some thoughts

[muycurioso]

I know there has been a lot of posts about indentity and gay thoughts. My humble opinion is we all have some masculine and feminine thoughts in our brains no matter if you have a cock or a pussy. I go to college as a much older student, lets say I am the age of most of my professors. I go nuts looking at all the big soft tits bouncing around and round asses of the young (legal) females. But, I have a lot of gay/bi fantasies. Some wild ones. I do see a few young men I'd like to hook up with too. But, the fact is out in the world, I pretty much just dig females, when I am alone or looking at porn I am drawn to hotwives, bi MMF, traps, MM BJ, ect. Maybe when I am alone my female side gets stronger??? And with the hotwives, maybe what turns me on is access to cock and cum. Remember, I am not judging anyone, it is a free country and these are my thoughts.

 

[stickygirl]

There a big difference between talking the talk and walking it! As soon as you show the world your sexual orientation, you are judged very differently and for many people, the fear of being ostracised keeps their desires as just fantasies. I don't judge those people for fearing alienation: we've each got to work our what makes us happy so if that means compromising which sex we date, then that's fine too.

But everything's mash-up, with some people speaking out against gays, but hiring rent boys on the quiet; some being in hetero relationship but having an occasional fling with the same sex; or homosexual people policing their tribe and attacking anyone who even suggests they might be bisexual. Sex versus politics and power and pffft... people

 

[carln3346]

great thread topic - hope you get some good responses . . .
My own situation is that I've never judged, but believe sexual preference should be private. That being said, one should not be afraid to be open for fear of bias (if that's the right word). I just don't like it being used as a political stance or to get something you don't deserve. My wife is straight and that's cool. I have had bisexual desires (and some experience) for some time but have chosen to keep it to myself. I don't feel guilty at all - I just don't want to add drama to our lives. I enjoy the men that I get to connect with and keep it to ourselves.

 

[SissySalina]

Be who you want to be and what makes you feel right, Political Correctness is just a cop out expression that is over used. You are seldom going to change any minds by pushing your view on others. Everyone is different and thinks differently so remember that fact and move on.

This is a special opinion of a sissy.

 

[tristantrotsky]

A Manifesto

Be who you want to be and what makes you feel right, Political Correctness is just a cop out expression that is over used. You are seldom going to change any minds by pushing your view on others. Everyone is different and thinks differently so remember that fact and move on. This is a special opinion of a sissy.

Well said, Salina.
A Sissy has an absolute right to be and do whatever she decides upon.
Personally, I favour equal sexual opportunities... sucking sock or licking pussy as appropriate...

 

[muycurioso]

There a big difference between talking the talk and walking it! As soon as you show the world your sexual orientation, you are judged very differently and for many people, the fear of being ostracised keeps their desires as just fantasies. I don't judge those people for fearing alienation: we've each got to work our what makes us happy so if that means compromising which sex we date, then that's fine too.

But everything's mash-up, with some people speaking out against gays, but hiring rent boys on the quiet; some being in hetero relationship but having an occasional fling with the same sex; or homosexual people policing their tribe and attacking anyone who even suggests they might be bisexual. Sex versus politics and power and pffft... people

I already feel alienated and an outsider, for a very long time. and my sex fantasies/desires are pretty much mine.

 

[tristantrotsky]

Sending Love

I already feel alienated and an outsider, for a very long time. and my sex fantasies/desires are pretty much mine.

You are at home here, muycurioso.
We are here to support and care for each other.
There is nothing strange. You are neither alienated or an outsider in this company...

 

[stickygirl]

You are at home here, muycurioso.
We are here to support and care for each other.
There is nothing strange. You are neither alienated or an outsider in this company...

^^ seconded

 

[muycurioso]

thanks

You are at home here, muycurioso.
We are here to support and care for each other.
There is nothing strange. You are neither alienated or an outsider in this company...

I have been doomed since about high school to having none or very few friends.

 

[muycurioso]

thanks

^^ seconded

appriciate it

 

[tristantrotsky]

New Constellations

I have been doomed since about high school to having none or very few friends.

You have friends here. I was a misfit outsider too.
Regret over missed opportunities, the things you wanted to do, but failed to do because of social pressures or shyness or uncertainty, come back and haunt us.

 

[muycurioso]

I did miss a few cool chances

You have friends here. I was a misfit outsider too.
Regret over missed opportunities, the things you wanted to do, but failed to do because of social pressures or shyness or uncertainty, come back and haunt us.

for bi and other encounters with women

 

[Jander1]

great thread topic - hope you get some good responses . . .
My own situation is that I've never judged, but believe sexual preference should be private. That being said, one should not be afraid to be open for fear of bias (if that's the right word). I just don't like it being used as a political stance or to get something you don't deserve. My wife is straight and that's cool. I have had bisexual desires (and some experience) for some time but have chosen to keep it to myself. I don't feel guilty at all - I just don't want to add drama to our lives. I enjoy the men that I get to connect with and keep it to ourselves.

