Some assistance/support would be welcome

[Dante25]

Well, hello to everyone i suppose

I signed up on this forum, precisely because i have some questions and i need some, let's say assistance about my situation.

So let's begin.

I am a 22 year old male, straight, with a more or less normal sex life. A few years ago (i was around 18-19) i found out that except women i am also attracted to transsexuals, sometimes even more than females. Though at first it was weird for me, i came to accept it and enjoy it, although i didn't sleep with a trans at that time, i had some great time with porn. Some months ago i thought about, well, since i like transsexuals, it's only fair that i like passive anal sex from them, or maybe oral. I admit those ideas aroused me so i went on to try it (with myself or with a transsexual, as feminine as possible, men turn me off). And here is the deal: Although when i imagine or when i watch trans porn i get aroused badly, in real action i turn off. I tried anal stimulation to myself, with fingers and other toys and i didnt feel any sort of pleasure or stimulation or arousal or anything. After a few weeks of trying, i started looking for a trans to help me out. But again i got the same results: while i very much enjoy transsexual porn and gets me off far easier than hetero porn, when i actually have sex with a trans..... i turn off. For the last several weeks i have been trying to figure out what's wrong and what's not but i ....got no idea to be honest. Does anyone know or have an idea how to help me out? I'd be really thankful.

 

[CJontherocks]

I don't know you, so it's not fair for me to say what's in your head. But I can give you some ideas to ponder.

Fantasies are fun. And it's okay to just have the fantasy. If it gets you off real nice, then it's a good fantasy... come back to that one now and again. If the reality doesn't get you off real nice, then leave it in fantasy land and have fun with it. The fantasy of sucking a cock for me is much nicer than the reality. Don't get me wrong... I enjoy it (oh yes I do I do). But there are things you don't deal with in fantasy land, like gag reflex and breathing and cum in your eyes. So maybe your experience didn't match your fantasy and it turned you off. You could a) keep playing with it and try different things to make it better/easier, or b) keep the fantasy, ditch the reality and cum in your own mouth.

I don't think there's anything wrong.

As far as the anal, I can tell you I didn't like it at first either. It hurt. But I experimented with myself to discover what did feel good, and discovered that if I do it right, I shoot a load across the room. If I do it wrong, I go limp. Again, you gotta find what feels good. Try to find that spot on your prostate that feels so very good. Oh, so very good. But maybe anal just doesn't do it for you, and you can be okay with that.

I don't think there's anything wrong.

Lastly, you might consider examining what taboos and paradigms and other such cobwebs are embedded in your psyche that might be... well, cock-blocking you. For example, I never liked the idea of kissing a man until I took several baby steps toward accepting my sexuality in my own mind. Once I came to terms with that, the rest was much easier. The first guy who kissed me almost made me limp. The last guy who kissed me knew he'd been kissed back by a guy who meant it... and liked it.

Anyway, some things to think about... hope my ideas can help you discover the key to your erotic satisfaction.

-- CJ