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Dear Posters,
i can relate to Miles since he too is a phag, but I agree with PC. I too felt like i would never live a "normal" life. I was molested by an older boy when I was five. Since then i had felt that sexual experiences with the same sex were normal. THis was based upon my first experience being of same sex nature. Because it was an issue undiscussed in my home, i remained curious of what further sexual experiences would feel like. My Christian background and desire to live a Chritian lifestyle kept me from experimenting, so i turned to pornography to satisfy my curiousity. This was safe and no one had to know. It continued to get worse and with every pornographic addiction, there is never any satisfaction. I was still interested in girls and dated often. I was very popular in highschool and played soccer, no one would expect this under normal stereotypes. I suspect that there are far more strugglers out there than we know. BUt when i got to college, i felt the need to talk to gay men just to see if i thought like them. This eventually led to two gay experiences that i ran from. But I am still a virgin. THey scared me. I still was curious however, and continued to be until i was forced to admit that i was actively seeking this lifestyle. Then I had to decide whether or not I wanted to do that. At this point i was in college studying to be a minister and dating a wonderful girl. This was the hardest experience of my life, but i told my girlfriend ! Heheh I felt that I loved her and owed it to her to know. WE were planning on getting engaged soon. She was shocked. SHe was angry. She cried for like 3 hours or something and i felt so ashamed. But through lots of prayer and time together over the next few weeks, we worked things out and through it all God took the pain away, the anger away (in both of us) and took away the desire and confusion! I am a new man, and in love! I have been able to discuss this with my father who is a minister, and to move past these things that I allowed to plauge me for so long. GOd broke the pornographic addiction as well. My fiancee and i are planning our wedding now and we are going into this marriage completely honest with each other. God honors honesty.
Miles, my advice is decide for yerself. Even if it isn't sexual at this time. If you do then you have made a big step! The next step is to admit that you are plauged by this, that you may even like it. But if you are a chritian, or desire to honor you wife and GOd, then you will ask God to do a miracle, you will ask him to heal you of this. It will take you being honest ! This will be the hardest thing you will ever have to do, believe me I know! But if Jesus our lord truly committed to you, then he will learn to love you. It will even make yer faith in judaism stronger. You think that it is impossible, but God is a miracle worker and desires that we give our lives to him no matter how messed up they are. He will work things out. Call out to him Miles. I had to get on my face and cry, But God lifted me up and restored me and now I know that He is able to fix any situation if we will only ask. God bless you Miles, you are in my prayers.
Philippians 4:13 reads, " I can do all things through Christ who gives me stregnth."
"If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us of our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness." heeeeeeeee heeeeeeeeee heeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
i can relate to Miles since he too is a phag, but I agree with PC. I too felt like i would never live a "normal" life. I was molested by an older boy when I was five. Since then i had felt that sexual experiences with the same sex were normal. THis was based upon my first experience being of same sex nature. Because it was an issue undiscussed in my home, i remained curious of what further sexual experiences would feel like. My Christian background and desire to live a Chritian lifestyle kept me from experimenting, so i turned to pornography to satisfy my curiousity. This was safe and no one had to know. It continued to get worse and with every pornographic addiction, there is never any satisfaction. I was still interested in girls and dated often. I was very popular in highschool and played soccer, no one would expect this under normal stereotypes. I suspect that there are far more strugglers out there than we know. BUt when i got to college, i felt the need to talk to gay men just to see if i thought like them. This eventually led to two gay experiences that i ran from. But I am still a virgin. THey scared me. I still was curious however, and continued to be until i was forced to admit that i was actively seeking this lifestyle. Then I had to decide whether or not I wanted to do that. At this point i was in college studying to be a minister and dating a wonderful girl. This was the hardest experience of my life, but i told my girlfriend ! Heheh I felt that I loved her and owed it to her to know. WE were planning on getting engaged soon. She was shocked. SHe was angry. She cried for like 3 hours or something and i felt so ashamed. But through lots of prayer and time together over the next few weeks, we worked things out and through it all God took the pain away, the anger away (in both of us) and took away the desire and confusion! I am a new man, and in love! I have been able to discuss this with my father who is a minister, and to move past these things that I allowed to plauge me for so long. GOd broke the pornographic addiction as well. My fiancee and i are planning our wedding now and we are going into this marriage completely honest with each other. God honors honesty.
Miles, my advice is decide for yerself. Even if it isn't sexual at this time. If you do then you have made a big step! The next step is to admit that you are plauged by this, that you may even like it. But if you are a chritian, or desire to honor you wife and GOd, then you will ask God to do a miracle, you will ask him to heal you of this. It will take you being honest ! This will be the hardest thing you will ever have to do, believe me I know! But if Jesus our lord truly committed to you, then he will learn to love you. It will even make yer faith in judaism stronger. You think that it is impossible, but God is a miracle worker and desires that we give our lives to him no matter how messed up they are. He will work things out. Call out to him Miles. I had to get on my face and cry, But God lifted me up and restored me and now I know that He is able to fix any situation if we will only ask. God bless you Miles, you are in my prayers.
Philippians 4:13 reads, " I can do all things through Christ who gives me stregnth."
"If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us of our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness." heeeeeeeee heeeeeeeeee heeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