I'm in a similar situation with some experience also. My wife does know, but it hasn't been brought up for probably over a year now, and I haven't had any experiences in a few years now. I don't come out to most people as bi as I don't think it's everyone's business, and I'm very masculine most of the time. I just don't want to be labeled at all. Nice pic by the way..love it poking out of the undies like that

 

[yukonnights]

I know there has been a lot of posts about indentity and gay thoughts. My humble opinion is we all have some masculine and feminine thoughts in our brains no matter if you have a cock or a pussy. I go to college as a much older student, lets say I am the age of most of my professors. I go nuts looking at all the big soft tits bouncing around and round asses of the young (legal) females. But, I have a lot of gay/bi fantasies. Some wild ones. I do see a few young men I'd like to hook up with too. But, the fact is out in the world, I pretty much just dig females, when I am alone or looking at porn I am drawn to hotwives, bi MMF, traps, MM BJ, ect. Maybe when I am alone my female side gets stronger??? And with the hotwives, maybe what turns me on is access to cock and cum. Remember, I am not judging anyone, it is a free country and these are my thoughts.

Going to university as an older student can be an isolating experience. Try to recognize that as independent from your sexuality. You bring up your inner feminine. This prompts me to suggest that you do some reading on "gender fluidity". I don't think being bi or gay is per se gender fluidity. There are very masculine "all man" gay relationships, and any suggestion of it being fueled by a feminine personality trait would be rejected.

Just based on what you said, it's likely you're simply bisexual. You got lucky, be happy

 

[none2_none2]

...You bring up your inner feminine. This prompts me to suggest that you do some reading on "gender fluidity". I don't think being bi or gay is per se gender fluidity. There are very masculine "all man" gay relationships, and any suggestion of it being fueled by a feminine personality trait would be rejected....

I'm glad you made your comment. I had a hard time seeing much truth in this thread because of that. While I don't claim to be the butchest man in the room, I do not desire to be a woman. I know my partner doesn't either.

Personally,I think a lot of non-100%-gay men feel the need to heterosexually normalize their desires. Thus feeling the need for either themselves, and/or the penis-owning individuals they wish to get it on with to take on feminine traits so that it is less a male-on-male "abnormal" sex act/fantasy.

The only gender variant I have in my fantasies is that I wish two men could create life. It isn't so much of a way to feel less m2m "sinful", as it is a wish that m2m love could create life that lasts beyond my own life and that of my partner's.

I will always wish to be inside a man's body. I do NOT make out my partner to be a woman because of that desire. Rather, it is the closest way two men can be physically one. Sure I physically crave the sensations and the physicality of m2m sex, but way past that is the need for a man's love. It is that emotional/spiritual need that is both a source of happiness and also my Achilles' heal.

 

[Iwanttwo]

You are at home here, muycurioso.
We are here to support and care for each other.
There is nothing strange. You are neither alienated or an outsider in this company...

Thanks, tristantrotsky. I no longer pass up opportunity when I get the chance, but still keep my cock sucking secret, except for those I hook up with. Don’t want to be judged and it could mess up my life.

 

[youwant2]

I'm in a similar situation with some experience also. My wife does know, but it hasn't been brought up for probably over a year now, and I haven't had any experiences in a few years now. I don't come out to most people as bi as I don't think it's everyone's business, and I'm very masculine most of the time. I just don't want to be labeled at all. Nice pic by the way..love it poking out of the undies like that

I'm a lot similiar to you, and I agree it's no bodys business

 

[SissySalina]

I'm glad you made your comment. I had a hard time seeing much truth in this thread because of that. While I don't claim to be the butchest man in the room, I do not desire to be a woman. I know my partner doesn't either.

Personally,I think a lot of non-100%-gay men feel the need to heterosexually normalize their desires. Thus feeling the need for either themselves, and/or the penis-owning individuals they wish to get it on with to take on feminine traits so that it is less a male-on-male "abnormal" sex act/fantasy.

The only gender variant I have in my fantasies is that I wish two men could create life. It isn't so much of a way to feel less m2m "sinful", as it is a wish that m2m love could create life that lasts beyond my own life and that of my partner's.

I will always wish to be inside a man's body. I do NOT make out my partner to be a woman because of that desire. Rather, it is the closest way two men can be physically one. Sure I physically crave the sensations and the physicality of m2m sex, but way past that is the need for a man's love. It is that emotional/spiritual need that is both a source of happiness and also my Achilles' heal.

