Someone Please Help!!!!!

[sexgod2979]

O.k. here it goes. I am 24 and have been dating this girl for 2 months. I have always had a little problem with premature ejaculation but have always been able to go for a long time after the first cum. Now with her I get so frustrated after cumming so early that I don't even want to do it again. So my question for anyone is, how can I last longer and please her. She said she is starting to worry about it and I like her too much to just give up. What can I do to make myself last? I think part of the problem is I get so worked up about it before we actually have sex that is all I am thinking about during sex. Any suggestions? I will take any and all.

 

[EJFan]

...What can I do to make myself last?

I think part of the problem is I get so worked up about it before we actually have sex that is all I am thinking about during sex. Any suggestions? I will take any and all.

you pretty much answered your own question.

like so many people have said (about any number of things) if you try not to think about purple elephants, the only thing you can think of is purple elephants. i think there are two things that have to happen here. first, you need to do what you're doing... stick it out together and the breakthrough moment will come soon enough. second, i think you need to find a way to keep the focus off the issue. i'm sure that's exactly what you're doing but, again, the purple elephant thing. maybe some sort of relaxation technique (meditation, yoga, etc.) would help you to refocus... not just in regard to this matter but in all facets of your life. if you can train your mind be in the moment and enjoy the togetherness (rather than thinking about whatever might be "wrong") you'll likely reach that breakthrough sooner.

fwiw, i find that general physical health goes a long way toward many sexual issues. PC exercises might help you more directly but anything you do to stay in shape relieves tension/stress and will likely enhance your sex life.

 

[erodream351]

xxxxx

 

[GWC]

Very good advice above, and I would like to add this. A little of this and a little of that go a long ways. Mix it up,,,, move from possession to to possession, with those little breaks helping you control yourself. Take a break from the mission and bring a little tease and foreplay back into the meal.

And, if worse cums to worse, when you feel the moment is upon you, have her, or you can, grab a handful of testies and pull gently. As they prepare to send their fluids, they pull up close to your body in a tightening manor, with a firm grasp and gentle pull, you do two things. Remove the desire to cum, and the ability at the same time.

 

[EJFan]

... Mix it up,,,, move from possession to to possession, ...

do you mean "position"???? or are we talking about football now?

 

[aymanmosstfa]

ther some kind of Exercise make you apple to hold you cum i will try to translate it to you .and you can think in another thing when you felt you will cum some thing get you anger it work ith me

 

[GWC]

do you mean "position"???? or are we talking about football now?

LOL One should never type b4 coffee

 

[EJFan]

LOL One should never type b4 coffee

i know that feeling all too well. coffee is THE liquid of the gods.

 

[KokopelliRises]

Hmmm...

The most common answer I have heard prescribed for your kind of problem is to masturbate beforehand. I have had no personal experience with this method, seeing as I am female, but I have heard that it helps a lot.

I have also heard that if you feel the urge to cum, grab behind (?) the head of your penis and squeeze firmly, but not painfully so and that will temporarily help.