Some guys! I have to vent.

[Touch_72]

Okay. I have to vent because I'm irate for her.

I'm sitting in a bar. A little while ago, I witness an incredibly loving and passionate gesture by a very attractive (young) woman. Her boyfriend or whoever he is was standing next to her. She was sitting on a bar stool. The way she ran her hand up has back to his shoulder and laid her head against his arm was so intimate... it said, "you are my comfort" in a gesture.

Not long after, she was head down on the bar, obviously on the way to comatose. What was he doing? Chatting with the bartender and drinking more.

This went on for a bit. I was thinking, "What a dick! She's obviously needing to go home." I waited. A little while later, they seem to leave.

I step outside. She's sitting with her head on her knees and he's chatting on the phone and smoking. Then he drags her back in the fucking bar so he can drink some more... spends a half hour inside with her head down on the bar the whole time like he's oblivious to the fact she's half comatose.

Then, he gives her a token, "Okay, hon. I'll get the car." Leaves. Pulls up.

We had to let her know he was outside in the car. He didn't even come in to walk her out.

Fucker! Dick!

I mean... seriously? An hour of oblivion to her need to go home?

 

[Disgustipated]

I really hope you're not banking on making money being an author. You write like shit.

 

[BotanyBoy]

She's a fucking moron........fuck her, that's her god damn problem.

Like the beaten wife who just refuses to do anything about it......hahahaha they deserve it.

 

[thør]

It's tough getting a quality rental.

 

[Touch_72]

I really hope you're not banking on making money being an author. You write like shit.

Typing on a phone that's not easy to type on and doing so after a few beers isn't representative, is it?

Interesting, though, that that's your comment in response.

 

[Touch_72]

She's a fucking moron........fuck her, that's her god damn problem.

Like the beaten wife who just refuses to do anything about it......hahahaha they deserve it.

Maybe. I don't know anything about their lives beyond what I saw. I can't say.

I just couldn't believe it and felt for her.

 

[Disgustipated]

Typing on a phone that's not easy to type on and doing so after a few beers isn't representative, is it?

Interesting, though, that that's your comment in response.

Yoda, you type like.

 

[phrodeau]

Typing on a phone that's not easy to type on and doing so after a few beers isn't representative, is it?

Interesting, though, that that's your comment in response.

I think you write very well compared to most of the bozos who post here, including Disgustipated.

A woman so deeply in love wouldn't need to drink so heavily. I think something else was going on with her, like maybe a roofie.

 

[Ishmael]

It's tough getting a quality rental.

*chuckle*

Ishmael

 

[patient1]

I take your point. I would have felt that way myself once upon a time.

As an older more cynical fellow, I recall a couple of dysfunctional relationships I've observed where one of the partners got passed out drunk or unconscious high every evening. For years. The other stood by their partner out of a sense of duty.

It's possible that the person to feel sorry for in this case is the guy, because he's tried everything and doesn't know what else to do anymore. He's hopeless and helpless.

I don't blame you for being upset at this apparent display of indifference.

Next time look for signs that it may have happened before, such as reactions of people they appear to know, possibly the bartender. Are they alarmed and concerned for the drunk person? Are they acting like they've seen it before?

 

[eyer]

Okay. I have to vent because I'm irate for her.

I'm sitting in a bar. A little while ago, I witness an incredibly loving and passionate gesture by a very attractive (young) woman. Her boyfriend or whoever he is was standing next to her. She was sitting on a bar stool. The way she ran her hand up has back to his shoulder and laid her head against his arm was so intimate... it said, "you are my comfort" in a gesture.

Not long after, she was head down on the bar, obviously on the way to comatose. What was he doing? Chatting with the bartender and drinking more.

This went on for a bit. I was thinking, "What a dick! She's obviously needing to go home." I waited. A little while later, they seem to leave.

I step outside. She's sitting with her head on her knees and he's chatting on the phone and smoking. Then he drags her back in the fucking bar so he can drink some more... spends a half hour inside with her head down on the bar the whole time like he's oblivious to the fact she's half comatose.

Then, he gives her a token, "Okay, hon. I'll get the car." Leaves. Pulls up.

We had to let her know he was outside in the car. He didn't even come in to walk her out.

Fucker! Dick!

