferring a need to submit to your everyday interactions, you will still find a void in your life. There is no substitute, darlin.
Get tough!CutieMouse
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FungiUg
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Gee, I can only offer advice based on the advice people have already offered. No fair!
One lil' thing I might mention: submission is by CHOICE. You CHOOSE who to submit to; being submissive doesn't mean you submit to EVERYONE.
So yep, don't be a doormat, be assertive, stick up for yourself, be the person you were meant to be. And then, when you are with the one you have chosen to submit to, you can turn into your inner gooey person.
One lil' thing I might mention: submission is by CHOICE. You CHOOSE who to submit to; being submissive doesn't mean you submit to EVERYONE.
So yep, don't be a doormat, be assertive, stick up for yourself, be the person you were meant to be. And then, when you are with the one you have chosen to submit to, you can turn into your inner gooey person.
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FungiUg said:Gee, I can only offer advice based on the advice people have already offered. No fair!
One lil' thing I might mention: submission is by CHOICE. You CHOOSE who to submit to; being submissive doesn't mean you submit to EVERYONE.
So yep, don't be a doormat, be assertive, stick up for yourself, be the person you were meant to be. And then, when you are with the one you have chosen to submit to, you can turn into your inner gooey person.
without knowing the question you've given the answer.there is an inner gooey person...just surrounded by spines and at the moment only my kids & my sis are reaching through them, they are my only outlet...and i need that. (her bossy moment was an act of compassoin from someone who knows me well enough to see what i need)
i guess it's just a case of finding the right man, with more patience than i'd have
....boy do i pity him xx
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Trust me, the "right man" will value you and treasure you, "warts and all". Otherwise he wouldn't be the right man.
For we Doms, there is a lot of reward in having a submissive. Don't think otherwise. You just have to accept that what we find rewarding is different to what you find rewarding. But the combination works well.
I know it's hard being alone when you have all these desires. Trust me on that one! It's the hardest thing to accept -- being by yourself in the hope that the right person will come along.
In the mean time, focus on all of the other parts of who you are. Enjoy your freedom, enjoy your family, your friends. Don't wait to experience life, but make your life a rich, rewarding place to be. That as much as anything else will attract people to you.
For we Doms, there is a lot of reward in having a submissive. Don't think otherwise. You just have to accept that what we find rewarding is different to what you find rewarding. But the combination works well.
I know it's hard being alone when you have all these desires. Trust me on that one! It's the hardest thing to accept -- being by yourself in the hope that the right person will come along.
In the mean time, focus on all of the other parts of who you are. Enjoy your freedom, enjoy your family, your friends. Don't wait to experience life, but make your life a rich, rewarding place to be. That as much as anything else will attract people to you.
