So Why the Secrecy?

[Cheyenne]

Re: I can NOT believe

Makes mental note: I must revist the threads I've posted in. People might say ego boosting things!!

Or not. They could also be pointing out the error of your "logic"- you just never know.

 

[DarlingBri]

Don't be silly...

I'll just pretend I haven't read those

 

[Cheyenne]

Re: Don't be silly...

I'll just pretend I haven't read those

That's what quite a few people do when they realize they've been wrong. Easier than admitting it in public.

 

[DarlingBri]

I just went back and read all our threads, and offered an apology in the appropriate one.

I had actually truly missed that one.

 

[FlamingoBlue]

Hi, my real name is Bob, and.....

I"m pretty sure of that because it says so on my bowling shirt, right above my pocket where I keep my Pall Mall"s.

I'm married to Mary and have 3 children, Eddie, Freddie and Teddy. We have a dog named Spot and a cat named Puff. And, yes, we live in a house with a smiley face on it, in Souix City, Iowa. We are devout Christians but can not help ourselves from posting on this site and reading the "dirty" stories. We thought that we were going to go to Hell, but since we are already there, living in Iowa and all, we just don't give a fuck anymore. (OMG Mary, I said fuck. I can't believe it)!!

Okay, are you happy, now?? My little secret is out. I just hope that I do not get razzed too much by those mean people on the BB. I just couldn't take it. (sigh).

BTW, sweetie, there must be 50.000 or so threads on this BB where people tell lots of stuff about themselves, me included. If you want to know where they are, just ask Nitelight. The guy knows everything.

blue

 

[Earthmuffin]

'cuz I can shut the 'puter off and re-enter real life...

two reasons: munchykin #1 and munchykin #2.

 

[DarlingBri]

OK, one more time for the court reporter...

I'm not complaining that people don't share enough of themselves here. I appreciate that it's not true of everyone. I was merely asking those that *do* "hide" *why* they hide. That's all.

It was simple curiosity

 

[FlamingoBlue]

Most people hide becuase they are....

in fear of what may happen if they expose themselves. As for me, if it got out that I was truly as nuts as I really am, I would have even fewer clients than I have now.

blue

 

[Juspar Emvan]

I don't hide - nothing to lose. I expect it's all about perceived risks of being identified. Not the least of which are embarassment and villification. Of course in most circles you wouldn't actually be tried and charged over being part of a community with an erotic basis. But perception is reality.

 

[FlamingoBlue]

Ah, Juspar....

You have such a wonderful way with words. I second your emotion.

blue

 

[Madame Pandora]

Re: Re: Don't be silly...

I don't understand why it doesn't let you delete double posts.

MP

[Edited by Madame Pandora on 04-07-2001 at 05:10 PM]

 

[Madame Pandora]

Re: Re: Re: Don't be silly...

That's what quite a few people do when they realize they've been wrong. Easier than admitting it in public.

Other people just walk away from a public debate which can't go any further because one or both sides is based in opinion and therefore cannot be a matter of "winning" or "losing." Silence is not an admission of being “wrong” all the time. Maybe times it’s just that there is nothing left to say. Then again, there are those who beat dead horses. What can you do?

Other people may apologize or thank others in email or in chat off-board. I know it's shocking, but some people handle personal things off a public forum. Go figure.

Most people who have the integrity to have a good debate also have the gumdrops to apologize without a den mother instructing them to.

MP

 

[Laurel]

Re: Re: Re: Don't be silly...

I don't understand why it doesn't let you delete double posts.

MP

[Edited by Madame Pandora on 04-07-2001 at 05:10 PM]

We used to allow people to delete their own posts, but it was abused. Someone who'd started a thread with 50-odd responses decided to delete their post. When you delete the starting post on a thread, it deletes the thread. So we removed that feature. Always one bad apple spoiling the fun for everyone...

 

[Cheyenne]

That's what quite a few people do when they realize they've been wrong. Easier than admitting it in public.

Most people who have the integrity to have a good debate also have the gumdrops to apologize without a den mother instructing them to.

I know you won't believe it, since you seem to think everything here is always about you (hey, there's a song like that, isn't there?) but my post had nothing to do with you. It had to do with a situation that WAS based in fact, not opinion. And the offered apology by Bri was accepted.

Now if Laurel, our den mother, wants to instruct us to be polite, I would at least listen to her.

 

[Cheyenne]

We used to allow people to delete their own posts, but it was abused. Someone who'd started a thread with 50-odd responses decided to delete their post. When you delete the starting post on a thread, it deletes the thread. So we removed that feature. Always one bad apple spoiling the fun for everyone...

And thank God again that that particular snake is gone for good! But, if you put the feature back, I'm sure it wouldn't be long before some troll found it.

 

[DarlingBri]

That's what quite a few people do when they realize they've been wrong. Easier than admitting it in public.

Most people who have the integrity to have a good debate also have the gumdrops to apologize without a den mother instructing them to.

I know you won't believe it, since you seem to think everything here is always about you (hey, there's a song like that, isn't there?) but my post had nothing to do with you. It had to do with a situation that WAS based in fact, not opinion. And the offered apology by Bri was accepted.

Now if Laurel, our den mother, wants to instruct us to be polite, I would at least listen to her.

For the record: MP did know your issue was over me. I didn't have a problem apologising to you for upsetting you. It is rarely my intention to upset a person. If that is an unfortunate byproduct of any of my posts, I will always apologise for the effect.

I do not, however, think my post was "wrong." In my opinion, if you're going to ride someone's ass with a moralistic judgement, you owe them the courtesy of telling them why.

I think MP's point was merely that if I'd realised I'd upset you, I would have made ammends quickly. You could have emailed me; this thread diversion was not necessary, nor was your catty remark so clearly aimed at me.