I mean... seriously? An hour of oblivion to her need to go home?

Do all wannabe white knights wear such girly-man briefs?

She's a fucking moron........fuck her, that's her god damn problem.

Like the beaten wife who just refuses to do anything about it......hahahaha they deserve it.

That's beautiful, man...

...still not enough cajones to eat one, huh?

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

You saw a drunk person in a bar. Call Reuters.

 

[Ishmael]

I take your point. I would have felt that way myself once upon a time.

As an older more cynical fellow, I recall a couple of dysfunctional relationships I've observed where one of the partners got passed out drunk or unconscious high every evening. For years. The other stood by their partner out of a sense of duty.

It's possible that the person to feel sorry for in this case is the guy, because he's tried everything and doesn't know what else to do anymore. He's hopeless and helpless.

I don't blame you for being upset at this apparent display of indifference.

Next time look for signs that it may have happened before, such as reactions of people they appear to know, possibly the bartender. Are they alarmed and concerned for the drunk person? Are they acting like they've seen it before?

I hear ya, but to the OP I have these questions.

1. Did it ever occur to you that unless he was beating her ass, it's none of your business?

2. If you feel so incensed about the affair why didn't you do something about it at the time instead of bringing it here to illicit some sort of validation for your feelings as opposed to your lack of action?

3. Did it ever occur to you that the fact that she was head down on the Mahogany was the reason that he was less than attentive?

Some of the ugliest people I ever met in my life were quite attractive to look at.

Ishmael

 

[BotanyBoy]

Maybe. I don't know anything about their lives beyond what I saw. I can't say.

I do, she's a free american woman living in the US of A and of all people she chose that piece of shit......she made her bed, she can fuck in it.

I just couldn't believe it and felt for her.

Well quit being such a bitch......

 

[mamasota]

golden rule

The level of empathy toward our fellow man (woman in this case) has risen to a new low, shame!
Only people making any sort of attempt to salvage something humane are phrodeau and patient 1, bravo!

Touch, you can't save everybody, but your heart was (is) in the right place, and your briefs are fine....
just take them off, so I can see where you're really coming from

 

[Colonel Hogan]

It's tough getting a quality rental.

I tried.

I really, really tried not to laugh.

Damn you!

 

[dolf]

You're a good guy, touch. I'm glad people like you are keeping an eye on silly, young things. Hopefully age will teach her moderation and judgement before anything bad happens.

 

[CandiCame]

Yeah... he really shouldn't have driven. That's the only thing I can judge in that situation. I've been the one passed out drunk and the one with friends passed out drunk and that's the only thing I would have done differently in that situation. Get a goddamn designated driver or a cab or someshit. Some people can't handle their liquor- but if they're a goddamn adult and made the decision to drink, it doesn't become your job to coddle them just because you're in a perceived relationship- I say perceived because you could have totally misjudged body language. I'm a lightweight- sometimes you really will just put your head down in an attempt to sober up so you can drink more. It's not a sign that you want to leave. In fact, the last thing that you want is to be coddled like an infant when you made the adult decision to get shitfaced. You want to be able to make your own choices. And you're drunk. So when people try to help you it can be a fight, because you aren't thinking clearly. You don't know this chick. You don't know what kind of scene she would have caused.

Then, you take into account the person's perceived gender. Women- especially attractive women, get enough people fucking coddling them and treating them like children for reasons that I can't fucking understand. I have NEVER understood this, and I've had a lot of women tell me that they like me and value my friendship because I don't do that- don't "white knight" at them. So if you want to "take care" of her when you don't know her situation, don't know if she's just trying to sober up, you're just as likely to piss her off as you are to actually 'help'. Other people don't always need your help. Other people are not problems looking for solutions. They're complex people with their own interests, emotions, and baggage. Her demons might not play well with yours.

I'm not saying that you can't offer one "You ok, hon?" But after that, leave it be. She can drink until she passes out on the bar if she wants. Leave people the fuck alone.

 

[richard_daily]

Okay. I have to vent because I'm irate for her.

I'm sitting in a bar. A little while ago, I witness an incredibly loving and passionate gesture by a very attractive (young) woman. Her boyfriend or whoever he is was standing next to her. She was sitting on a bar stool. The way she ran her hand up has back to his shoulder and laid her head against his arm was so intimate... it said, "you are my comfort" in a gesture.

