Someone, please help me see the bright side of this

[estevie]

Ok, heres my problem...ok, not really a problem but I just don't feel good about this.

My husband is a builder, he's been doing some demolition work for the University. Well, because its a government job with prevailing wages...he needs a minority on his crew. Since I'm unemployed and the only minority he knows, I get to do it. Its great money for doing barely anything. My bad feeling is this...my husband and I don't get along that well for the 4 hours I see him at night...how am I supposed to spend all day with him without thinking of ways to murder him??? Someone, please help me see the bright side of this!

 

[lovetoread]

The money.

Think about that.

 

[Guest]

 

[estevie]

Re: Re: Someone, please help me see the bright side of this

Well I would hope he would treat you as an employee, with repscet and curtiousy...... Then, sleep your way to the top!!1 Demand a raise every time e pisses you off, If he refuses, Yell sexual harassment!!
Might be fun to screw with is head!

LOL, great idea...I feel better already!! Thanks!

 

[alexandraaah]

I just spent all day at work with people who have no job, no family, no home and untreated mental illness....and no friends at all. No one in a single day to say something nice or even civil to them.

One of my patient's who did have a job, was a law professor at the most prestigious university here, wife, kids....is now refusing medication, standing in the doorway talking about anything that flits through his mind, unshaven, disheveled, grizzly...no family, no job, no home, no support.

I guess on the flipside, things could always, always, always be worse.

 

[Wiggles]

Its great money for doing barely anything. ~ That is the bright side.

You don't have to do it if you don't want to. You can quit if he starts being an ass (or continues).

Who knows? Maybe you guys can bond through work?

 

[estevie]

The money.

Think about that.

It is really good money...more money than I could make doing what I know how to do...but ohhhh, the horror of spending every waking moment with him...I don't know if its worth it!

 

[patient1]

If it's demolition, doesn't that mean you get to bust stuff & get paid for it? Isn't that the perfect way to release frustration? Can't you like , spray paint a wall before you destroy it?


You could put words like "Fear"/"Guilt"/ "Procrastination" on it before you utterly destroy them.

Sounds like therapy to me

 

[CelestialBody]

Shivering

 

[erosman]

LOL

You get to work with and flirt with all the other guys on the job. And surely that is a better torture than a slow and painful death for him. Think: hot, sweaty, muscled, denim-assed men.

 

[estevie]

I just spent all day at work with people who have no job, no family, no home and untreated mental illness....and no friends at all. No one in a single day to say something nice or even civil to them.

One of my patient's who did have a job, was a law professor at the most prestigious university here, wife, kids....is now refusing medication, standing in the doorway talking about anything that flits through his mind, unshaven, disheveled, grizzly...no family, no job, no home, no support.

I guess on the flipside, things could always, always, always be worse.

Yes, I realize that things could definately be worse...thanks for making it sound so trivial.

 

[estevie]

Re: Shivering

Nepotism makes me edgy. I know he can't find anyone, but has he thought of registering a position with the University? Departments usually post job openings. Or try jobtrak or monstertrak?

I agree and I mentioned that to him...but since this job is only for a few weeks he says he doesn't want to do that.

 

[estevie]

Re: LOL

You get to work with and flirt with all the other guys on the job. And surely that is a better torture than a slow and painful death for him. Think: hot, sweaty, muscled, denim-assed men.

This would only work if he had any hotties on his crew! Well, that one guy...hmmmm

 

[koalabear]

Follow him around with a large hammer and an evil grin. Bet he stays away from you.

 

[estevie]

If it's demolition, doesn't that mean you get to bust stuff & get paid for it? Isn't that the perfect way to release frustration? Can't you like , spray paint a wall before you destroy it?


You could put words like "Fear"/"Guilt"/ "Procrastination" on it before you utterly destroy them.

Sounds like therapy to me

Ok, this sounds like a plan! Yes...a good plan!

 

[CelestialBody]

 

[estevie]

Follow him around with a large hammer and an evil grin. Bet he stays away from you.

LOL...and if I break a nail...god, is he in trouble!

 

[estevie]

If it's for at least six weeks, some kid could get an internship. He might not have to pay him. The kid would be getting college credit, just a thought.

No, it won't take that long. He is demoliting the old Bengals training locker room...should only take 2 or 3 weeks. I guess thats a plus, huh?

Btw, anyone want some old Bengal lockers...we'll have ohhhhh, 75 of them!

 

[koalabear]

No, it won't take that long. He is demoliting the old Bengals training locker room...should only take 2 or 3 weeks. I guess thats a plus, huh?

Btw, anyone want some old Bengal lockers...we'll have ohhhhh, 75 of them!

Sell them on line. Some sports nuts will buy them.

 

[estevie]

I already thought of that...just thought I'd give you suckers a try first!

 

[alexandraaah]

Yes, I realize that things could definately be worse...thanks for making it sound so trivial.

I'm sorry, I really didn't mean to trivialize your situation. I'm a firm believer that everyone's problems are serious, even in the absence of trauma.

I know we can't run around feeling blessed that something *not traumatic* is happening, even if it's uncomfortable or sad.

I just had a long day and I'm tired. I didn't really realize how that sounded until I came back.

 

[estevie]

Ya know what...I should apologize for taking it wrong...in the whole scheme of things...it is trivial!

No worries, sweetness!

 

[koalabear]

and just think! You get to fart,belch and scratch your ass, then go have a beer with the guys! Wow you got it made.

 

[christophe]

try doing the exact opposite of what you feel at the moment....kill him with kindness instead of a blunt object...it has been known to work in the past

 

[paganangel]

first off, sugar booger, if there's a problem in your marriage this could be the push you need to fix it. (at least i hope that's the way it goes.) you need to work on why udon't get along so well in the evenings to begin with. and ask yourself this, if u 2 don't get along in the evening y would he want to spend all day with u? only minority he knows? c'mon baby...thee's a reason. at the very least bring this to him, if only to tease him about it. (u like me. you wanna date me...)
and as for the i'm sorry to trivialize, i'm sorrry 4 taking it wrong love fest over there...last week my bosss pissed me off so bad i thought i'd have a nervous breakdown and in theprocesss throw him off the deck. suddenly i remembered a promise i made to myself on the 12 of sept. my problems are nothing. i'll never let the small stuff bother me again. i will always be thankfull. instantly i wasn't upset anymore.
ten minutes later i dropped a beam on his foot.

it'sthe little things tht make up life.