I've never been unwilling to say I was wrong.

[Edited by DarlingBri on 04-08-2001 at 06:43 AM]

 

[Cheyenne]

I think MP's point was merely that if I'd realised I'd upset you, I would have made ammends quickly. You could have emailed me; this thread diversion was not necessary, nor was your catty remark so clearly aimed at me.

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=28572

I do not take discussions from the board into email. Many board members, me included, hate getting such email with a passion. If you criticize me publicly, I respond publicly. Always. I prefer to keep all discussions on the board and out of email. (The most you'll get from me in email as a response to any post on the bb is a "thank you." Unless you're male and I want to get to know you better..... )

I took your "don't be silly" post on this thread as taunting that you ignored responding to other threads on purpose by pretending to just not read them. I took you literally and responded accordingly with what you consider to be a catty remark. Understand that I thought I was responding to a catty remark by you in the first place. It never crossed my mind that you really do post and then not go back to a thread to read responses.

And although I responded to your post on the other thread about not expressing an opinion unless you have the experience to address the issue, in general, I don't believe I owe anyone an explanation as to why I have the opinions I do. My personal experience and history is mine- I don't always choose to share it on the bb.

[Edited by Cheyenne on 04-08-2001 at 07:28 AM]

 

[DarlingBri]

You thought I was taunting you? You thought I had read your post about what is OBVIOUSLY a painful situation and taunted you about it?

I'm so shocked, appalled, hurt and outraged, I don't even know what to post.

 

[Cheyenne]

You thought I was taunting you? You thought I had read your post about what is OBVIOUSLY a painful situation and taunted you about it?

I'm so shocked, appalled, hurt and outraged, I don't even know what to post.

I'm sorry, but that is what I thought. I took your post here literally as a direct response to me. As I said, it never crossed my mind that someone would post to a thread and not go back to read the replies later in the thread. I must really be more addicted to this place than I thought- I always read all posts in every thread I've posted to, all the way to the end.

[Edited by Cheyenne on 04-08-2001 at 08:31 AM]

 

[Madame Pandora]

So, does this mean I'm not vain? That’s okay, Cheyenne *I* don’t need an apology for your PUBLIC assumption.

Cheyenne, it's easy to think we all go back and check threads we've posted it. It's easy to think we magically know when someone's talking about US or things we've said and taken it out of context. The board is here 24-7. I don't think ANY of us can catch everything.

I have never seen DarlingBri post ANYTHING that had an intentional emotional slant. *I* will go for the throat if properly motivated. That's not DarlingBri's style.

Along with all your opinions you might consider giving the benefit of the doubt based upon someone's pervious history.

Oh - and the not sending or responding to email thing is a bald-faced lie. I've both sent and gotten stuff from you that was of a private nature.

Some people PREFER to handle personal issues - like apologies and explanations in PRIVATE. Not everyone wants to air dirty laundry out on the BB. Some of us PREFER to keep it private if possible. Not everyone lets us do that, but oh well.

You may do things your way and that is certainly your right. But it's not the only way.

MP

 

[DarlingBri]

I'm sorry, but that is what I thought.[/B]

You accuse me of the most cruel treatment of another Lit member--behaviour I have never indulged in on this board--and that is the sum total of your apology?

You should be ashamed of yourself. Ashamed.

 

[SweetNick]

Can't we all just get along?

 

[Cheyenne]

So, does this mean I'm not vain? That’s okay, Cheyenne *I* don’t need an apology for your PUBLIC assumption.

Sorry, no apology as that is still my opinion of you. Right or wrong, I do think you are vain.

I have never seen DarlingBri post ANYTHING that had an intentional emotional slant. *I* will go for the throat if properly motivated. That's not DarlingBri's style.

Along with all your opinions you might consider giving the benefit of the doubt based upon someone's pervious history.[/B]

Good point. I didn't know her well enough to know her history. That's why I took her posts literally. The only "previous history" I had in my head at the time was her comments about me on the other thread criticizing me for giving an opinion. "That" person I could believe would make the taunt.

Oh - and the not sending or responding to email thing is a bald-faced lie. I've both sent and gotten stuff from you that was of a private nature. [/B]

??? This is what I really said:

Originally posted by Cheyenne
"I prefer to keep all discussions on the board and out of email. (The most you'll get from me in email as a response to any post on the bb is a "thank you." Unless you're male and I want to get to know you better..... )" [/B]

The only email interaction I've had with you is that I sent you a thank you note for your post defending fat people from discrimination in a thread started by KM about a customer who came through her checkout line at work. Your post there got an emotional response from me and I told you so. As I said above, I may send a "thank you" in email for some postings on the bb. You got one of those and you answered. So, no "bald- face lie" there. Did I forget some other email we've had besides the thank you note to you and your email in reply?

 

[DarlingBri]

Learn to count

The only "previous history" I had in my head at the time was her comments about me on the other thread criticizing me for giving an opinion. "That" person I could believe would make the taunt.

Four people posted in the thread before you did.

My comment was aimed at all of them. It was NOT specifically intended for you. My apologies were.

 

[Madame Pandora]

Sorry, no apology as that is still my opinion of you. Right or wrong, I do think you are vain.

[/i]
Yes, but you were WRONG in your assumption that I thought your post was about me. That wasn't an opinon. That was an assumption on your part.

I am vain. Eveyone is on different levels. Some more than others. I don't want, need, or care for your apology. But I find it interesting that you go after people who are wrong and demand apolgies from them and then shuffle it off when you're wrong. But then when you spend as much time being as sanctimonious as you do, I guess the crow tastes bitterer.

Did I forget some other email we've had besides the thank you note to you and your email in reply?

Yep.

MP