Not long after, she was head down on the bar, obviously on the way to comatose. What was he doing? Chatting with the bartender and drinking more.

This went on for a bit. I was thinking, "What a dick! She's obviously needing to go home." I waited. A little while later, they seem to leave.

I step outside. She's sitting with her head on her knees and he's chatting on the phone and smoking. Then he drags her back in the fucking bar so he can drink some more... spends a half hour inside with her head down on the bar the whole time like he's oblivious to the fact she's half comatose.

Then, he gives her a token, "Okay, hon. I'll get the car." Leaves. Pulls up.

We had to let her know he was outside in the car. He didn't even come in to walk her out.

Fucker! Dick!

I mean... seriously? An hour of oblivion to her need to go home?

Alcohol makes people do dumb things... like ignore their S.O., have terrible judgment: like driving drunk, call a racist like ishmale in the middle of the night, or post about a random woman simply because she was pretty and getting ignored.

Her value wasn't because she was pretty and young, which I think is why you're getting the white knight comment, and the bitter old crank comments about how "she deserved it".

It's funny how that simple line incests old crotchety drunk racists to speak about how they were scorned by young pretty women, thus transferring it onto their experiences with being that drunk asshole, and how the woman was an evil witch.

If you don't want to witness things like this on a regular basis, don't go to bars. If you don't want to see treatment like this of others, simply don't do it.

You're not going to fix the world by sitting around drinking, and women don't deserve good treatment because they're young and pretty, but because they're people.

 

[BotanyBoy]

The level of empathy toward our fellow man (woman in this case) has risen to a new low, shame!
Only people making any sort of attempt to salvage something humane are phrodeau and patient 1, bravo!

She's a free, independent woman living in the US of A.... 110% capable of making her own life choices, subject of NO MAN.

Empathy for what?????

Would you have empathy for me if I was a glutton for a gold digging skank's punishment??? Highly unlikely.....most would tell me to either man up and break it off, or stfu and quit whining. Why should this bitch be ANY different?

Either he really isn't that bad in her eyes or she doesn't care...either way, no one put a fucking gun to her god damn head, she can drop the zero and get a hero at will. Fuck her......if that is what she wants who are any of us to judge??

You're a good guy, touch. I'm glad people like you are keeping an eye on silly, young things. Hopefully age will teach her moderation and judgement before anything bad happens.

Oh yes defend the equal and independent woman, because she so fucking stupid she can't figure out the guy she's with is a total twat and walk away of her own accord...no...that would indicate she had an IQ greater than that of an ant.......she needs a white knight to look out for her. Dolf....you sexist piece of shit.

 

[Wings]

I don't think that word means what you think it means.

 

[BotanyBoy]

I don't think that word means what you think it means.

Yea I totally fucked that up...

I suppose the spirit?? of my query still stands though.


Why? Empathy for what? She voluntarily subjects herself to it....it's like feeling bad for the pain someone felt while getting a tattoo. Or some cuck b/c his wife treats him like shit....REALLY? They asked for it...

It's not like she was a victim of a freak accident or random tragedy....esp if this wasn't the first time.

I wouldn't feel any different for a guy who let's some scandalous hoe take him for a ride on the crazy train, drama class all the way.

 

[Wings]

Yea I totally fucked that up...

I suppose the spirit?? of my query still stands though.


Why? Empathy for what? She voluntarily subjects herself to it....it's like feeling bad for the pain someone felt while getting a tattoo. Or some cuck b/c his wife treats him like shit....REALLY? They asked for it...

It's not like she was a victim of a freak accident or random tragedy....esp if this wasn't the first time.

I wouldn't feel any different for a guy who let's some scandalous hoe take him for a ride on the crazy train, drama class all the way.

Not you! I meant Dick Daily, your post just got in between.

 

[BotanyBoy]

Not you! I meant Dick Daily, your post just got in between.

lol

You were still right though, I had "give empathy" ...should have been "have empathy for" so I changed it.

So ty anyhow

 

[Liar]

If I took time off to vent every time I saw someone being a bit of a dick, I wouldn't afford rent. Also, nobody gets dicked around that does not allow it to happen.