So Why the Secrecy?

[Cheyenne]

I'm sorry, but that is what I thought.

You accuse me of the most cruel treatment of another Lit member--behaviour I have never indulged in on this board--and that is the sum total of your apology?

You should be ashamed of yourself. Ashamed. [/B]

See reply to MP above. I don't know you or your posting history here- I don't read posts from everyone on the board if they aren't in a thread I'm interested in. You haven't been here long enough to build a "personality" for yourself in my memory banks. So, I don't really know what behaviour you have or haven't indulged in on this board.

I already explained I thought your "don't be silly" post was meant to be taken literally as a taunt. You now have said you didn't do that and I believe you. But I'm not "ashamed" that I thought you did.

 

[DarlingBri]

Having had it explained to you, what you should be ashamed of is your lack of apology for a) saying a very unkind thing about me, even though you were mistaken and b) assuming something about me, even though you were again mistaken.

Presumably, if you step on someone's foot in a queue, you DO apologise, even though you have didn't intend to hurt them.

Perhaps not.

 

[Cheyenne]

Having had it explained to you, what you should be ashamed of is your lack of apology for a) saying a very unkind thing about me, even though you were mistaken and b) assuming something about me, even though you were again mistaken.

Presumably, if you step on someone's foot in a queue, you DO apologise, even though you have didn't intend to hurt them.

Perhaps not.

Ah, NOW I get it. Okay, for that I will apologize. I'm sorry. Do I now believe you would be cruel on purpose? Nope! You seem like a decent enough person after explaining.

I still disagree with your initial post on the other thread though. You apologized to me, and I accepted there. But it doesn't matter that I DID happen to have the experience you required to validate my posts. The other people who posted their opinions and who may not have the same experience also have the right to their opinions. Ambro should be allowed to say "poor wife," even if he has never been through the same situation (and I have no clue if he has or not.) Our personal history shouldn't be needed to validate an opinion. Does that make sense? That's the point I've been trying to get across.

 

[DarlingBri]

Apology accepted

Cheyenne, I agree that not every post has to come out of experience or that experience has to even be shared. You can say whatever you like for whatever reason. My personal view on that topic is that a guy takes up with another woman, and we automatically think he's a bastard and feel pity for his wife. I happen to feel that's a mistake.

But we can agree to disagree on this one.

 

[Cheyenne]

Cheyenne, I agree that not every post has to come out of experience or that experience has to even be shared. You can say whatever you like for whatever reason. My personal view on that topic is that a guy takes up with another woman, and we automatically think he's a bastard and feel pity for his wife. I happen to feel that's a mistake.

But we can agree to disagree on this one.

Nope, we actually agree on that. If you go back and look at the thread, I asked a lot of questions vs. made a lot of statements. We've had long discussions on the board previously about definitions of "cheating" when the "cheating" involved only cybering, and no RL contact (do a search and you'll find several threads, one or two started by me). Opinion here is split in that regard, and that's what I tried to bring up. RL vs. cyberworld. I have my own opinion, but we never got that far into the discussion in the thread.

The only thing I disagreed with you on was the comment about "then you can come back here and speak from experience." To me, that said experience was necessary to validate an opinion- as in "come back when you're qualified with the proper experience, but your opinion doesn't matter in the meantime." I'm glad that isn't what you meant.

 

[Cheyenne]

But then when you spend as much time being as sanctimonious as you do, I guess the crow tastes bitterer.

Sanctimonious?
Hee hee, that's actually kind of funny coming from you.

Did I forget some other email we've had besides the thank you note to you and your email in reply?

Yep.

MP [/B]

Hmmm... searched my email and I don't see anything. Must not have been memorable, whatever it was. Sorry, I only remember the "thank you" note email, as I said.

 

[Svedish_Chef]

I prefer to keep all discussions on the board and out of email. (The most you'll get from me in email as a response to any post on the bb is a "thank you." Unless you're male and I want to get to know you better..... )

So whens mine coming?

 

[BrainyBeauty]

Bri, hope you remember to come back this time and see what I wrote!

that BrainyBeauty said such *lovely* things about me AND I MISSED THEM!
Makes mental note: I must revist the threads I've posted in. People might say ego boosting things!!
I shall now lay offerings on the Alter of BrainyBeauty. What's your favourite kind of chocolate, woman? I need to know what to add to the bubble bath, champagne and flowers.

Geez, I go away for a few days and all hell breaks loose!

DarlingBri, I was beginning to wonder if my breath smelled bad or I had unspeakably horrendous body odor. I couldn't imagine why you hadn't responded to my first post to this thread! LOL But, now that I have sifted through all this mess, I see the cause.

I am not a chocolate snob. I will eat any kind. My personal philosophy in life- and it will probably be my epitaph- is that dessert isn't dessert unless it is chocolate. I will eat anything from a 99 cent snickers bar to the finest hand dipped $120/pound Swiss chocolate. But, really, if you and Cheyenne and MP all agree to stop this silly nonsensical fighting, I will be happy enough. You are 3 of my fave posters and I hate the thought of you getting upset with each other.

Anyway, I am glad to be back. Although my Lit withdrawal wasn't as painful as I had expected it to be!

 

[DarlingBri]

LOL

We've stopped

I take it you don't want chocolate, then? Hmmmm???

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