Sorry you feel that there is no truth in this thread, sissy sees a lot of truth here. Just because it does not fit what you think does not make it not truth, all have their own ideas and beliefs.
Listening to others is what makes a person better, just because you listen does not necessarily change who or what you are but it does enlighten you to the way others see things.
sissy pondered this for years and has learned to listen and that is why this sissy had to respond to your comment, sissy does not mean to demeanor or slight anyone, it is just an honest observation of this sissy.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

I know there has been a lot of posts about indentity and gay thoughts. My humble opinion is we all have some masculine and feminine thoughts in our brains no matter if you have a cock or a pussy. I go to college as a much older student, lets say I am the age of most of my professors. I go nuts looking at all the big soft tits bouncing around and round asses of the young (legal) females. But, I have a lot of gay/bi fantasies. Some wild ones. I do see a few young men I'd like to hook up with too. But, the fact is out in the world, I pretty much just dig females, when I am alone or looking at porn I am drawn to hotwives, bi MMF, traps, MM BJ, ect. Maybe when I am alone my female side gets stronger??? And with the hotwives, maybe what turns me on is access to cock and cum. Remember, I am not judging anyone, it is a free country and these are my thoughts.

:sexual opportunist:
one who makes the most use possible, with the available (legal) resources...

 

[Escierto]

People always get these two questions confused and entangled: who you are (gender identity) and who you are attracted to (sexual orientation).

I must admit that I myself sometimes jumble the two together. Especially because when I think of what makes me a man I always think of my intense attraction for women. Of course I could be a lesbian with an intense attraction for women so that in itself doesn’t make you a man.

Maybe I am just a really butch lesbian? I really don’t know what makes me think I am a man. Habit? Conditioning? I have no desire to wear feminine clothing or makeup but then plenty of women don’t want to wear feminine clothing or makeup. I was always an athlete and into sports but again, that in itself doesn’t make you a man.

When I had children I knew that I had found my true loves in them - a completely selfless love that surpassed anything else. Is that kind of love only reserved for mothers?

Maybe I am neither man nor woman. Just a person.

 

[muycurioso]

I am already alienated and alone

There a big difference between talking the talk and walking it! As soon as you show the world your sexual orientation, you are judged very differently and for many people, the fear of being ostracised keeps their desires as just fantasies. I don't judge those people for fearing alienation: we've each got to work our what makes us happy so if that means compromising which sex we date, then that's fine too.

But everything's mash-up, with some people speaking out against gays, but hiring rent boys on the quiet; some being in hetero relationship but having an occasional fling with the same sex; or homosexual people policing their tribe and attacking anyone who even suggests they might be bisexual. Sex versus politics and power and pffft... people

that is why for most of my life I kept my sex thoughts to myself. If I had a gf, I didn't want to run her off. I am now alone again at 52. Oh well.

 

[Escierto]

that is why for most of my life I kept my sex thoughts to myself. If I had a gf, I didn't want to run her off. I am now alone again at 52. Oh well.

It’s going to sound strange but you are in a perfect position. You have no entanglements with relationships that prevent you from exploring what it is that you want. You are free to explore.

 

[muycurioso]

It’s going to sound strange but you are in a perfect position. You have no entanglements with relationships that prevent you from exploring what it is that you want. You are free to explore.

that is true and my eyes and ears are open. I think people like me tend to shop late. I am, going to shop late prob Thur night (due to work-getting up early)

 

[mtsnowrider]

The world would be a much better place if everyone would just mind their own business

 

[justspitballing]

I know there has been a lot of posts about indentity and gay thoughts. My humble opinion is we all have some masculine and feminine thoughts in our brains no matter if you have a cock or a pussy. I go to college as a much older student, lets say I am the age of most of my professors. I go nuts looking at all the big soft tits bouncing around and round asses of the young (legal) females. But, I have a lot of gay/bi fantasies. Some wild ones. I do see a few young men I'd like to hook up with too. But, the fact is out in the world, I pretty much just dig females, when I am alone or looking at porn I am drawn to hotwives, bi MMF, traps, MM BJ, ect. Maybe when I am alone my female side gets stronger??? And with the hotwives, maybe what turns me on is access to cock and cum. Remember, I am not judging anyone, it is a free country and these are my thoughts.

Sounds like you are mistaking attraction for arousal. You are sexually attracted to women, but you can get aroused by men in porn, or the idea of sex with men. There is actually a MASSIVE difference between attraction and arousal. MASSIVE!

IE. I'm asexual, not sexually attracted to anyone, but I'm aroused by the idea of sex.

I often think sex would be a great idea, but I know it actually isn't for me because I'm not into people that way. Your mind and your, ummm, sexy parts, can find something very sexy, but the rest of you can be like Hell No! And that's fine!